Silverbeard said:
I will admit that, in all my limited years, I have not seen an obese person become thin (or at least of a healthy weight)- except on television programs and advertisements and the like.
Or perhaps we are thinking of different things: when I hear 'obese', I think of one who is incapable of moving without mechanical assistance. Maybe you have a different image.
I have seen many people- men and women- become more physically fit after a period of regimented exercise but none of them have looked more physically attractive afterwards. Oddly shaped faces, for example, will always be oddly shaped. Cross-eyed folks will not lose that trait, no matter how hard they work. We all make do with what we are born with and exercise, or a lack thereof, does not change that.
The poverty example was just that- an example. Extreme hydrophobia, as another example, can physically prevent people from showering or just bathing at all. And surely a well-sculpted fellow who refuses to maintain personal cleanliness will be just as repulsive as a trollishly ugly fellow who is always perfectly groomed?
My base point is that physical attractiveness, body odor and personal fitness are all separate things- one can score well on all three, or on a few, or on none at all.
We're hard coded to look for certain things in our perspective mates/partners. Good teeth are a sign of health and wealth. Good shoes are a sign of wealth. There is an old saying, the short man looks a lot taller when he is standing on his money.
Symmetry is also important. The closer one's features adhere to the golden ratio, the more attractive they seem.
I even read something about height being a factor. Women were likely to have short term relationships/affairs with taller men, but were less likely to engage in long term relationships with them.
So, if you are like me and happen to be well over six feet tall, with some British ancestry, wear beat up steel toe work boots regularly, and have had a broken nose in the past that you set yourself on one or more occasions, chances are you should spend a little time in the gym just to help average things out.
But worrying about physique/appearance too much is not right either. Confidence is key. People don't have to be perfect, they just have to be comfortable with themselves.
And, to those who are getting "friendzoned," try changing things up a little. One of my long term female friends actually asks me to wear a hat whenever I am around her when have my hair cut a certain way, on account of her wanting to jump me due to the haircut. She's joking, of course, but you never know.
People should be comfortable with themselves, but realize that certain decisions they make about the way they dress and act, while they may be valid choices for them, are going to cut them off from some prospective partners.
Supposedly, sometimes being
too clean can be a negative. Smell is one of the most important aspects of attraction. If you're always covering up/soaping away your body's natural pheromones, you run the risk of being chemically inert to a prospective partner. I've never tried it though, on account of not wanting to skimp on my own hygiene routine.