See, this is something that has always, always confused me.the December King said:It is sexist of me to not want to be beaten by a woman.
Your aggressive use of language made me instantly confrontational, and I leapt to, before thinking about what you said.
But it can't change on a dime, that sort of thinking. I can't just accept that sort of change just because reasons. I'll need some time to come to terms with it, if ever, because I still see the actual event, getting bested in a physical altrercation by a woman, as unacceptable.
I would like to note that it is the only way I see things like this- as an illustrator, for example, I met and worked with many brilliant artists, successful artists, men and women, many who had vastly more talent than me, and aside from perhaps a little envy, I was happy to acknowledge their skill. Perhaps this is because the area of illustration hasn't got the same gender stigma?
I'm not trying to put you on the spot or be an asshole, but why should it matter?
Personally, I have a lot of male friends. And I have had more than one occasion where I have done something better than one of them (beaten them in a poker game, won a game of MtG when it seemed certain I would lose), and they honestly had to go away for five minutes and have a little strop because I `emasculated` them.
It's really very insulting.
Now I'm not saying you're trying to be insulting, at all, but being on the receiving end of someone being not okay with you besting them because you're the wrong kind of person is really pretty crappy.
I don't get `emasculation`. Traditional masculinity seems far too invested in outside forces. If I carry a heavy shopping bag, that doesn't make my boyfriend less of a man. If he cooked a meal, it doesn't make me less of a woman.
Now, as I said I'm not targeting you personally, it's just something I don't get at all.