"Marrying an American woman" is actually slang on the gay scene, and it means "endlessly fantasizing about David Boreanaz". "Adopting her son" means...well, it's not exactly work-safe, but you can find it in the footnotes to the most recent edition of The Gay Agenda if you're interested.JimB said:Is he? I'd have sworn he mentioned being married to an American woman and having adopted her son.Jandau said:I get the impression that Jim might be gay...
So am I... I go out and wear my company T Shirt to see if I can get a free drink. All that happens is I end up talking to the bartender about what games they like.SonicWaffle said:Honestly, I'm pretty confused. On the one hand people are telling me that we're the cool kids now, and on the other people are saying we're a group of outcasts whose interests are still looked down on by the majority of society. It might be easier to think of it in terms of the latter - at least that way I can pretend that I'm uncool because of social prejudice rather than because I'm actually pretty lame!thebakedpotato said:I thought we were the cool and popular now?SonicWaffle said:No, no. We won't throw you out. We'll just force you to sit a monthly check-up test to prove you haven't become one of the normals. You know, naming all the FFVII summons or reciting the steps to obtain the Biggoron Sword.Lilani said:Will my nerd credentials expire when my pant size drops below a certain number? Will I then be subjected to these "checks" because I'm just "too cute" to be accepted on face value?
If you can't do it, then your credentials will expire, and you'll have to go away and be cool and popular.
Are you being held in gaming against your will?Darmani said:Why only OUTCASTS play games here we game here because we're outcasts and she's not just not one of us she's categorically from appearance never going to HAVE To be one of us. I mean if a white couple joins a black church I assure you they will both stand out AND get talked about.
You have a large group (geeks) that have traditionally been outcasts, but someone (media companies) recently realized that there's a TON more geeks than was stereotypicaly acknowledged (due to many hiding said tendencies because of outcast status), and started widely catering to them. This happened alongside a sort of geek "revolution" with the geek culture coming to the same realization, resulting in the massive expansion of conventions and the like. Unfortunately, the perception of being an outcast continues, as does a strong (unhealthy) "Us vs. Them" mentality. So you have a group that has become a major target group of media ("cool kids", but only in the money-sink sense), that still gets horribly defensive about anything of theirs being questioned or any perception of threat, regardless of reality.SonicWaffle said:Honestly, I'm pretty confused. On the one hand people are telling me that we're the cool kids now, and on the other people are saying we're a group of outcasts whose interests are still looked down on by the majority of society. It might be easier to think of it in terms of the latter - at least that way I can pretend that I'm uncool because of social prejudice rather than because I'm actually pretty lame!
I did once have a barman compliment me on my Penny Arcade t-shirt!thebakedpotato said:So am I... I go out and wear my company T Shirt to see if I can get a free drink. All that happens is I end up talking to the bartender about what games they like.
FYI: Jim's been "out" awhile.WaitWHAT said:"Guys leading me on with their muscular buns and slick calf muscles."
"using their supple, smooth bodies and elegant nipples to sell themselves on sex appeal"
Jim....it's time for you to come out of there.
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OT: Well, I didn't think that this was such a problem. I'd've thought that everyone could get on nicely, liking the things they like and peacefully letting others do the same. But if Jim's having to do a video on it, I may well have been wrong.
But his point with the test is there shouldn't BE a test. It's not just that it's sarcastic, but also that the whole "test" thing is ridiculous. We are now gauging how much like you have for the things you like so the club can stay all exclusive? I'm a gamer, but really gaming gets in the way of activities that are actually productive to me, we all have these things we do that aren't necessarily productive. My point is who gets all worked up where they fit into that niche?Jannes Ehmke said:I agree here, a phrase I hear way too often for saying 'out of all the call of duty games I prefer the first one, the more recent ones seem to have lost the plot of what the game was about' that "Oh you're one of those guys..."
On the other hand I never finished Zelda or Mario, mostly because when I was young we never had a console, I got to play games on my father's work computer after hours, meaning that what most memorably what I got to play was along the lines of Doom and Quake, and later Age of Empires.
So then you get scoffed for being an old gamer who dislikes the way the industry is going, but then get scoffed for not playing the same titles the others did. A few friends are in the same situation, we get flak from all directions and ended up withdrawing from the community as a whole, playing by ourselves or amongst ourselves.
That being said, what is a true gamer, does our dedication to making the best of a situation, finding a way to play games even when we had such restricted access not count. That by the time we could have our own PCs, we spent the majority of our free time in a garage to LAN, sometimes for weeks on end. Does that not warrant the term gamer?
My point here being that if I was to be given Jim's test I'd likely fail, but then it doesn't change the fact that I've been gaming since I could create cognitive thought and have dedicated my life to it.
I realise that it's satire to a degree and that it's disproportional but at the end of the day true feeling lays behind it and in effect is an attitude no different to those you describe so flatteringly.
Firstly, 40%+ of the gaming population shouldn't be a niche, perceived or otherwise. Secondly, until there's a grand high dictator-for-life of the gaming industry, pulling a problem out by the roots is nothing more than a fancy way of saying "ignore the problem and maybe it'll go away". All we have is various kinds of weedkiller (criticism and supporting non-weeds when possible).DrThodt said:Uhh..this is still a thing?
Come on, the problem is a little more widespread than what genitals you own while playing with your controller, it's just how internet culture works. People filter themselves into small niche groups, then find another group to pick on, it's how the internet has worked since it's become popular. Weeaboos pick on furries, goons pick on weeaboos, everyone picks on bronies. Join any niche internet community, and you will see examples of this.
Yes, none of it is right, or justified, but you will not fix such a problem simply trimming at the weeds that pop out of the soil. To fix a problem like this one, you have to pull the roots out.
I'm having a really hard time understanding you, here. Gamers are outcasts not because we play games and games are regarded distastefully by popular culture, but because we're physically unappealing? Are you suggesting that video games are the province of ugly people, and that we're social outcasts because of it?Darmani said:Why only OUTCASTS play games here we game here because we're outcasts and she's not just not one of us she's categorically from appearance never going to HAVE To be one of us. I mean if a white couple joins a black church I assure you they will both stand out AND get talked about.
You're operating under the assumption that there is a "nerd type" beyond "someone who likes nerdy things". Does someone have to look like Urkel before we accept that they might actually like video games?Darmani said:Samus Aran part...
Mainly the frustration with male nerd gatekeeping. It IS wrong and a problem, to a degree. Most girls in gaming I know are perfectly legit. Others just dabblers, others are tangentially related (they like cosplay and its between conventions and this social gathering seems okay and they know who they cosplay as). They are all accepted. BUT also there is natural part where someone who who looks and acts say totally against nerd type joins.
Why? Is this the beauty/outcast thing again? Vin Deisel is pretty much the epitome of the musclebound jock stereotype, and the guy loves D&D. I wouldn't be surprised at all if Brad Pitt said he liked to play video games; they are an entertainment medium with something for everyone.Darmani said:Lets say Brad Pitt got on an interview and professed his gamer credentials. It would seem ridiculous, at least to me.
So it is an appearance thing. Someone who looks "normal" can't possibly be a nerd because they don't know how we poor, marginalised few have suffered!? I'm sorry, but it's nonsense. Most nerds I know look and act totally "normal". There's no way to know what someone is into just by looking at them, because even if they're wearing, say, a Nuka Cola t-shirt you can't extrapolate that they also love anime and were always picked last for team sports.Darmani said:Male nerds are doing that to females who have been IN the culture and the vast swaths joining in recently. At least part of the initial rejection is they are new and different. And its underlining all response to them (women are reacting as a collective, experiencing as a collective, responded to as a collective).
If somemone looks like they could hack it as normal and NOT socially rejected it feels off they just take a shirt FROM the socially rejected and they are part of group that's trendy (so not just socially accepted but usually with the power).
That depends. Is she interested in having that conversation? You can't judge that based on how "normal" you think she looks. She might be a supermodel decked out in designer fashions and still have a better K/D ratio on CoD than you do. She might be wearing a Batman t-shirt just because she likes the logo and has never read a comic in her life. If a girl wants to have a conversation with you about geek culture, it's probably a safe bet that she wants to talk about geek culture because it interests her; after all, if we're as ugly as you seem to be saying, what other reason would she have for talking to us than because she wanted to chat about things that interest her?Darmani said:Then add in the activities. Gamers gather to share stats and game, sometimes, or discuss geek ephemera. But can you have that conversation with the person who looks like she would be anywhere but here? I mean she has that tshirt but.. uhm okay. That's assuming no cosplay, not glompme signs, no cross fandom stuff.
Is it really 40%+ of the gaming population that reacts in this way? If that's really the case, there really is no hope for it. As far as a valid solution, I'm really just leaning towards a more sociological approach, not simply getting into shouting wars that no one wins. I've seen such tactics applied, and the minority always just ends up oppressed, and feeling alienated from their own community. Sound familiar?JarinArenos said:Firstly, 40%+ of the gaming population shouldn't be a niche, perceived or otherwise. Secondly, until there's a grand high dictator-for-life of the gaming industry, pulling a problem out by the roots is nothing more than a fancy way of saying "ignore the problem and maybe it'll go away". All we have is various kinds of weedkiller (criticism and supporting non-weeds when possible).
Agreed. Sorry I ever did it. Just saying it happens for a reason and its not some unsympathetic ones. The message is still right. Stop gatekeeping its horrible. Stop assuming any girl you see isn't part of the deal, that's sexist. Don't quiz her, you may personally only be dealing iwth fear or skepticism but she's been going through this hour after hour for ten years and its unwelcoming.Phasmal said:Are you being held in gaming against your will?Darmani said:Why only OUTCASTS play games here we game here because we're outcasts and she's not just not one of us she's categorically from appearance never going to HAVE To be one of us. I mean if a white couple joins a black church I assure you they will both stand out AND get talked about.
Never `having` to be one of us? As if it's some terrible thing to resort to?
You don't sound like you enjoy it.
You know, you might have had a point if only conventionally attractive women who are new to gaming got this fake shit, but they don't. I'm kind of a plain-jane myself, and not new at all to gaming- and I was an OUTCAST too, and I still get this crap.
And it has to stop.
I think the 40%+ figure was meant to indicate female gamers, rather than gamers who get all shitty about female gamers.DrThodt said:Is it really 40%+ of the gaming population that reacts in this way? If that's really the case, there really is no hope for it.