... Uh... YES!Sandytimeman said:I think your putting to much on it. If they didn't want to talk about their past, if they felt they had been reborn. Then I think they shouldn't have to tell, imo. Do you reveal to everyone absolutely everything about your past?GigaHz said:snip
That's the whole reason you open yourself to another being in the first place (or at least, should be). You share as much as you can with the other person, regardless of awkwardness, shame, or regret. I have revealed everything about my past to anyone I've ever been in a relationship with, so long as they were willing to listen. They too have shared deep dark things with me as well.
That said, I just so happen to attract people who share my approach to secrets and honesty.
Sure it matters. It doesn't matter if a transexual is over the moon for a straight person of any gender. If the other person isn't on board with the idea, it is not the transexual who decides whether or not being of biological gender matters. If that means lying to them to make the relationship last, the transexual is being selfish and in some ways, cruel.I think most of this debate is influenced by the "I ain't no queer" type of thinking that pervades almost ever aspect of modern society. If a human being loves another human being does it really need to matter beyond that? (barring reproductive issues, ie going into a relationship knowing they want kids and you can't have them kind of thing)
There are people out there who are open to the idea of being with a transexual partner. Then again, I wouldn't refer to these people as 'straight' if I wanted to be accurate. It doesn't matter what a person alters on their body or what hormones they consume, genetics are much deeper than that. Do I sympathize with those who are gender dissonant? Sure I do. That doesn't mean I condone lying to preserve their happiness.
There is never an excuse to lie, other than cowardice.