Lil devils x said:
Ihateregistering1 said:
My ex-girlfriend was Indian (born there, immigrated to the states). On two separate occasions, we went and ate at Indian restaurants where the entire staff was Indian, and on both occasions it was blatantly obvious that the wait staff were doing everything in their power to ignore us and didn't want anything to do with us, and when they actually came over they were rude and clearly didn't want us there. Numerous other people (both Indian and non) who came in after us were being served well before us and being treated fine. My ex-GF's theory was that they hated seeing a white guy with an Indian woman.
I had a friend who was Korean and was insanely racist against the Japanese. So bad that he skirted just on the edge of basically saying "they deserved it" when the tsunami hit Japan, without actually saying it.
Your date was probably right. When I bartended in college, I saw this quite frequently, and it isn't really one race more than another that does this, interracial couples seem to enrage people of all races. Had a white guy yelling at a blonde girl sitting with her black date one night and had to make him leave. He was irate screaming that "***** were stealing all the women!" I have heard the same thing said by black males about white guys with a black woman.
With the frequency this occurs, I am wondering if this just about race or more about competition and feelings of inadequacies. Men often are very competitive with one another over women, and maybe they feel they are not able to compete with another man of another race because if a woman finds black men more attractive than white men, for example, they cannot just make themselves black in order to compete. Just as the poor man may resent the rich man, the lonely man may resent the guy with the "hot girl" as well.
Now we do have many racist issues with interracial couples, but I am wondering if this isn't more based in jealousy than it has to do with the race of the person. "White guys stealing all our women" seems more like jealousy than racism, even if racism is a part of it, the motivation appears to be jealousy. Just like a white guy may feel inadequate in the bedroom if their date's ex was a well endowed black man and worry if he would be able to please her. I don't think it would be him being mad that her ex was black, but rather he was " well endowed" and leave him feeling inadequate.
I've often had a theory regarding this whole phenomenon (and there is some actual social science behind it).
Humans, by nature, tend to 'compartmentalize' information in their heads, and because of this we tend to form stereotypes, whether we like it or not. To give a small example: I've only met a small handful of black women in my life that I found attractive. Purely percentage-wise, much smaller a % than latino, Asian, or white women I've met. Now, this certainly doesn't mean I wouldn't date a black woman (and I have), but it does mean that my brain is aware (through sheer repetition) that the chance I'll find a random black woman attractive is smaller than the chance that I'd find a random Asian woman attractive. I've spoken to many other people who echo these ideas as well.
So what happens when, to use your example, someone sees a black man with a white woman, in theory the person should be saying "no big deal that this white girl is dating him, now there's a black girl available". The problem is that your brain knows that the chance of you finding this black girl attractive is lower than the chance of you finding that white girl attractive, and thus it activates the angry part of your brain that makes you think that this isn't a fair trade, and thus you're feeling angry.
This is, of course, largely a bunch of garbage, because it sticks people into categories instead of treating them like people, but I think the idea has some merit.
And sorry, but any white guy who feels inadequate because his GF used to date a black guy is not too bright,and probably watches too much porn. Research has shown that black men aren't any bigger than white men on average, or the difference is negligible:
http://thegrio.com/2011/07/29/six-stereotypes-the-black-community-believes-fact-or-fiction/
Sadly, the whole 'black men all have huge dongs" stereotype is a racist throwback, where imperial powers basically labeled blacks as essentially being decadent and out of control beings who had no control over their sexual lust.