How important is sex to you?

[Caffiene]

Pretty important...

The chemicals involved are very pleasant, and stress relieving. And as I start to grow past the hormonal teen phase (mid twenties now) Im starting to appreciate the attention and intimacy part quite a lot as well. I also find it helps my mental state to be able to make other people feel good, too.

I dont go out seeking it at random, but I dont save it only for "that special someone" either. When its not available, I miss it.

I'm not necessarily waiting for "the one" or something "special" or something like that, just that when I have sex it means something other than a random fuck (though I don't believe there's something inherently wrong with casual sex, it's just not what I want)

Sounds like a healthy attitude to me.

 

[Xannidel]

As a male I tend to think about it constantly (darn you larger hypothalamus!) and I understand WHY we need sex, but I personally do not like sex that much. Maybe I am just one of those who would rather have a relationship and every so often have sex.

 

[Griffolion]

I used to consider sex quite important, but the bad sort of important where I was doing an American Pie style attempt to get with every girl at every opportunity. After a bit of growing up I realised that doing that sort of thing is incredibly unfulfilling and that I would ultimately prefer to be doing it with a girl I love. And yes, you can look at love as just this chemical thing in our brains regarding Oxytocin; but every other sensation and perception aside to love is the same concept, and all those experiences are real to each of us, so love is too (at least for me anyway).

So anyway, I've been on a dry spell now for about 18 months now, and I can't say it's negatively affected me at all, I'm still the same person. In fact, I'm a lot more chilled with the weight of "getting laid" off my mind; not only that but I realised that my previous mindset had stopped me from truly respecting women passed their physicality, and so have moved to correct this. And nowadays whenever I see someone who was like me a few years back, I can do naught but smile at how it reminds me of much less mature days in my own life.

I very much want to have sex. I'm in a longterm relationship (I live with her, as well) and yet we're both still virgins. We both want it, but we've gotten into a cycle of no sex, and the first few times we trried we fucked everything up so badly... One of us just needs to goddamn push it.

Forcing the issue only creates regret and a bad taste in your mouth (speaking from experience). Let it come naturally, and try to be cool if it doesn't come at all for a while.

 

[Zack Alklazaris]

Sex is very important to me, but not in the way you'd think. When I turned 18 my dad asked me if I wanted to go to a strip club. I said no and explained it just feels wrong to have someone be intimate with you when they are a total stranger and don't love you.

I suppose I've very girly when it comes to sex. Sure it can be rough and kinky, but it needs to be with someone whom I trust, love, and wouldn't mind spending the rest of my life with. Anything short of that is unacceptable, period.

I tried to go beyond this and just have sex for sex. I once had a complete stranger naked on my bed and we were ready to go, but I panicked and said I can't do it.

I'm not sure why I am this way, I would really like to know because apparently its very strange for a male to be like this.

 

[Yuno Gasai]

To quote something I read a while back; "Sex is 10% of a good relationship, and 90% of a bad one." That basically sums up my feelings on sex when I'm in a relationship.

When I'm single, my attitude to sex varies. Sometimes, I see it as being really important; others, I really can't be bothered with it.

 

[Avatar Roku]

Sex is very important to me, but not in the way you'd think. When I turned 18 my dad asked me if I wanted to go to a strip club. I said no and explained it just feels wrong to have someone be intimate with you when they are a total stranger and don't love you.

I suppose I've very girly when it comes to sex. Sure it can be rough and kinky, but it needs to be with someone whom I trust, love, and wouldn't mind spending the rest of my life with. Anything short of that is unacceptable, period.

I tried to go beyond this and just have sex for sex. I once had a complete stranger naked on my bed and we were ready to go, but I panicked and said I can't do it.

I'm not sure why I am this way, I would really like to know because apparently its very strange for a male to be like this.

I'm a guy and I'm the same way. Granted, I haven't had the opportunity for random sex, but I have done with with the girl I love, and I could not see doing it in any other context.

 

[Zack Alklazaris]

Sex is very important to me, but not in the way you'd think. When I turned 18 my dad asked me if I wanted to go to a strip club. I said no and explained it just feels wrong to have someone be intimate with you when they are a total stranger and don't love you.

I suppose I've very girly when it comes to sex. Sure it can be rough and kinky, but it needs to be with someone whom I trust, love, and wouldn't mind spending the rest of my life with. Anything short of that is unacceptable, period.

I tried to go beyond this and just have sex for sex. I once had a complete stranger naked on my bed and we were ready to go, but I panicked and said I can't do it.

I'm not sure why I am this way, I would really like to know because apparently its very strange for a male to be like this.

I'm a guy and I'm the same way. Granted, I haven't had the opportunity for random sex, but I have done with with the girl I love, and I could not see doing it in any other context.

Well that makes me feel a little better.

Its just seemed not necessarily a bad thing, but still some how like I'm doing it wrong lol. I think my Dad thought I was gay when I turned down the stripper club.

 

[The Lunatic]

It's pretty low on the list really.

 

[Bloodtrozorx]

Ahhh the days long past when my teenaged mind could contemplate only sex. "Sex in the morning, Sex in the evening, Sex around suppertime". But seasons change and sex has become yet another distraction. Funny how something that seemed so important can be put into perspective.

 

[runnernda]

I like sex a lot. I'm very picky about who I date, so I'm single a lot. But hey, a girl's got needs, so I have a few friends with benefits. Should either of us start dating somebody, the benefits are obviously suspended and we're fine as friends. I figure as long as both parties know the guidelines (whether they're implied or literally laid out), there's nothing wrong with having a fuckbuddy or two.

 

[Colour Scientist]

To quote something I read a while back; "Sex is 10% of a good relationship, and 90% of a bad one."

I don't think that's true at all. Sex, for me anyway, is a very important part of a relationship. Without it, I don't think you can have true intimacy. I'm not going to give it a percentage because I don't think that makes sense but a suffering sex life is often a symptom of bigger relationship problems. I don't think it's necessarily way more important than anything else but it is certainly a vital componant of a relationship.

 

[Daystar Clarion]

Sex is the most intimate experience you can have with a person.

It's something I've only ever had with one person, and that's the person I want to spend the rest of my life with.

It's very important. No matter what is happening in our lives, we can take those moments of closeness for ourselves.

 

[Arkvoodle]

Whatever desires & emotions I may have had bled out years ago.

I just don't care anymore.

 

[Zantos]

I'm a big fan of sex if I'm doing it with someone I like. It's good, I like it.

It doesn't really bother me if I'm not getting any though. Or maybe I've just conditioned myself to think that.

 

[EeveeElectro]

Quite important, it's one way I show my spouse I love him. I wouldn't leave them if I didn't get it, but I'd be pretty sad and disappointed because I'd assume it was my fault that we didn't have sex or he isn't sexually attracted to me. >_<

I could never bring myself to have a one night stand because a) Who is so desperate they'd sleep with me? o_o and b)I couldn't have knowing they didn't love me. I'm soppy like that >_<

 

[Carson Shindigg]

Sex can be great. My girlfriend and i were eachothers first, and it can be great some times. But like anything, you can have off days and moods, and you both have to be in the mood on the day for it to be great.

But I would not say that it is the be all and end all. I found more happiness the day we went on our first date. I feel happier these days when we just cuddle and lie there. And the biggest emotions of my life were when my dad died. I haven't felt an emotion as strong as that since, the feeling I get from sex is nice, but it isn't that strong.

 

[Fenris Frost]

Pretty good stress relief. Comparable to a good hot shower or something like sausage and mash.

 

[Verzin]

I enjoy sex. A lot. It is a big part of my life and I openly admit that. Some people call me a slut because of that. I dont care.

How do you view sex in your life?

Edit: Captcha: "do it now!"

YES SIR MR. JOHNSON

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Sex? *gasp!!!* you mean that thing that regular people do with those people who have those weird protrusions on their chest and long hair (or sometimes with Tom Cruise lookalikes)?!

Hah! you people and your pathetic social lives sicken me (I'm just jealous, actually.). I can honestly say I've 'NEVER' even tried to get a girlfriend/boyfriend. Probably due to my extreme case of antisocial misanthropy, or perhaps because I'm something of a clinically depressed nerd who puts far too little emphasis on personal hygiene. I hate being around people. I can't deal with extended conversations with those of my own gender, let alone those of the opposite (I'm shy. I tend to blush and babble around females or attractive males).

I've had a few female friends, but like male friends, they find that a friendship with someone who'll only speak if spoken to, and mostly in monosyllables at that, and never reciprocates friendship in any way is more trouble than it's worth.

There were a few stages in high school when, for some god forsaken reason, I was apparently 'popular' and it seemed like a few people were flirting with me, but ultimately, I never pursued it, and I doubt I ever will.


Tim Minchin has something to say on the whole topic of Sex.

Spoiler: Inflatable You

[link]www.youtube.com/watch?v=e6raVzrbqrM[/link]

 

[Jadams]

Sex isn't important to me at all
had it a few times with a few people and wondered what all the fuss was about