Good to see some clarification there, but I still take issue with this:
'And next time, be honest about your intentions from the very get-go.'
So you should immediately ask someone out if you find them attractive without any attempt to get to know them, forgoing any chance to see if you're actually right for each other in the first place? Okay sure...that's not impetuous or anything...
As for this whole 'Nice guy' thing I think it comes down to intent and sense of entitlement, this being a fairly good summary:
mechashiva77 said:
I'll try to add a good example here: "She should love me! I deserve her because I listened to her problems, gave her gifts, and treated her with respect. I am entitled to have her because I was nice, whether she likes me or not."
That's completely different than: "I am nice and polite to women. If they don't like me then I will continue to be nice to them, and try to find someone else."
The former is obssessive and uncapable of accepting their feelings are unrequited, who's only stake in being 'nice' is the hope of being emotionally/physically compensated, while the latter doesn't need to be told twice and won't hold some petty grudge over the person they were after. If we can just level it down to that, it'd be great, at the moment I'm a little concerned that people seem to be conflating introverted, reticent, coy or passive/accomadating behaviour with that of the 'Nice guy'. And another thing:
JaceArveduin said:
I know I'm not either version of a "nice guy".
Ditto, it just comes off as arrogant to hear anyone proclaim themselves to be a nice guy/'nice guy'. I think neutral would be the best description for me.
JaceArveduin said:
oh well, back to blowin shit up I go!
I hope that's a game you're talking about there Jace...otherwise I might class you as Chaotic Nuetral. :3