Is this at all acceptable?

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Digitaldreamer7

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I'd like to add to this, after reading comments from people who think this is violence and/or assault. Question OP. How old are you??

What difference does it make you say?

Well, if you are in america, a big difference. Because unless you are married, legally emancipated, or emancipated by parenthood, it's the legal guardian's responsibility to take care of you with or without your permission until you turn 18.

So if you aren't 18, shut up and use the shampoo. If you are 18, move the fuck out and get your own place if you want to make the rules.
 

TheTurtleMan

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That's pretty creepy, although you lost my sympathy when you said that you refused to use shampoo that would fix the problem.
 

Beryl77

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While he certainly can't just mess with your body without your consent, your hygiene is something that can affect other people as well, especially when you're living with them. You should consider that when you talk with him about it.
Is there any specific reason why you don't want to use anti-dandruff shampoo? I have dandruff myself and it gets pretty nasty if I don't do anything against it.
 

Chewster

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I would say no, since he doesn't have your permission to do so. At the same time, if he has a legitimate health concern over it and you have to live with him, you should probably take care of it. Even if this isn't a health problem for him, you really ought to just respect his wishes and get a medicated shampoo.

It isn't hard, there are plenty of them out there.
 

PinkiePyro

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ugg thats just creepy you should lock your door or something he shouldn't be messing with your scalp like that

I support you in your case not to use dandruff shampoo
i also have dandruff and don't use the shampoo because that stuff smells nasty XP
 

Rosalia Nightsong

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I almost want to say this is one giant troll. Almost.

But I have a little more faith in humanity than that, so I am going with my alternate theory. What if the OP does not actually have this issue, but instead came up with this hypothetical scenario to read people's reactions? OR... What if the OP is actually the grandfather and is trying to see if it would be okay to go rape his grandson's hair with shampoo?

Now for a more on-topic response...

Personal hygiene is just that. It is PERSONAL. Ultimately, you choose how clean you wish to be, and no one else can choose that for you. Your grandfather is not in the right, here. He can, by no ethical means, determine your level of hygiene for you.
Now, assuming you are under 18 and he has legal guardianship of you, then he can hand out punishment after punishment until you bend to his will and clean yourself (he could even take away your internets!). If you ARE 18 (or are legally emancipated), then he can simply throw you out because it IS his house, not yours.

Take, for example, this scenario: I have a co-worker who never wears deodorant and always smells terrible. My boss told him that he needs to start wearing deodorant as his smell is offensive. In this situation, my boss cannot put deodorant in my co-worker's armpits. However, if my co-worker refuses to comply, it constitutes a violation of company policy and he can be fired. Simple as that.


So I hold no sympathy for you. If it as simple as using a better shampoo and showering every day, then I suggest you grow up. Welcome to the real world.
Of course, if it is worse than that, then seek professional advice. I absolutely understand that Head and Shoulders might not do the job for you, but... You should at least be making an effort to be clean (if not for your sake, then for the sanity of those around you!)
 

idarkphoenixi

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Dude just wash your hair. Have some personal hygeine, it's not that hard.

I'd normally call what he was doing creepy and werid, which to a point it is. But Jesus, if he's willing to sneak into your room and put shampoo on there while your asleep how fucking bad is your dandruff problem?
 

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AtheistGuy said:
So to make a long story short, I have dandruff. This dandruff bothers my grandfather (Who I live with). I don't want to use any shampoo for it since it, quite honestly, doesn't bother me in the least. So he's taken it upon himself to actually put some drops on my head to get rid of it. The problem? I'm asleep when he does it.

SO it's a pretty straightforward question. Is this acceptable?
Let me get this straight.

You have a severe(or at least notable) dandruff problem to the point that your father's father is bothered by all the deceased epidermis you're littering around the place and when he asks you to wash your hair when you take a bath/shower, you are saying no? Thus forcing him to take drastic measures?

What is it about washing your hair semi-regularly that bothers you? Are you afraid that it's poisonous or damaging to your scalp? Are you against hygienics in general?
 

TheGauntman

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Abandon4093 said:
TheGauntman said:
Abandon4093 said:
TheGauntman said:
I'm appalled that the bulk of the replies have been "yeah your grandfather is wrong, but you should do something about your dandruff".

If the OP had long hair that bothered his grandfather, and the grandfather crept in and cut it off during the night, would you all say "yeah that was wrong, but you should have cut your hair". Or if the OP had a favourite t-shirt that the grandfather didn't like, and he threw it away while the OP slept, would you all say "yeah that was wrong, but you should have got rid of the t-shirt already".

I'm not saying whether it's right or wrong of the OP to retain his dandruff (I have a mild case and damn right I use anti-dandruff shampoo), but if he's okay with it then that's good enough for me.
A personal choice in appearance and flaking all over someone's house... =/=

I'm appalled you compared the two.
My point wasn't the specifics of my examples, but that the grandfather in question has taken it upon himself to sneakily alter something about the OP's 'personal choice in appearance' and the posters in this thread implicitly endorsed it.

And 'flaking all over someone's house...'? Hyperbole much? We have no indication of the severity of the OP's scalp condition and a lot of people are acting like there's snow drifts all over the lounge room. Until provided with extra details, I'm going with 'meddling old man trying to control grandson's appearance'.
Maybe you should read the whole thread before making assumptions.
Abandon4093 said:
TheGauntman said:
Abandon4093 said:
TheGauntman said:
I'm appalled that the bulk of the replies have been "yeah your grandfather is wrong, but you should do something about your dandruff".

If the OP had long hair that bothered his grandfather, and the grandfather crept in and cut it off during the night, would you all say "yeah that was wrong, but you should have cut your hair". Or if the OP had a favourite t-shirt that the grandfather didn't like, and he threw it away while the OP slept, would you all say "yeah that was wrong, but you should have got rid of the t-shirt already".

I'm not saying whether it's right or wrong of the OP to retain his dandruff (I have a mild case and damn right I use anti-dandruff shampoo), but if he's okay with it then that's good enough for me.
A personal choice in appearance and flaking all over someone's house... =/=

I'm appalled you compared the two.
My point wasn't the specifics of my examples, but that the grandfather in question has taken it upon himself to sneakily alter something about the OP's 'personal choice in appearance' and the posters in this thread implicitly endorsed it.

And 'flaking all over someone's house...'? Hyperbole much? We have no indication of the severity of the OP's scalp condition and a lot of people are acting like there's snow drifts all over the lounge room. Until provided with extra details, I'm going with 'meddling old man trying to control grandson's appearance'.
Maybe you should read the whole thread before making assumptions.
What part of my posts led you to think I didn't read the whole thread?
 

ccggenius12

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I like Head and Shoulders, it works about as well as any other shampoo, and I'm ready if nitrogen based aliens decide to invade our planet.
 

Del-Toro

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The great thing about Head and Shoulders is that, even though it's largely about combatting dandruff, it does in fact function just fine in the standard tasks of a shampoo, you don't have to use regular shampoo afterwards, you can do it very easily during your shower. Mind you if the idea of using shampoo is as something you'd have to start doing then I'm not convinced you're taking showers to begin with. Perhaps you'd like to start doing that, the march of history clearly shows that maintaining good hygiene staves off infectious disease and severly impairs the spread of bubonic plague. Once you've worked that into your schedule you might find that the inclusion of a quick shampooing feels like an utterly trivial addition that will pay high dividends unless you're forming dreadlocks or trying to have shiny hair like an anime character.

Tzekelkan said:
All right, everybody agrees that sneaking into your room to mess with your hair is creepy.

On the other hand, apparently every single poster would do it to you anyway, since wanting to have bad personal hygiene is creepy as well.
At the very least I, were I in the grandfather's position, would want to limit the quantity of dandruff in my house.
 

game-lover

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It looks like I'm going to be different here and be one of the only people here to say I don't quite believe it's creepy.

Hell he's family and an authority figure. Plus it's just your hair. Parental figures come into rooms of their dependents often and there's nothing creepy about those times.

That being said, dude. You should shampoo your hair.

My mom said if she were your grandpa, she'd just force you to do so.
 

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AtheistGuy said:
So to make a long story short, I have dandruff. This dandruff bothers my grandfather (Who I live with). I don't want to use any shampoo for it since it, quite honestly, doesn't bother me in the least. So he's taken it upon himself to actually put some drops on my head to get rid of it. The problem? I'm asleep when he does it.

SO it's a pretty straightforward question. Is this acceptable?
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GET SOME HEAD AND SHOULDERS DUDE!!! thats fucking nasty!!!
 

TheGauntman

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Abandon4093 said:
TheGauntman said:
What part of my posts led you to think I didn't read the whole thread?
The part where you said, 'we have no indication of the severity of the OP's scalp.'

Go read.
Fair enough. I missed the OP's reply to your post.

However, his response reinforces my opinion his dandruff isn't that bad and the grandfather is being intrusive beyond the reasonable expectation of a guardian/grandparent. IF the OP's condition was as bad as the 'C' in your post I'd agree extreme steps were needed. But 'A' and occasionally 'B' don't warrant sneaky application of scalp treatments.
 

AtheistGuy

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Abandon4093 said:
To reiterate. It's that bad in an absolute worst-case scenario like a pipe breaking, medical emergencies or natural disasters. In every other situation you can only tell if you press your face against my skull to look for it.
 

Yopaz

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So you are unwilling to do a minor thing that will make both you and your grandfather's life better? Clearly your grandfather is the one who's crazy here...
 

Skarvig

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AtheistGuy said:
To reiterate. It's that bad in an absolute worst-case scenario like a pipe breaking, medical emergencies or natural disasters. In every other situation you can only tell if you press your face against my skull to look for it.
Sorry but this is not how it works. You would have to take a photo, or better yet, let your grandpa take a picture. Because there are people people who tell you they are not too fat even though they are not able to reach their damn toes. People overestimate themselfs and underestimate others.
Your grandfahter is right to do so and you should do something against your bad hair.

BTW. Here is a nice Cracked article that explains it.
http://www.cracked.com/article_19177_5-shocking-ways-you-overestimate-yourself.html