Is Hitting A Girl All That Bad?

[The_Evermind]

I'm going to go with the consensus that it isn't any thing more inherently wrong with hitting a girl than hitting anyone else regardless of their gender identification. Now that being said if I do more to not hit a girl it is because they are more likely to be much smaller than I am (at 6'3" it is rare to see guys my height let alone women). Conversly I have dealt with the girls who see it as their right to provoke violence because guys wont attack back, in more specific terms when she hit me without provocation I hit back (not to hard, just to let her know that I would) and I do not feel bad about doing it.

 

[rodneyy]

it is more dont hit people smaller than you rather than dont hit women. even if they are the same weight as you, you have to remeber that men are generally more top heavy with bigger shoulders and arms, with women normally having bigger legs and hips, as well as carrying more fat in the boob and hip department. so even what on paper looks like an even fight a man has a bit of an advantage.

on another note wile not as clear cut men are generally a bit more familiar with fighting. there is noting to say that a women wont/cant learn to fight but the general ruff and tumble of men growning up leads to you at least knowing how to take a few hits and land a few back.

 

[Azurian]

I think that the whole "Never hit a woman" rule only really applies to things like domestic disputes. Striking a woman out of anger is never okay. Striking a woman because she's trying to attack and/or kill you is fine, but don't overdo it.
In the home or normal daily activity, asserting your dominance over a woman with physical violence is borderline evil in my eyes.
If a woman starts a fight with you, then you're fighting. The best way to handle it has 3 steps:
1) Don't strike first, try to stop her attack.
2) Disarm or otherwise prevent her from attacking you a second time.
3) Attempt to exit the situation
4) If step 3 fails, fight her as you would fight a man.

For you OP, I'd say don't even worry about your sister. That particular girl falls under the 'sibling rule', which says that all fighting is totally fair game as long as mom and dad don't find out and nobody ends up dead. Just don't hit your girlfriend/wife/random female strangers and you're golden.

Hey those are my very rules but if a woman is trying to do me serious harm then all bets are off I'm going to fight her but only enough to get her to stop.

 

[Dense_Electric]

So an average woman can't defend herself? I seen women who are not even trained and can defend themselves fine. The idea of a weak woman is just that, an idea. Its no more real than santa claus. It only existed in a time when we still fought with swords and women were only used to make babies. We do not live in that time anymore. Hell, we don;t even live in a time when men need muscle. We are no longer bound by gender roles. A man can be a 80 pound weakling, while a woman could be a heavy weight boxer. Technology changed the game, but humanity refuses to change.

Chances are that the man doing the hitting is going to be considerably stronger than the woman. Your average man is going to be stronger than your average woman.

You're assuming the man is fit, and has to do actual work. In a country like America with a physical health and obesity problem there is no muscle. Muscle is as outdated as pagers, or fax machines when technology can offer muscle power 100x that of a man could. Technology changed the world in more ways than one. We are no longer bound by primitive roles, and we can be anything we wish to be. We don't even need muscle mass, just intelligence and effort.

Based on the average man you see in the UK(where I'm from) he is usually at least 6ft with quite abit of muscle compared to your average woman that stands at about 5ft 7". Now if a 6ft man hits a 5ft 7" woman then they are a pussy. 8 times out of 10 a man is going to come out on top if he fights with a woman.

Hey, if you want to let yourself get beat up because you're too vain to defend yourself, go for it. Far be it from us to tell you what to do.

 

[theMediator]

It's a gray area. Hitting a woman in anger, domestically, or otherwise is not ok in my opinion. But if s woman attacks me with the intent to harm me, or my family, I'm not going to hold back just because she's a "lady".

 

[retyopy]

Well, if you're going to get sexism in here, then I'm allowed to hit them. They're allowed to hit me, too, but THAT'S nothing new.

 

[Cerebral_Assassin]

I believe if the situation arises a guy can do whatever necessary to protect himself but nothing more. Just cause a girl is swinging on a guy doesn't mean he has to do the same, just do what necessary to stop her from attacking.

However, if a guy punches me once I will beat his ass until someone stops me, sexist or not that's how it is.

 

[jimahaff]

From a cultural standpoint, hitting a girl is horrible, from an anthropological stand point, its the same as hitting a man.

 

[Total LOLige]

So an average woman can't defend herself? I seen women who are not even trained and can defend themselves fine. The idea of a weak woman is just that, an idea. Its no more real than santa claus. It only existed in a time when we still fought with swords and women were only used to make babies. We do not live in that time anymore. Hell, we don;t even live in a time when men need muscle. We are no longer bound by gender roles. A man can be a 80 pound weakling, while a woman could be a heavy weight boxer. Technology changed the game, but humanity refuses to change.

Chances are that the man doing the hitting is going to be considerably stronger than the woman. Your average man is going to be stronger than your average woman.

You're assuming the man is fit, and has to do actual work. In a country like America with a physical health and obesity problem there is no muscle. Muscle is as outdated as pagers, or fax machines when technology can offer muscle power 100x that of a man could. Technology changed the world in more ways than one. We are no longer bound by primitive roles, and we can be anything we wish to be. We don't even need muscle mass, just intelligence and effort.

Based on the average man you see in the UK(where I'm from) he is usually at least 6ft with quite abit of muscle compared to your average woman that stands at about 5ft 7". Now if a 6ft man hits a 5ft 7" woman then they are a pussy. 8 times out of 10 a man is going to come out on top if he fights with a woman.

Hey, if you want to let yourself get beat up because you're too vain to defend yourself, go for it. Far be it from us to tell you what to do.

Well in a life or death situation it would be different. I mean it's wrong to just go up to a woman and beat the shit out of them for no reason.

Again, you assume that the UK is like everywhere else and that height matters. I seen short people beat taller people, even women manage that in a world where muscle no longer matters. There is no "set" average anymore other than muscle mass being phased out. The man being some warrior or knight is as outdated as a automat. You want to know what the modern and future man will look like? They wont be chuck Norris, they will be Bill Gates or Gabe Newell.

You win I can't debate this any more, you have defeated me I have failed.

 

[Boxer.H1x]

Hitting a woman is OK in the sense that it's OK to hit a man.

It requires context. Self-defense is fine. If they deserve it, it's fine.

Now, to back up that last statement, here's a clip from Youtube: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QQwQ8AW_WYc

Notice how almost all of the replies are based on how the woman deserved it. Some people act like it's a travesty. Those people are retarded. Women are just as fallible and deserving to get hit as men, and if that were a man slapping that cop, you'd get the same replies. It's not like women don't have thumbs, and therefore can't shoot you or stab you.

The argument comes from how a woman wouldn't have muscles as dense as a man's. Hitting back is fine. Hitting back harder, on the other hand, is debatable.

 

[Raesvelg]

Based on the average man you see in the UK(where I'm from) he is usually at least 6ft with quite abit of muscle compared to your average woman that stands at about 5ft 7". Now if a 6ft man hits a 5ft 7" woman then they are a pussy. 8 times out of 10 a man is going to come out on top if he fights with a woman.

5'10" and 5'4" respectively, actually. And muscle-wise, about average.

Anyhoo.

As a general rule, yeah, your average man could beat your average woman to death without an excess of effort. Even when in the same weight class, men are stronger and faster, pound for pound, than women. Just a simple fact of genetics.

As far as whether or not it's horrible to hit a girl, frankly, I don't especially care about the gender of the people I have to defend myself against. And since I don't START fights... the rest is irrelevant.

 

[Risingblade]

It would be sexist to not hit them, and being sexist is bad...

 

[soulfire130]

Since I would hit someone if they hit me ,rather it be a guy or girl, I will hit back and call it fair.

 

[Scrumpys]

Hitting anyone is fair game when its in self defense. I think the "Do Not hit Women rule" only applies to women who are respectful and kind. Siblings always fight anyways so i wouldnt worry bout it.

 

[Beliyal]

People already said this, but I'll say it too; hitting anyone is bad. Hitting without a really damn good reason to be more specific. And "I was annoyed" is not a valid a reason, nor is "He/she mocked me/teased me/laughed at me". If we just started hitting each other every time something we don't like happened, we would be worse than any animal (we're the ones with brains and means of self-control). However, fights among siblings (when it's not real domestic abuse) is nothing to worry about. Me and my brother had our fair share of fights, with my brother mostly being the instigator (and usually the one who got punished, but as I'm four years younger and he was always three times my size, it's reasonable; it didn't have to do anything with gender really, more with the fact that due to size and age, he was just stronger and I ended up being hurt more. I could have barely scratched him, but he could have easily broken my arm). But sibling fighting happens.

Also, I oppose the social norm where boys have to "man up" and just shrug off being hit by a woman (or by anyone), especially if that woman is bigger, stronger or just doing it because she can't be punished. Hitting someone without distinct reason or for poor reasons (unrelated anger for example) and not in self defence is bad, regardless of gender. Even that self defence argument can't really be applied to any situation as in most of the situations when you get attacked, the best solution is to run away. And yeah, hitting among siblings also kinda doesn't fit the regular rule (if it's not genuine abuse or violence). I would slap my brother on the head, but I wouldn't do it to anyone else, man or woman.

And what the hell is this captcha [http://www.google.com/recaptcha/api/image?c=03AHJ_VuvktVbaFENkGVLX_xpHxvZLYz2J1N18cNYldti07T2rMSCOyZFMKsjtwyD64yT1LmQnsuGftjmppv4TBg22R7JTDAs2Ajt-HunfBnCvpHHiHthnFCr0ko5ylfRVXIy6ixXL5SHwSPZSdkRRlXGAYf8eQkiH4g]?

 

[Andothul]

If you are a real man you will never have to strike a woman to control the situation.

 

[PrototypeC]

Yeah, of course it's pretty bad. It's just a social no-no. In the OP's example, he reacted pretty much the way he's supposed to; without real violence. Pushing isn't nearly the same as, say, a sock in the face, and also I feel like being siblings changes things up a bit. Girls don't like the idea of getting punched (but then who would), and guys have an instinctual revulsion and violent reaction to that happening to girls. Even verbal insults that guys would shrug off, directed toward a girl, provokes that "white knight" mentality. I personally believe that abusive boyfriends and husbands are the scum of the damn Earth.

Let's put this in perspective, though: Snookie from the Jersey Shore? She was running her mouth, she was talking sh!t to a guy who was bigger, meaner and already had quite a few drinks in him. He was telling them to basically piss off and stop talking to him, but she just had to get her words in. She was surrounded by big dudes that like her (for some reason) and figured she could say whatever she wanted to anybody with no repercussions. She learned quick.

Now if one of those douchebag guys had been leaning over, talking sh!t to a stranger and yelling in his ear, even longtime watchers would have figured he deserved it. Snookie, though? She's got a vagina, therefore "that's not cool bro" and it's totally OK to then hunt down the guy. I'm not saying it's exactly the same thing, but it does make me think. Scum is scum, and bar fights are bar fights, regardless of the genders of the people involved.

 

[Treblaine]

Because a lot of guys with a low brain:muscle ratio will hit you way harder and way more times.

It is WRONG to hit ANYONE - especially if there is a size disparity but no excuse if you are a similar size or even smaller.

But it is DUMB to hit a girl as some thug will take that as his queue to paint the sidewalk with your face. It's not logic, it's emotions, animal instincts even. Wrath is inspired in them when potential mates are harmed.

Now hitting someone in self-defence it has to be such a situation where hitting back is actually the best way to defend yourself.

"fighting" is not about self defence, it is barely tolerable when two similarly capable men get into fisticuffs but when it is man vs woman more often it just ends up as domestic abuse with the man

OP: you have a height advantage and I bet you have higher muscle:fat ratio than your sister. You shouldn't hit anyone, ever*. Especially your sister, and if you argue you DEFINITELY should not try to "solve" it by getting physical.

(*unless you really have no choice to prevent more serious physical harm = Self defence)

 

[AMAZED]

they want equality lets give it to them but that doesn't mean picking fights with women just treat both sexes the same

 

[inquisiti0n]

If a woman strikes first, it's completely fair game.

Doesn't matter if the guy is 7 feet tall, anyone who thinks the guy is in the wrong is implying that women are too stupid to know that they'll lose a fight to someone who's physically stronger. The reason the average guy doesn't go around instigating fights with bodybuilders is because he knows he'll get the shit beat out of him, and knows that no one would sympathize with him if he acted that way, so how are women allowed a free pass just because they're weaker?

If you're physically weak, then YOU are the one who needs to worry about that, not the person who you're hitting. To place blame on the guy would be to remove personal accountability from the woman, and the last thing women need is less responsibility, what with the whole equality thing and all.