Great post Lara...too bad that many people here aren't going to get it. They think they are "nice guys" but really they are Nice Guys (TM).
Hey all you folks who think you are nice guys and women are the problem because they won't date you because they only date jerks...you often go on about how you listen to women...well listen to them when they tell you nice guys are usually entitled jerks and not nice at all.
Here is a website that talks more about this in depth...
http://www.heartless-bitches.com/rants/niceguys/ng.shtml
Opening text on the page:
"All too often we hear self-professed "Nice Guys" complaining about why they can't get a date, and whining that women just want to date jerks, etc. etc. The truth of the matter is that there are genuinely caring, compassionate, decent, fun guys out there who have NO TROUBLE meeting people, getting dates, and having relationships.
Unfortunately, many of the guys who DO have trouble, insist that women don't want them because they are "too Nice". These people who call themselves "Nice Guys" can't see that THEIR OWN behavior is the problem. That behavior either drives women away or attracts the WORST kind of predator - one who is manipulative and self-serving. Whether it is targeting women who are troubled to begin with, setting themselves up to be taken advantage of, or acting in a manipulative, patronizing or obsequious fashion, these guys sabotage themselves and often blame "all women" for their misfortunes.
This section is devoted to the guys who suffer from that self-professed "Nice Guy" affliction. Here is the place to find out why YOUR behavior isn't as "Nice" as you think it is..."
Hey all you folks who think you are nice guys and women are the problem because they won't date you because they only date jerks...you often go on about how you listen to women...well listen to them when they tell you nice guys are usually entitled jerks and not nice at all.
Here is a website that talks more about this in depth...
http://www.heartless-bitches.com/rants/niceguys/ng.shtml
Opening text on the page:
"All too often we hear self-professed "Nice Guys" complaining about why they can't get a date, and whining that women just want to date jerks, etc. etc. The truth of the matter is that there are genuinely caring, compassionate, decent, fun guys out there who have NO TROUBLE meeting people, getting dates, and having relationships.
Unfortunately, many of the guys who DO have trouble, insist that women don't want them because they are "too Nice". These people who call themselves "Nice Guys" can't see that THEIR OWN behavior is the problem. That behavior either drives women away or attracts the WORST kind of predator - one who is manipulative and self-serving. Whether it is targeting women who are troubled to begin with, setting themselves up to be taken advantage of, or acting in a manipulative, patronizing or obsequious fashion, these guys sabotage themselves and often blame "all women" for their misfortunes.
This section is devoted to the guys who suffer from that self-professed "Nice Guy" affliction. Here is the place to find out why YOUR behavior isn't as "Nice" as you think it is..."