How much of an age gap is too much?
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The one that feels disturbing to you, your partner and people around you.
So in one case it can be 5 years, in other it can be 30
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No real problem for me as long as it's not teen-grandpa love. I mean... that's just a disturbing mental image.
So in one case it can be 5 years, in other it can be 30
.No real problem for me as long as it's not teen-grandpa love. I mean... that's just a disturbing mental image.
You beat me to it. But it is a good guideline to follow. Sure, someone will point out "but hey, I know.." or in the above poster, "I'm 16 and he's 26" - ask yourself what a 26 year old is doing hanging out with high school kids? And how much do you really have in common with someone who is (or at least should be) settling into a career? Believe this old man when he says who you are at 16 is NOT who you will be at 26 or even 20.
So, yes - one solid vote for the age/2+7 maxim. (Only for relationships though. FWB or one-nighters are fair game)
So, yes - one solid vote for the age/2+7 maxim. (Only for relationships though. FWB or one-nighters are fair game)
i smell a sitcom!TheLiham said:Probably because he isPhlakes said:
but aside from eleven fingered children, 14 and 23 is a bit weird
there seems to be a lot of support for the /2+7 rule. tried to add a poll but couldn't. some interesting views through
Personally, I do think that age is just a number. The main problems would be age-related (health problems, maturity, possible ulterior motives, etc). Obviously, it's a bigger deal the younger a person is (especially if one of them is underage, which people get all up in a tizzy about which is a bit ridiculous when it's only a couple years). I also think that the size of what people generally consider an acceptable age gap varies depending on how old the youngest participant is.
That's just my opinion. Me, personally? I'd be fine seeing someone a couple years younger than me, or someone who's in their late 20s (I'm nineteen).
That's just my opinion. Me, personally? I'd be fine seeing someone a couple years younger than me, or someone who's in their late 20s (I'm nineteen).
I speak as someone who is in a large age gap relationship.(I'm 21, girlfriend is 43.)
I personally believe that as long as both individuals are considered adults by law, they should be able to be together.
Yes, there are times that it can be weird, and the hardest part of it in all honesty is acceptance by other people. In our current society, it's accepted to see an older man with a younger woman, but it's unacceptable for a young man to be with an older woman. My family is having a hard time accepting my girlfriend, yet people my age have almost unanimously said that love is love, and age is just a number.
Yes I won't be able to have children with this woman, but she makes me happy, and I make her happy. Even if I never have kids, I feel that I can be happy with her. I know it will be difficult, but I'm willing to pull through.
I personally believe that as long as both individuals are considered adults by law, they should be able to be together.
Yes, there are times that it can be weird, and the hardest part of it in all honesty is acceptance by other people. In our current society, it's accepted to see an older man with a younger woman, but it's unacceptable for a young man to be with an older woman. My family is having a hard time accepting my girlfriend, yet people my age have almost unanimously said that love is love, and age is just a number.
Yes I won't be able to have children with this woman, but she makes me happy, and I make her happy. Even if I never have kids, I feel that I can be happy with her. I know it will be difficult, but I'm willing to pull through.
Depends on how old you are personally and which direction your going. For example, at the happy go lucky age of 21, 5 years my junior is creepy to say the least, if just legal. Going upwards. Id say late 20's as my upper limit atm. But I can see that at 30 a going for someone who is 50 wouldn't be too bad I guess, though I'm not sure Id be comfortable with that relationship wise... Your lining yourself up for lonely twilight years.
If both parties are adults then it doesn't matter.
Love is love. There are more important things to waste your time with than worrying about stupid shit like age gaps. If you meet someone you connect with on a deep interpersonal level and you let it get away because you're concerned with arbitrary math to define what abstract, faceless masses think is creepy then you deserve to be alone.
Love is love. There are more important things to waste your time with than worrying about stupid shit like age gaps. If you meet someone you connect with on a deep interpersonal level and you let it get away because you're concerned with arbitrary math to define what abstract, faceless masses think is creepy then you deserve to be alone.
Depends on the maturity of both people, and their ages. I mean, it's kind of weird if you're 14 and dating a 26 year old, but less weird if you're 24 and dating a 36 year old. But hey, as long as it's legal, who am I to say it's weird? If they like each other, then they like each other. Fine by me.
At the beginning as well. If one party is younger than 14, (say 13) that means the minimum age you should consider is 13.5. Paradox or a mathematical argument that people shouldn't date before the age of 14?starfox444 said:
10+ years creeps me out muchly. Anywhere between that is fine by me, though. My current age gap is around five, for instance. Me being the younger one, of course.
