Is it that hard to find a virgin?

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DracoSuave

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There are two types of men who relish the thought starting a romantic relationship with virgins.

1- The sort who get off on breaking the hymen.

2- The sort who innocently have no idea why number 1 is so bad because they've never been the guy to break the hymen.

Been there, did that, not gonna clean up the blood again.
 

Jimmy Sylvers

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Sizzle Montyjing said:
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I laughed loads at the thread title, i thought it was going to be some cultist thing...
AND THEN WE SACRAFICE HER TO CTHULU.

Yeah, that sort of thing...
:p

Anyway, you're unlikely to find anyone in the normal party scene, and most people are too afraid to admit that they are.
I lol'd at that.

No. 1 place for cultist advice: The Escapist.
 

brumby

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Yes I'd imagine it would be very hard to find a girl who was still a virgin. If they didn't partake in sex/alcohol/drugs in high school, then they definitely did so in college/university.

Sex drugs and alcohol seems exciting when your young and taking part in such activities is just experimenting and is a part of growing up. I imagine if you found someone who wasn't interested in any of that, then you found yourself a very closeted or uninteresting person. Or at least someone who isn't willing to take risks.

Why is being a virgin so important anyway? Is it just the idea of someone else leaving their shoe prints where your interested in going?
Its not an issue later in life, when all the women you'll sleep with have slept with probably countless other men before you. I can definitely see the appeal; It erases all thoughts of jealousy that manifest itself from the idea of your girl having previous lovers (that were probably better than you).
 

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You're not supposed to be fucking sacrificing them. Your standards are pretty bat-shit high, and you don't really seem to have any reason for it.
 

similar.squirrel

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Just join a gaming forum. Oh, wait..


Also, you're going to have a very difficult time finding a partner with those criteria. People, on the whole, tend to like enjoying themselves.
 

Kyle 2175

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Well, technically, I'm still in high school, but I don't have any interest in drinking, smoking, etc. I have actual hobbies, and poisoning myself isn't one of them. As for sex, well, it exists, can't say I can see the appeal of it much either, except as part of a healthy relationship, and I have more important things to pursue than relationships; I'm pretty sure a fair amount of people who are about my age, on the other hand, are quite the opposite. Part of my attitude is disinterest, the rest is is strict adherence to the law.

Edit: While I can understand not wanting to be with people who do/did these things as teenagers, adults have every right to drink, smoke(though I can't imagine being around people who smoke frequently being pleasant) and have sex. Ilegal drugs are, well, it's in the name. Alcoholism would also be a concern, but casual/social drinking is normal. The only reason to care if someone has had sex before is STDs; virgins are, obviously, unlikely to have them. My view being that before having sex with someone you haven't before is to both get checked, even if none of the partners have had sex before, STDs can be caught from needles, including discarded ones, and people have accidently stepped/fell on them before. I'm extremely into the safety part of safety vs. risk, though, probably overzealous about it. That is to ensure safety for all participants, however, not elitist 'morals'.
 

Zack Alklazaris

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In my experience its fairly difficult to find someone who is that straight edge. Most people I talked to had sex before they got out of high school. I was kind of like you, I didn't lose my virginity till I was 22 and stayed away from drugs and drinking till I was 20. (Oh college)

My advice is that if you want to go this route you need to remember that every year the passes the chances of you finding someone you love, find attractive, and lives up to these standards will become rarer and rarer.
 

Digitaldreamer7

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Don't worry OP, this will all change when you exit high school, that or you will be forever alone. Also This REEKS like religious indoctrination at an early age, Madonna-whore complex, only child, and an extreme Oedipus complex.
 

DracoSuave

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Dumbfish1 said:
Mortis Nuncius said:
Oh, and never have done any drugs, legal or illegal, for recreational reasons.
SO you've never taken alchol or caffeine. Or aspirin?
Is replying to verbal irony with situational irony, itself, dramatic irony?
 

Zyxzy

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Well, my understanding of the matter is inhibited by my non-existent social life, but I doubt such people are highly rare.

Dumbfish1 said:
Mortis Nuncius said:
Oh, and never have done any drugs, legal or illegal, for recreational reasons.
SO you've never taken alchol or caffeine. Or aspirin?
People use aspirin for recreational purposes?
 

TheLaofKazi

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I'm still a virgin and have never used drugs for recreational reasons. The virgin part usually doesn't bother me until I think too much about it. Then I fall into that "I'm going on 19 years old and I'm still a virgin and I feel dysfunctional and unacceptable regarding my orientation, experience and gender and someone please hold me" hole. It's not fun. But then eventually I give up on dealing with reality and get lost in my imagination because I'm one of those crazy INFP, type-4 people that just do that. I don't even need drugs.

While I understand where you are coming from, and while personally I wouldn't mind someone that has a sexual history and does certain drugs in moderation (no hard drugs), your preference for a partner that doesn't should be respected. Although I'm going to be honest, your standard is quite unreasonable, and sticking to it strictly is probably not going to land you in a good, happy relationship, at least anytime soon. I would suggest not waiting, and to give more people a chance. Don't wait for the "perfect" person to come along, because to be honest, you don't who would work best for you, and the best way to find out is to date people instead of waiting.

The least you could do is start by considering a relationship with people who do have some sort of history involving those things, assuming they have changed their ways now. People can change and turn around their life. I'm sure you would accept someone who, for example, used to neglect their health by eating tons of fast food and not exercising at all, but then changed their lifestyle. But why be so inflexible regarding irresponsible sex and drugs? Both are harmful. Hell, fast food and lack of exercise can, arguably, be more harmful.

Just because they have done those things that you don't like in the past doesn't mean they are still doing them or will continue, just as someone who hasn't done those things could start. People change, and nothing lasts.
 

Axammar

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No. To all of the questions. Grew up in Scotland man! Ya hear things y'know......;P
 

Red Bomb

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Each to their own. I think OP is on their high horse abit though (sorry OP!).
I'm 24, female, don't smoke (it's disgusting) but have prevously taken drugs, I drink (sometimes too much), I have sex (but no 1 night stands/fuck buddies etc), I have tattoos and piercings...So in your eyes that must make me someone who does not respect myself and has very low morals? I can assure you, that is NOT that case.
No drinking/smoking/drugs - ok great. The 'must be virgin' is abit...questionable. What if a girl you really like has had sex in a previous relationship years ago but only a handful of times because she felt extremely pressured and bullied into it by her ex. She didn't enjoy it, left it a few years and now wants to spend some intimate time with you..Do you say no because you have (what you think) the moral high ground? Or do you say, "ok I really like you, and you 'tick all the boxes' apart from you've had sex but given the bakcground of that situation I can overlook it?"
Just throwing some ideas around.
 

Terrara

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Basically you are looking for a nun?
Well, I'm a virgin (physical one at least. Can't say about moral after Binding of Isaac) and I'm in grade 13, I never drank more then half a glass of alcohol in one day, I don't do any illegal drugs unless you count WoW (but I'm done with it. Really) No smoking because I do biology.
But. I doubt that I would want to date someone like you. Just saying - can you offer anything of that back? Will you continue to be affectionate to a girl you are dating for many years(assuming you want a long term relationship)? It seems you are looking for someone who will be utterly devoted to you and I agree it is a nice thought. I also think that any couple needs a healthy dose of going to the side. As long as that side does not have any sexually transmitted diseases and takes safety measures.
 

Beryl77

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Right off the top of my head, I couldn't name you any girl nor boy who didn't have sex already, even less drank or smoked pot.
So, at least where I live it does seem hard finding a person like that.
 

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I lost my virginity to my current girlfriend who was also a virgin. Not that it bothered me, but it did give me some peace of mind regarding possible cheating. She drinks more than I do (I detest alcohol, so its an easy feat) and during highschool we both engaged in some recreational abuse though nothing that could be regarded as "hard" in any sense.
Now both of us use no drugs and barely drink. Its a maturity thing really. Back then those things were the shit.. now their meaningless. The same goes for any smoking/ promiscuity or drinking during high school
 

parky85

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Had sex 4 the first time a few weeks ago, im 18.
Its not that great and its WAY harder then you think.
I smoke weed and drink occasionally.

I know this dosen't mean anything to you ( as i was in the same boat), but there's nothing wrong with not doing these things if ur not happy with it.
 

Racecarlock

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Unfortunately most virgins have been sacrificed to the great fire god of underworld 6. So good luck there.