ImBigBob said:
And...that's the problem. I'm a single guy. If I meet a girl who is cute, interesting, and likes the same dorky things I do, why wouldn't I be attracted to her?
See, I wouldn't really call that "attraction". It probably feels like it from where you're standing because you have nothing to compare it to, but if you're anything like me as you get older you'll probably start to recognize it as curiosity.
A lot of women feel that curiosity too, they just seem to learn much younger to separate it from genuine attraction. I suspect because, unfortunately, if you're just attracted to anyone with the right sexual organs, then your attraction can only be worth very little to anyone you might give it to.
In short, this is where you learn discrimination. This is where you dive in and learn that some women are different from others. Some will make good friends, some will come to mean something more. Yeah, you might find you want to rush into a relationship with someone who really doesn't want to, but this in itself is a learning experience.. namely that someone who doesn't want to be a relationship with you is probably not someone you would be good with if you ever
did get into a relationship with them.
Too many guys fail to learn that lesson.
So yeah, at the end of the day if you want to end up like.. certain other posters then don't ever talk to women and simply observe them from a distance, making notes and collecting data like you're observing some alien species.
But if you want to be able to genuinely function in a society with women in it, you need to learn to talk to them like actual human beings. I know that might sound obvious, but trust me.. I know how difficult it is, and how rewarding it can be when it finally starts to fall into place.
