How much of an age gap is too much?
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No older than five years younger then your parent, of that gender.
For example, I would feel weird dating a girl, more than 23 years older than me.
For example, I would feel weird dating a girl, more than 23 years older than me.
Agreed, I find it very annoying that people seem to think it's OK to judge whether or not it's right for people to date just because of how long they have been alive. It's ludicrous, no relationship is any business of anyone's but the people involved directly in it. It may be surprising or unusual to see an 80 yr-old dating a 20 yr-old, but if that's what they want, let them get on with it. Nothing to do with anyone else whatsoever.Axeli said:
Yeah, and think about it. If you're 125, then it's okay to date someone 69 years and 6 months old!Merkavar said:
If you're 1, it's okay to date someone 7 years and 6 months old! Wait, they're older. Okay, then it's okay for them to date someone 10 years and 9 months old! Wait.
12 years and 4 and a half months! Damnit!
Okay, it's okay for that person to date someone 13 years and 2 and a quarter months old!
6 years 2 months and a quarter of a month
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13 years 2 months and a quarter of a month
6 years 7 months
13 7 months!
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13 years and 7 months
Half: 6 years 9,5 months
13 9,5 months.
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13 years 9,5 months
6 years 10,75 months
13 years 10,75 months
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13 years 10,75 months
Half - 6 years 11,375 months
13 years 11,375 months
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13 years 2 months and a quarter of a month
6 years 7 months
13 7 months!
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13 years and 7 months
Half: 6 years 9,5 months
13 9,5 months.
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13 years 9,5 months
6 years 10,75 months
13 years 10,75 months
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13 years 10,75 months
Half - 6 years 11,375 months
13 years 11,375 months
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The only conclusion that I drew from this was that you can only start dating people if you and your...datee are both 14, or over!
Thanks, math!
Well congratulations to you two, but I did say it works most of the time, and it does take into account that the older you get the bigger the threshold becomes. Besides, I understand that age shouldn't matter if two people are in love I was merely saying that that's a guidline, no need to get so defensiveravensheart18 said:That's a silly rule made up by kids that quickly becomes meaningless.Xyliss said:
The reality is that the age different does matter less as you get older, but there is no fixed formula that means anything.
I refused to date my current wife when we first met because "she was too young" and I was afraid I'd hurt her somehow because of it. She chased me for something like 2 years before she convinced me I was an idiot and that I should go out with her. Could have saved me the worst relationship of my life if I had just not worried about her age sooner. We'd fit the half + 7 rule now, but not when we got married.
It is funny sometimes that I remember well movies or music from highschool that happened before she was born, or that I say some well known 80s phrase and she stares blankly at me. But the reality is we share almost the same view of most things, enjoy mostly the same music, have a similar view of family, religion, and politics, and generally are very compatible. Heck, if we fight its usually because we are too much alike in some ways. Age is almost never an issue, except for the fact that I know that statistically I will almost certainly die a decade or two before her.
You know I remember when my great grandfather "robbed the cradle" and married a 73 year old when he was 86. She was very much the love of his life. Now I've gone and married a girl 17 years younger
It all really depends on the people involved. When both are young, age gaps seem pretty huge even when the years aren't that many. The older you get the less important it becomes until you reach a point where it's suddenly strange again.
There's 6 years difference between my ex-wife and myself. There's 10 1/2 years between my father and his wife. Neither seems like a big deal to me. If you want to play it safe, I'd say don't stray past 5 years either way of your age.
There's 6 years difference between my ex-wife and myself. There's 10 1/2 years between my father and his wife. Neither seems like a big deal to me. If you want to play it safe, I'd say don't stray past 5 years either way of your age.
Hell if I know.
The older you get the bigger age gap you can manage while still being at a similar point in your lives or close to it. Although this is to do with being able to relate to the person and being at an equal standing. While still young, particularly while still a minor, there's an issue with managing to be on equal footing with someone even just a few years older than you.
The older you get the bigger age gap you can manage while still being at a similar point in your lives or close to it. Although this is to do with being able to relate to the person and being at an equal standing. While still young, particularly while still a minor, there's an issue with managing to be on equal footing with someone even just a few years older than you.
Half plus seven is right up there with "the friend zone" on the list of Internet-generated dating absurdities.
On the day I was born my dad was 35 and my mom was 21 (and they stayed married until the day he died). So I grew up thinking nothing in the world is wrong with older guys and younger women if the older dude is a devoted husband and father (as my dad was).
That said, I'm 33 and the bulk of my dates are with women between 24-29. There are exceptions but for the most part, women in their mid to late twenties seem to be the norm.
On the day I was born my dad was 35 and my mom was 21 (and they stayed married until the day he died). So I grew up thinking nothing in the world is wrong with older guys and younger women if the older dude is a devoted husband and father (as my dad was).
That said, I'm 33 and the bulk of my dates are with women between 24-29. There are exceptions but for the most part, women in their mid to late twenties seem to be the norm.
when i was 16 i went out with a 19 year old for a while
no-one seemed to care
age gaps arent really important i dont think
the oldest i've gone is 31 years
but to be fair she didnt look anywhere near it
no-one seemed to care
age gaps arent really important i dont think
the oldest i've gone is 31 years
but to be fair she didnt look anywhere near it
When the people are over 18 then they can do whatever the heck they want.
18 and 33 year old sure!
18 and 50 year old, go ahead! Love that old fool.
But when you start seeing things such as 16 with a 22 year old or the far as I've seen 14 with a 40 then it's too much...
18 and 33 year old sure!
18 and 50 year old, go ahead! Love that old fool.
But when you start seeing things such as 16 with a 22 year old or the far as I've seen 14 with a 40 then it's too much...
Pretty much the same here. I think as you mature, the difference becomes less important, but then I'm biased because of my parents.avouleance2nd said:
Give this man a cookie. A big one.starfox444 said:
The age gap is a question of your outward appearance to others, thus it doesn't matter unless it matters to you. Course it's still true that most of those women marry into older folks with money, for money...