Love, why can't you find it?
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I ended up finding it.
The reasons I couldn't find it before are as follows:
1) Bad luck (girls I liked always taken)
2) Mild desperation, because I really wanted to find someone. It was only when I decided "you know what? I don't need a girlfriend in order to be happy. Whenever it happens, it happens, I'm not gonna rush this." that I got lucky and found someone. If I was still in that mindset when I found her, I would likely have become super clingy.
...Although most of it was just bad luck.
FYI, currently in a relationship that's lasted 8 months so far. We're still doing great.
The reasons I couldn't find it before are as follows:
1) Bad luck (girls I liked always taken)
2) Mild desperation, because I really wanted to find someone. It was only when I decided "you know what? I don't need a girlfriend in order to be happy. Whenever it happens, it happens, I'm not gonna rush this." that I got lucky and found someone. If I was still in that mindset when I found her, I would likely have become super clingy.
...Although most of it was just bad luck.
FYI, currently in a relationship that's lasted 8 months so far. We're still doing great.
Why I can't or won't find the 'L' word...
1. I don't like humans very much, and they gladly return the favor.
2. My computer hasn't cheated on me with another, better gamer than I (not that I have been cheated on, I don't have enough of a social life for that to ever happen).
3. I value my alone time too much, and nearly no extravert I've ever talked to can understand that.
4. I'm not human enough to approach another human and start talking. It's like I'm in a talent show and I only have 5 seconds to completely wow the other person, otherwise they're gonna run like hell (applies to females, males would prefer to swing with a blunt object).
5. I'm overweight with skinny arms. I'm certain no human finds that attractive.
1. I don't like humans very much, and they gladly return the favor.
2. My computer hasn't cheated on me with another, better gamer than I (not that I have been cheated on, I don't have enough of a social life for that to ever happen).
3. I value my alone time too much, and nearly no extravert I've ever talked to can understand that.
4. I'm not human enough to approach another human and start talking. It's like I'm in a talent show and I only have 5 seconds to completely wow the other person, otherwise they're gonna run like hell (applies to females, males would prefer to swing with a blunt object).
5. I'm overweight with skinny arms. I'm certain no human finds that attractive.
I'm not a shy guy, I tend to be quite talkative but my downfall is me having Osteogenesis Imperfecta. You won't really notice it by looking at me except that I'm 99% of the time in a wheelchair.
Basically, I avoid relationships simply because of my condition, it brings too many complications with it.
Basically, I avoid relationships simply because of my condition, it brings too many complications with it.
It's not much better in Lampeter. It seems that 70% of the population is either below 12 or over 60.Genericjim101 said:
I do not care for women, let alone relationships with them. I am what you call a man who goes his own way, or MGTOW for short (Men going their own way).
It has enriched my life significantly.
It has enriched my life significantly.
I'm a very shy person, I don't talk to people much, and I usually spend my evenings at home. Even if I did find someone I liked I'd probably be too shy to tell her about it.
Most of the rest are uni students. The few percent yet are generally ok, though I count only about six true nerds in the entire town.Genericjim101 said:
Aye, I went to visit a friend and stayed in his dorm room there and was bored out my mind with the discussions "You promised nerds! These are philosophy students! D :".Da Orky Man said:
Lots of reasons for me:
1. I recently broke up with a girl I've known for 6 years; 3 years as friends, three years dating.
2. I have a physical disability, causes people to stare, and in my town, is an instant 'Lol, go away' (and yes, I've tried to be confident.)
3. Though I'm only 19, I lack a job or any sort of higher education because
4. I get stressed easily, I can also get paranoid and worried, and if my girl isn't around, I get depressed (I'm somewhat of a manic depressive), and as for a lack of job, this is a somewhat small town, and the disability really seems to be a turn off for employers, even with incentive from the government.
5. I'm still madly in love with my ex, and lately since she's been in a crappy self esteem I've been trying to support her as a friend would...she wants me around so much, but at the same time I annoy her. It hurts me to see her at all, especially when she just smiles and acts like it's just cool between me and her. I know I should just accept that, but to just drop me and act fine really tears me.
6. I may have possibly been friendzoned by my ex, and she was a big part of my future plans, so now in a town with no girls that will approach me nor any job opportunities, I am stuck with no goal, no direction, no confidence, and the only way I can function is to cling to the strings of what past I have left.
1. I recently broke up with a girl I've known for 6 years; 3 years as friends, three years dating.
2. I have a physical disability, causes people to stare, and in my town, is an instant 'Lol, go away' (and yes, I've tried to be confident.)
3. Though I'm only 19, I lack a job or any sort of higher education because
4. I get stressed easily, I can also get paranoid and worried, and if my girl isn't around, I get depressed (I'm somewhat of a manic depressive), and as for a lack of job, this is a somewhat small town, and the disability really seems to be a turn off for employers, even with incentive from the government.
5. I'm still madly in love with my ex, and lately since she's been in a crappy self esteem I've been trying to support her as a friend would...she wants me around so much, but at the same time I annoy her. It hurts me to see her at all, especially when she just smiles and acts like it's just cool between me and her. I know I should just accept that, but to just drop me and act fine really tears me.
6. I may have possibly been friendzoned by my ex, and she was a big part of my future plans, so now in a town with no girls that will approach me nor any job opportunities, I am stuck with no goal, no direction, no confidence, and the only way I can function is to cling to the strings of what past I have left.
Well, there's a part of me that hopes someone out there would be willing to do that, but another part of me believes that this is my burden and I have to carry it alone. I don't want anybody to share my pain and limitations.Hank Wants Pie said:
For the longest time I felt love didn't exist, not for me anyways. I never thought I would ever find any girl with enough in common in terms of likes, interest, beliefs, etc. I never thought in a million years I would ever get into a relationship because I'm too nice and very shy and I was toyed with by other girls and I couldn't find one that was caring and loyal.
I spoke in past tense because 5 months ago I got into my first real relationship with a wonderful girl who happens to be two years older than me although my mom told me someone older would be good for me, and I believe her. I love this girl very much, and she loves me as well; we make each other happy and we are open and honest with each other. I am a closed book to most people, but I can tell my girlfriend anything, and that's how I know she is good for me; no other girl has been able to learn this much about me.
I spoke in past tense because 5 months ago I got into my first real relationship with a wonderful girl who happens to be two years older than me although my mom told me someone older would be good for me, and I believe her. I love this girl very much, and she loves me as well; we make each other happy and we are open and honest with each other. I am a closed book to most people, but I can tell my girlfriend anything, and that's how I know she is good for me; no other girl has been able to learn this much about me.
Your burden does not have to mean pain to your loved one but sadly it does mean limitations, and if he/she has loved you enough to be in a relationship with you then they probably would have accepted who you are and are willing to be with you no matter what it takes.BoTTeNBReKeR said: