I think of you as a friend.
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Just wait until 15 years later when she looks you up on Facebook and tells you that she screwed up and should've gotten with you when you asked and then begs for a chance to be with you. (Ok, that's what happened to me last week lol)
Some of my besterest friends are female. It's actually useful to have some as a true, good friend. They won't betray you over some chick. They'll have real useful advice in scoring chicks instead. They're often very empathic, and will know what to do, without you asking, when you're down and out.
Getting in their pants is really trivial in comparison. Lots of non-friend female pants to get in instead. You'll have the best sex with girls you can't stand.
Getting in their pants is really trivial in comparison. Lots of non-friend female pants to get in instead. You'll have the best sex with girls you can't stand.
I had a similar experience. There was a girl I met at uni last year who was from Austrailia (I'm British btw) and we clicked pretty quickly. We met up all the time for dinner as we both were catered at the same halls of residence and just chatted about anything and everything.
Anyway, a few months had passed and one of her friends was talking to me and brought up that she thought we'd make a cute couple. I just dismissed it and kind of laughed it off. After all, she was just my friend, I don't think I'd want to think of her like that D:.
Unfortunately, 2 weeks later there was a knock on my door and I opened up and my friend was there. And she asked me out after confessing her feelings for me. "Oh no" I thought as I tried to come up with a way to get me out of this rather awkward situation. I felt it necessary to tell her the truth, that I didn't and possibly couldn't have those kind of feelings for her.
Needless to say, she didn't take it very well, in fact she took it more personally than I had intended. I did feel very bad when I heard that she thought I thought she "was some kind of hideous troll. Why else would he say no?"
I still talk to her, though it's generally a bit less comfortable now. That's why I never intend on telling another friend (who I do like) how I feel. I get how awkward it can be.
I suppose it's just another part of life's big learning curve, you've gotta get you heart broken sometimes.
Anyway, a few months had passed and one of her friends was talking to me and brought up that she thought we'd make a cute couple. I just dismissed it and kind of laughed it off. After all, she was just my friend, I don't think I'd want to think of her like that D:.
Unfortunately, 2 weeks later there was a knock on my door and I opened up and my friend was there. And she asked me out after confessing her feelings for me. "Oh no" I thought as I tried to come up with a way to get me out of this rather awkward situation. I felt it necessary to tell her the truth, that I didn't and possibly couldn't have those kind of feelings for her.
Needless to say, she didn't take it very well, in fact she took it more personally than I had intended. I did feel very bad when I heard that she thought I thought she "was some kind of hideous troll. Why else would he say no?"
I still talk to her, though it's generally a bit less comfortable now. That's why I never intend on telling another friend (who I do like) how I feel. I get how awkward it can be.
I suppose it's just another part of life's big learning curve, you've gotta get you heart broken sometimes.
Work in the sense of "function as possible uses for the term", sure. Work in the sense of "both are statements reflective of reality", not a chance.mrpenguinismyhomeboy said:
There's no girl I've ever been rejected by who would have dated me if I'd been more of an ass. I've never met any girl who dated guys based on the fact that they're jerks, rather than that they're hot.
The reality is that no friend of mine (who's female and heterosexual) would turn me down if I looked like Brad Pitt. It's not a "you were her friend, that caused you to have to chance" thing, it's a "you're a hideous fucking CHUD, so you have no chance" thing
Testicles exploding in 3...2...1...wolfister said:
hmm, It seems as though you had the same problem, the way she worded it made you think that she didnt want to date you because she didnt want to jepordize the relationship you have now, and since you didnt either, you just quietly backed off...
she probably think that YOU dont want to date HER because you are friends and didnt want to screw up what you have, which you actually do.
so if she said that recently(a week at the most) then bring it up when you are alone together, and just mention "just curoius, why wouldnt you date me?"
and I may nt be a stud, but if she sais something like "because..." then thats the perfect time to make your move ^_^
DO IT NOW!!!!!
she likes you back, trust me
I just made your lives alot better
EDIT:
Or...
she was just saying that because she knew that a breakup would be a good time to advance, and she pre-empted you with that comment because she's not "into" you and wanted to be nice.
hmmm, either way you get mindf*cked...
either way, I have fun, so tell me what happens(PM me or something)
have a nice day ^_^'
saw that,wolfister said:
sorry bro T_T
s'okay, better to have loved then lost tthen...
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...y'know what, thats a stupid saying.
I dont really know what to tell you buddy...
Why thank you, I get quite upset when people use this as an excuse.Seldon2639 said:
If your a "niceguy" your one all the time, if you turn it on and off at a whim thats not a "niceguy" thats a wisened douche figuring out that some people like that. Thats the reason why I don't consider myself a nice guy, mostly because I'm usually cold and sarcastic to most people I know, although I try my best to kind and polite to those I don't.
Or break somebody else's to see how it can be from the other side.zhoominator said:
OT: That always hurts, have learned both sides of this curve the hard way.
I still feel bad about being on the giving end of it
....that happens alot to me mainly cause all the other guys at my school disrespect or abuse women
im one of the few that dosent and my friends that are girls tell me "your so sweet i would love to date a guy like you" im sitting there "........" im just thinking why dont you date me but i guess thats the way things go
im one of the few that dosent and my friends that are girls tell me "your so sweet i would love to date a guy like you" im sitting there "........" im just thinking why dont you date me but i guess thats the way things go
hmm,
three posts and I havent been on topic
OT:
I kinda had an opposite situation, a girl who I hate with a feiry passion has clung to me and the only way I could cut her loose was by alienating all of my friends because she decided "why dont I become better friends with all of your friends"
the only situation ive been in where Ive gotten blueballed like that was when this annoying pr*ck asked out this girl i was freinds with.
its not so much that I hated him for asking her out first, I hated him for being a condescending pr*ck who thought that just because he was a year older than me he somehow was able to disprove all of the logic I have been working over since kindergarden, and how something as simple as "flick the string to make the guitar make sound" he fealt he needed to teach me.
three posts and I havent been on topic
OT:
I kinda had an opposite situation, a girl who I hate with a feiry passion has clung to me and the only way I could cut her loose was by alienating all of my friends because she decided "why dont I become better friends with all of your friends"
the only situation ive been in where Ive gotten blueballed like that was when this annoying pr*ck asked out this girl i was freinds with.
its not so much that I hated him for asking her out first, I hated him for being a condescending pr*ck who thought that just because he was a year older than me he somehow was able to disprove all of the logic I have been working over since kindergarden, and how something as simple as "flick the string to make the guitar make sound" he fealt he needed to teach me.
I've yet to meet a woman who didn't always go for the guy that pisses them off.
Even the girl I'm with right now, I'm a dick to her a lot of the time, and she loves me more than anything. We've broken up and gotten back together several times and are currently not together, but still having sex, mostly because thats a way for us to remain romantically close while avoiding the "stigma" of "being together".
Meanwhile, there is this girl who I have such a deep attraction for, that I can't even tell her, mostly because we've been friends FOREVER and it would insanely awkward to bring something like that up.
But, back to original point, and you can call it sexist or whatever you want, but its true.
If you want a girl to like you, treat her like you don't care about her roughly 70% of the time, the other 30% is doing very sweet things, mostly little things.
Even the girl I'm with right now, I'm a dick to her a lot of the time, and she loves me more than anything. We've broken up and gotten back together several times and are currently not together, but still having sex, mostly because thats a way for us to remain romantically close while avoiding the "stigma" of "being together".
Meanwhile, there is this girl who I have such a deep attraction for, that I can't even tell her, mostly because we've been friends FOREVER and it would insanely awkward to bring something like that up.
But, back to original point, and you can call it sexist or whatever you want, but its true.
If you want a girl to like you, treat her like you don't care about her roughly 70% of the time, the other 30% is doing very sweet things, mostly little things.
My plan is, when a girl says that you ditch her for an extended amount of time and THEN see how much you actually mean to her.
if she's flipping out because you ain't around you are pretty important. If not, she's a dick and move on.
ALWAYS works.
for me that is.
if she's flipping out because you ain't around you are pretty important. If not, she's a dick and move on.
ALWAYS works.
for me that is.