Chances are if a kid is going to preschool their parents are not so dumb as to allow their child to grow up to be sexist, and most certainly a child will not even learn about this subject matter until later in their life.
I'm not saying constantly separate the two, I'm saying don't shy away from it. Yeah, in a multiracial class you'd just generalize and say "kids", but if it became necessary, you'd use it as a descriptive factor. They shouldn't actively stamp out gender specific words, and actually inventing a gender neutral way of saying him or her is over the top. If necessary to talk to the whole class, you could talk to the boys and the girls by saying "kids" or "children". words like "him/her" are for specific people, though and there's no point in generalizing the gender of one person. (and no, I'm not saying if you were talking to one kid, you'd specify race, that's different.)Avistew said:Well, imagine if instead of calling the kids "kids" they constantly said "white kids" and "black kids". There are differences, they can see them, they know them, but there is no point in using different words constantly. They probably do use different words when it's required, but otherwise they refer to them as "kids" rather than "boys" and "girls" and as a result they use gender-neutral pronouns at least some of the time.binnsyboy said:That's not what I meant. I just mean the whole gender eliminating words thing. What's the point of that? You need description to differentiate. It's like people who are giving a description of someone and are afraid to explain that that person is of a racial minority.
Well in some languages you have to actively create words in order not to constantly separate the two. In English you can say "I'm going to talk to my friend", and nobody knows if it's a male or a female, and there is no reason for it to matter or be relevant, right? But in a lot of languages the word for "friend" is different and there isn't a neutral one.binnsyboy said:I'm not saying constantly separate the two, I'm saying don't shy away from it.
...Snowy Rainbow said:Got a penis? You can be a girl. You can be a boy. You can be neither. Both. No one but you know. Forgive me for wanting children to grow up free to decide for themselves what they are, not having titles thrust upon them and told what they are and aren't based on our idiotic understanding of sex. "Oh, you have a penis. You are a boy." No. Screw that. Not only do some men (men with a functioning penis, testes, typical male levels of hormones and a "male brain") have two X chromosomes, some men have ovaries inside them that they never even know is there.
If you ignore the fact that she was being oppressed by other females and rescued more by the fairy god mother then the prince then I could see you interpreting this like that.conflictofinterests said:Cinderella: Girl performs housework and endures abuse all her life and is unable to do anything else. Something completely apart from her life, a Fairy Godmother, magically whisks her away to fall in love. Upon not marrying, she then resumes backbreaking housework and abuse endurance until a man, a prince, who happened to be the one she fell in love with, marries her, and she lives happily ever after.
Have I left out any significant plot points?
Cinderella is pretty much the epitome of the ancient female stereotype. All a woman is good for is cooking and cleaning, and the best thing she can aspire to do is to get married to the richest guy possible.
You need to know someone fits neatly into a box for you to function? If you don't know what gender someone calls themselves, your relations with them will degrade into chaos? If someone's mind and genitals are dissimilar they can't form normal, healthy bonds with others? Well, considering transsexuals, the intersexed, transgenders and men and women born with the "wrong" chromosomes have existed since the dawn of our species, many of whom you've probably met and never noticed, I'm gonna go ahead and guess we can function perfectly fine without your outdated concept of sex.The_root_of_all_evil said:...Snowy Rainbow said:Got a penis? You can be a girl. You can be a boy. You can be neither. Both. No one but you know. Forgive me for wanting children to grow up free to decide for themselves what they are, not having titles thrust upon them and told what they are and aren't based on our idiotic understanding of sex. "Oh, you have a penis. You are a boy." No. Screw that. Not only do some men (men with a functioning penis, testes, typical male levels of hormones and a "male brain") have two X chromosomes, some men have ovaries inside them that they never even know is there.
You want to overthrow 8000+ years of evolution of language, identity, politics, biology and genetics in a generation?
Please. Do it somewhere else. Then when your society collapses because it has no functioning peer group, come back and we'll try and give you the tools to learn.
Alternatively, 'true love sets you free', 'abusive (step)parents should be disobeyed', 'be home by midnight' and 'a man shouldn't judge their love by their home life, but by their shoe size.'conflictofinterests said:Cinderella: Girl performs housework and endures abuse all her life and is unable to do anything else. Something completely apart from her life, a Fairy Godmother, magically whisks her away to fall in love. Upon not marrying, she then resumes backbreaking housework and abuse endurance until a man, a prince, who happened to be the one she fell in love with, marries her, and she lives happily ever after.
Have I left out any significant plot points?
Cinderella is pretty much the epitome of the ancient female stereotype. All a woman is good for is cooking and cleaning, and the best thing she can aspire to do is to get married to the richest guy possible.
And you think the best course of action is to utterly ignore the words 'him' and 'her' entirely? -.- Sorry, but that's total bull, and I think you're just LOOKING for a reason to take the school's side. Physical gender (which 'he' and 'her' are supposed to refer to) is not the same thing as mental (ie, how one acts). They are two different things defined two different ways. Get over itSnowy Rainbow said:You need to know someone fits neatly into a box for you to function? If you don't know what gender someone calls themselves, your relations with them will degrade into chaos? If someone's mind and genitals are dissimilar they can't form normal, healthy bonds with others? Well, considering transsexuals, the intersexed, transgenders and men and women born with the "wrong" chromosomes have existed since the dawn of our species, many of whom you've probably met and never noticed, I'm gonna go ahead and guess we can function perfectly fine without your outdated concept of sex.The_root_of_all_evil said:...Snowy Rainbow said:Got a penis? You can be a girl. You can be a boy. You can be neither. Both. No one but you know. Forgive me for wanting children to grow up free to decide for themselves what they are, not having titles thrust upon them and told what they are and aren't based on our idiotic understanding of sex. "Oh, you have a penis. You are a boy." No. Screw that. Not only do some men (men with a functioning penis, testes, typical male levels of hormones and a "male brain") have two X chromosomes, some men have ovaries inside them that they never even know is there.
You want to overthrow 8000+ years of evolution of language, identity, politics, biology and genetics in a generation?
Please. Do it somewhere else. Then when your society collapses because it has no functioning peer group, come back and we'll try and give you the tools to learn.
Good luck treating people as their genitals. I'm gonna go ahead and continue to treat the individual as their personality dictates.
You make me laugh. Without any knowledge of who I am, who I know or my thoughts on gender, you automatically fit me into your "ENEMY" box. Pray tell me how you're going to deal with biological attraction and the power games inherent within your new society. Regardless of gender. Which you've just censored.Snowy Rainbow said:I'm gonna go ahead and guess we can function perfectly fine without your outdated concept of sex.
Which is as poisonous as by genetalia - because your vision is already jaundiced. Create your own little dollhouse if you want, we're the people who'll have to clear up the mess afterwards.Good luck treating people as their genitals. I'm gonna go ahead and continue to treat the individual as their personality dictates.
Snowy Rainbow said:*snip*
I don't really seperate the usage of the two words as in most cases they tick the same boxes. To clarify though, I think people should be allowed to be themselves, personality is what matters, not gender.Avistew said:*snip*
Im confused. So you played with Lego and Barbie......so youre fucked up forever, but youre fine with it, but youre still against that school anyway?rokkolpo said:Parents always make things worse.
>_>
There was nothing wrong with the way things were taught.
For reference I played with Lego and Barbie's
Since there are just some story's I can't tell with Lego.
And I like story's.
Oh I'm sorry, I forgot who your're attracted to defines your gender and that being attracted to certain physical appearances dictates your personality. Oh wait... It doesn't... Oppsies for you I guess.The_root_of_all_evil said:Pray tell me how you're going to deal with biological attraction and the power games inherent within your new society. Regardless of gender. Which you've just censored.
The problem is that they CLAIM to be teaching the kids to be tolerant, when they're doing exactly what 'intolerant' schools are doing, except in reverse. (ie, completely removing the mention of heterosexuality, removing even mention of gender) What about the fact that boys and girls at that age (or a few years later) tend to dislike and avoid each other? Am i the only one who remembers that?Seneschal said:I don't see how this is "force-feeding", and what preschools usually do isn't. It's not like preschools let them develop "naturally". And yes, decrepit fairytales aren't exactly the best children's fiction can come up with.
The usage of "friend" is a little weird, though. Reminds me of ex-Yugoslavia, where everyone was a "drug" (pronounced as "droog", essentially meaning friend/comrade). It never sounded very earnest to me.
I can see it now.Mackheath said:Why are people becomming increasingly forceful in insisting differences don't exist? They do. All they are doing to these kids is coddling them; what will happen when they grow up and enter the world of work?
Why the fuck can't we just have winners and losers, girls and boys, and let kids be kids nowadays? Why are parents so obsessed with protecting kids in this way?