Ideal partner: Smarter, dumber, or about on your level?

[Socius]

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Unfortunately, I do.

/facepalm

I feel your pain, but alas I have a feeling that guy won't be allowed to hang out for long.
On topic I would say that what I want is a strong, independent girl sharing my ideals. about the same level og intelligence is to prefer, but I don't focus on that alone. I have a trend for dating girls thats somewhat less intelligent than me.

 

[Nyerion]

I've always liked smarter women or at least in my level of intelligence.
When I get to know someone that I'm really atracted to and I discover that she is kind of dumb... well, suddenlly I don't fell the atraccion anymore.

Not that I find many people dumber than me anyway, I'm far from being a genius.

 

[Zannah]

Intelligence isn't a massive factor for me but if they're too smart I might find it a little intimidating, it's not nice feeling stupid

Wouldn't generalize it like that - being able to rely on someone to know better, and make the decisions can be rather comforting at times

 

[alinos]

i don't think it matters really so long as you can talk with them and there not like "um like what's a car?"

 

[ilspooner]

Someone who is equal/smarter. I prefer people with at least average intelligence.

 

[Smooth Operator]

I don't know really, someone alot dumber would probably infuriate me and at some point I would just go nuts.
But then on the other hand someone alot smarter would make me feel inferior and emasculated(I understand how silly it is to feel that way but it is beyond my control).

I would like someone a little smarter then me, because I like to be challenged in a conversation(that doesn't involve shoes/clothes or social drama), but I really wonder if it wouldn't be just a burden in the long run.

Once I met this girl at my university that had a somewhat photographic memory(she just remembered things really quickly) she was like a living wikipedia, she retained full knowledge of every topic she ever read, and that was extremely emasculating, I could practically feel my willy shrinking as she talked.
And in the end I didn't even want to see her ever again because she made me feel like an insignificant speck of dust.

 

[ViciousMoon]

At the same level "intelligence" or higher I'd say, I can not for the life of me understand how people can live with a person for long without the mental stimulation that a good, intelligent conversation provides.

I would at least tire pretty quickly, if not immediately.

 

[Elivercury]

Same or smarter. Dumb people annoy me. There is nothing worse than having to explain words and meanings of every other sentence to someone.

That and I don't really think that feelings of superiority are very healthy in a relationship.

 

[Sarkule]

Roughly same level, of course.
But I wouldn't mind smarter, I just wouldn't be able to handle someone a lot less intelligent with me.

 

[Astoria]

I like people at the same level as me though not necissarily knowledgable about the same things as me.

 

[Hafnium]

Couldn't date a dumb woman, and I'd probably find a much smarter partner irritating (intelligent women tend to be obnoxious about it, in my opinion). So I prefer, and have already snagged, a lady of similar intellect.

 

[moretimethansense]

Look at my Avatar... Now imagine him female, yeah best partner evar!

I don't mean to belittle you but, you want a vgirl that is hyper smart but hates people and will completly blank you out to play bishonen games?
You must have some self esteem issues, that or you kinda ignored the point of the charecter.

 

[The Wykydtron]

Look at my Avatar... Now imagine him female, yeah best partner evar!

I don't mean to belittle you but, you want a vgirl that is hyper smart but hates people and will completly blank you out to play bishonen games?
You must have some self esteem issues, that or you kinda ignored the point of the charecter.

It's all in the conquest good sir! XD

 

[JEBWrench]

For Discussion! So, do you like your partners smarter, less smart, or about the same as your own intellectual level? And why? Discuss.

My wife and I frequently argue about who is the smarter one - I believe she is, and vice versa.

 

[Alade]

Well, for one-night-stands I of course prefer very dumb women. For dating however it works very similar, being the narcissistic prick I am I can't admit to myself that anyone is smarter than me, so basically all women fall into the dumber category, thus my type is "dumb".

 

[Bernzz]

On my level. Dumber, I couldn't stand. Just... no. Especially not ditzy. Smarter? Would get infuriating for me, I think.

 

[Shoggoth2588]

I keep falling into the line of thought that mine is on the same level as I am but I think she's smarter than I am. I wouldn't have it any other way though as that's what I prefer. Like you said, I like to think being around the smarty ones will make my pants smarter in turn (if only a little) and in the long run (ie: marriage) I would rather be the domestic type of person as opposed to the breadwinner. Those of higher intellect would be more receptive to that I think.

 

[tzimize]

Trying my hand at one of these "who ya got" threads. Now with more gender-inclusiveness!

Some folks like to be with people who are smarter than they are, in hopes that that someone will bring out the best in their own intellect and make them smarter (I suppose. Can't say as I've been in this position myself, since a woman who's demonstrably smarter than me I tend to find intimidating and "out of my league".)

Other folks like to be with someone who's dumb as a sack of hammers but sweet as a bag of confectioner's sugar with a honey glaze and a candy coating. I fall into this category---in fact, I get along very well with the kinds of women who fall into the category previously mentioned. What can I say---if she's the type who makes up for a lack of intelligence with an abundance of "girlfriend features" (sexual, domestic, moral, or otherwise) I tend to fall hard. I'm naturally dominant---those sorts of girls tend to be naturally submissive.

And finally, there are the worthy adversaries---women who match me step for step, who never fall too far behind or get too far ahead. I call such women "friends", but curiously rarely get physically involved with them. I tend not to want to lose such women out of my life, since they're rare and valued (dumb chicks are a dime a dozen, but smart women? Priceless.) Sometimes, however, this causes problems when those bright women, happy to have a sparring partner of their own, get interested in me and I'm the one pulling the "don't want to ruin the friendship" card out (gender reversal!)

I'm not sure I want to know what it says about me that what I basically tell such women is "you don't want to date me, you're better than that" when it's all boiled down to its essence.

For Discussion! So, do you like your partners smarter, less smart, or about the same as your own intellectual level? And why? Discuss.

I guess I'm not really clear about what you mean by smarter, but if you say more "intellectual"...it might be easier to understand.

What is it to be smart? Are we talking big math skills? Well read? Can complete a sentence without a smattering of grammatical explosions?

I can use my own girlfriend as an example. I see myself as quite a bit more "intellectual" than her. She doesnt read much, she is not a math whiz and neither is her spelling flawless all the time. But I still consider her pretty smart.

She can make me laugh, a whole lot more than most girls I've met. And I truly believe that humor takes intelligence.

She is also very much on the same page as me when it comes to what is the important things in life. We agree on a lot of stuff. Values. Core stuff that you can build a deep relationship upon.

In "short"; I'm not sure I can answer your question, since I'm not quite sure what being "smart" means. They say opposites attract. And in some ways me and my GF are opposites. I am the intellectual one, the reader, the writer. She is the creative one, the artist. We fulfill each other pretty well (urgh...that sounded more cliché than intended), and to me she seems "smart" because most of the time she has her head screwed on straight and know what is really important in life.

Makes sense? :S

 

[AmayaOnnaOtaku]

Same level or smarter. A guy dumber than me with no desire to read or learn anything new would bore the piss out of me.

 

[Shirokurou]

Smarter and dumber are relative terms. In something dumber, in others smarter.