psijac said:
By your logic, if your niece has played with a Barbie doll or watched Who Framed Roger Rabbit then she is already forever ruined.
Okay, psijac, I'm going to have to ask you to point to anything I said that so much as implies I think any one, specific piece of entertainment will constitute the whole of her worldview, or that it will "ruin her forever," whatever that even means. Or actually, don't bother trying to find that statement of mine, because I didn't say any such thing and you're not actually arguing with me or with anything I said; you're conversing with some hysteria-driven strawman you want me to be. I will thank you to stop doing that.
But because I have apparently somehow been unclear, let me state my position as explicitly as I know how. It is a deeply ingrained habit of mine to speak in simile and metaphor, so if I am ambiguous at any point during the following explanation, please forgive me for my bad habit and let me know what I can clarify for you.
I believe that most of what children learn, they learn at an unconscious level, through observation of the world around them. For example, no one teaches a child to walk by sitting her down and explaining the mechanics before running her through test trials; the kid just watches, and imitates, and eventually learns it through mimicry.
I believe that everywhere an American looks, there's an image of a woman who fits within a very rigid definition of beauty. I further believe that the way those women are presented is much more likely than not aimed at heterosexual men, as if women exist not as individuals but rather by definition of their relationship to men.
I believe that all of the above factors combine to form a society that is silently and subliminally teaching girls that their value as people is defined by their sexual attractiveness. I believe that the sheer weight of this influence is almost completely overwhelming, to the point that I believe anyone who says "It's the parents' job to teach them different" is speaking from motivations I can't even fathom but that I kind of suspect are based on a territorial desire to maintain the volume of wank material flowing in his direction.
I believe that the Sorceress is just one character. I believe all characters are, individually, just one character. I just so happen to believe that they have an additive effect, so that the Sorceress and Lara Croft and
Other M Samus Aran and Tifa Lockhart and Tina Armstrong and Ivy Valentine and all the rest of them combine to send the unambiguous message that women should be valued for their sexual attractiveness first and foremost, and for any other characteristics second if at all.
I believe my niece is just one child, but I believe there are probably a whole bunch of other girls her age who are learning the same things she's learning by the same methods she's learning them, and as such I believe it's perfectly fair to use her as a symbol of all girl-children who are being taught to base their worth on their weight and measurements. I also believe boys are learning the same lessons about how women should be judged, and that it is equally problematic, but for personal reasons I am more concerned with what the girls are learning.
I believe that, though a lot of baggage is being inflicted on girls as we speak, everyone has baggage and the idea that they are "ruined forever" is nothing but useless hyperbole meant to dishonestly depict my position as one that overreacts to the problem so immensely that it should be ridiculed and ignored rather than considered. I further believe that "Muslim women have it worse" is an intellectually harmful idea, encouraging people to accept a base of relativism for their morality so that anyone who can provide an example of something worse than whatever he's accused of will become immune to moral evaluation and judgment.
Those are the things I believe. If you have a problem with them, then I invite you to discuss them with me calmly and rationally, because another thing I believe is that reasonable people can disagree honorably. If, however, you are not interested in an honest exchange of ideas with the intention of increasing one another's understanding, then I invite you to please keep your comments to yourself, as I find such conversations useless and tiresome.