I wish! No, alas, I am naught but a poor student. However, as soon as I get a decent job I'll be buying that Stingray and giving you a callshootthebandit said:
How do you react to being hit on/checked out?
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For a 1968? Care for a threesome... bro, yes or yes?San Martin said:I wish! No, alas, I am naught but a poor student. However, as soon as I get a decent job I'll be buying that Stingray and giving you a callshootthebandit said:
OT: I can be very subtle or over the top funny when a girl shows interest in me, realistically though I'm dying inside wondering how the hell I'm not blushing/leaking blood from my body when I talk to a cute girl. I used to show my shyness A LOT as an angsty young teen in jr high but over the years I developed the self-confidence thats borderline lovable and egotistical (the sarcastically good kind)
buuuuuut unfortunately a lot of the girls that had even the slightest bit of interest in me ended up just being really good friends.
A curse? Nah, i'm not interested in a relationship atm anyways. I'm 18, and while I'd really enjoy the company of another, enjoying some independence for a bit feels just as rewarding. And I do enjoy my new friends calling me cute.
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Wow, what a dick. I wouldn't worry about him. As for me, I can be pretty oblivious, so I don't realize I'm being hit on until after the fact, usually. Last time I remember being hit on was when a cute asian cashier kept talking to me, and I thought to myself "the staff here is really friendly." Anyway, I remember my best friends sister hit on me for a while, and while I liked her, I didn't like her that way, so I politely rejected her advances. I still consider her a friend, and I was flattered by her interest. I've been on the receiving end of snobbery though, and I can honestly remember being relieved after the initial sting wore off, as those individuals always ended being all around terrible people the more I got to know them afterwards.Miyenne said:
You know...I don't think i am all that good looking but everyone else, even dudes my own age say I am pretty well featured. It's because that I don't acknowledge my own physical appearance that most of the time, when I am getting checked out (which is apparently alot according to my peers) I am completely and utterly clueless on the matter. I just don't worry about it to be quite honest. But there have been some situations where it was pretty clear when a women was either flirting with me or just sizing me up and those are the moments when my social weaknesses come into play.
Now...I can talk to women, skinny or fat, bitchy or nice....without a problem in the world. Comes from living in a family where I am outnumbered by a vast amount of females....But if I think your flirting with me...if I think you are taking an interest in me...Well...I don't know what happens, a sort of switch turns on and I'll start panicking as If I don't know what to do with myself. My voice starts stuttering, I start acting fidgety...and everything goes to all hell. I'm guessing it has something to do with the fight or flight response and generally I take the flight option, often avoiding contact with that person from there on out.
Now I do have Social Anxiety Disorder, so the things I described above could very well be that coming into play. When faced with a situation that I do not know how to deal with, my first instinct is to back the hell away and hope that I never have to deal with it ever again.
Now...I can talk to women, skinny or fat, bitchy or nice....without a problem in the world. Comes from living in a family where I am outnumbered by a vast amount of females....But if I think your flirting with me...if I think you are taking an interest in me...Well...I don't know what happens, a sort of switch turns on and I'll start panicking as If I don't know what to do with myself. My voice starts stuttering, I start acting fidgety...and everything goes to all hell. I'm guessing it has something to do with the fight or flight response and generally I take the flight option, often avoiding contact with that person from there on out.
Now I do have Social Anxiety Disorder, so the things I described above could very well be that coming into play. When faced with a situation that I do not know how to deal with, my first instinct is to back the hell away and hope that I never have to deal with it ever again.
Depends on the context. I could be either a little unnerved and/or extremely flattered, regardless of whether the feelings are mutual.
Eh, it depends what the situation is. If I'm a bit drunk I'm actually capable of responding in a charming and appropriate manner, and if I'm sober it's a bit more hit and miss. Either way I might just miss that they were hitting on me at all though. When I'm drunk my ridiculous dancing and general hopelessness has a perplexing charm to some girls for some reason and their drunkenness helps, but I'm a bit more awkward when I'm sober. I'll try and be nice though, even if I don't find them attractive- if I'm drunk I might be more of a prick about it though.
It's not something that happens particularly often, but it does happen more than it used to; taking more care of myself and caring a bit more about what I wear helps.
It's not something that happens particularly often, but it does happen more than it used to; taking more care of myself and caring a bit more about what I wear helps.
Leering at someone you find attractive is just plain rude. If you want to make it obvious that you're staring at their bodies, I don't think it's fair to then call them out for sneering back. It's like spending an evening with your eyes glued to a girl's rack and then being offended when she doesn't say "thank you". I don't buy this "too cute to be creepy" nonsense. Creepy is how you act, not how you look.
So you just assumed things about him based on the way he laughed? He might have been finding the thought of being checked out funny, or something else like that. Unless you could read his mind, and all he did was laugh, then you have no idea what he was thinking. Just assuming that someone is dismissing you because of your own personal insecurities is a bad habit to get into.
On Topic: I don't like to look at people unless I'm talking to them, so I have no idea if people are looking at me like that. If I did notice it, I would probably just emotionally curl up into a little ball of shyness and "Oh god please stop looking at me." While attempting to initiate a conversation with them.
On Topic: I don't like to look at people unless I'm talking to them, so I have no idea if people are looking at me like that. If I did notice it, I would probably just emotionally curl up into a little ball of shyness and "Oh god please stop looking at me." While attempting to initiate a conversation with them.
It depends. I've been sexually harassed at work before; that wasn't very fun.
I think my reaction would at least partially depend on how attractive the other party was. I mean, if Megan Fox hit on me you can be damned sure I'd be bragging about it to complete strangers.
But there are other factors too. If they were drunk and rubbing themselves on me in public while barely keeping themselves vertical, I'd probably just be annoyed.
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Loooots of people pretending that they're ugly in this thread. You modest bastards.
I think my reaction would at least partially depend on how attractive the other party was. I mean, if Megan Fox hit on me you can be damned sure I'd be bragging about it to complete strangers.
But there are other factors too. If they were drunk and rubbing themselves on me in public while barely keeping themselves vertical, I'd probably just be annoyed.
EDIT:
Loooots of people pretending that they're ugly in this thread. You modest bastards.
Okay I'll chime in. I've been told I'm a rather attractive asian guy so girls will talk to me and give me looks. There was even one girl who got a picture of me to show her friends or whatever. Just today I went to a restaurant and got a few glances from some girls at another table.
Honestly it's awkward. I just smile and wave basically. I try not to make a big deal out of it. Yep...It happens when I go to conventions too.
Honestly it's awkward. I just smile and wave basically. I try not to make a big deal out of it. Yep...It happens when I go to conventions too.
I think I would need a big neon sign appear to inform me, otherwise I think I'd most likely be completely oblivious.
But since I don't think I've been checked out/hit on before I would wager a guess that I'd probably go and awkwardly attempt to start a conversation.
But since I don't think I've been checked out/hit on before I would wager a guess that I'd probably go and awkwardly attempt to start a conversation.
Honestly, I'm most likely to ignore it. Pretend I don't notice it.
Hell, I probably ignore it anyway. Unintentionally. I don't usually pay attention to see if I'm being checked out.
Hell, I probably ignore it anyway. Unintentionally. I don't usually pay attention to see if I'm being checked out.
On the outside I try to smile and just keep walking. I'm not approached anymore, since my husband is with me most of the time. I usually feel pretty weird about being looked over and want to hurry up and get whatever I went there to do, over with. Some people get a big kick out of it,...I am not really one of those people.
Same for me, as I'm oblivious to these things.KOMega said:
Although it'd be weird if I were to find out that someone was checking me out because I find myself to be quite repulsive to be quite honest.
And with that pessimism I am off! *flies off into the sunset*
I flirt back, it has lead to soft places before.
Scrump Monkey disagrees. Don't be so hard on yourself.EeveeElectro said:
I normally look around to see who they are looking at because I know there's no way they could be looking at me. I'm too dense to normally notice flirting and wouldnt know how to respond regardless.