Poll: Children or Partner?

[oldMcDouche]

depends.

if I'm extremely happy with her (meaning she is the love of my life) and the overall situation its k. children would be super awesome tho. cant decide atm cause I'm not in the age for having children by now.

 

[Anachronism]

As much as I despise small children, I admit that, at some point, I would like to have kids of my own. I'm sure as hell not ready for that at the moment, but later in life, when I've finished university and have a stable income, I would like to.

However, if my girlfriend told me that she didn't ever want to have kids, there is no way in hell I'd break up with her. Like I said before, I generally dislike children anyway; and as much as I would like to have kids someday, I'd much rather stay with my girlfriend. The sacrifice simply wouldn't be worth it.

 

[Biek]

If your girlfriend wants children and you dont, better start using condoms.

 

[Mockingjay]

I dont see why you'd want to force someone to have a child. It would be unwanted by one parent and no child deserves to feel that. It would be selfish and wrong.

 

[Abedeus]

Who said I want to have a child?

 

[Iampringles]

If I really loved my partner, I'd stay with her.

She may even change her mind.

 

[Ben Legend]

Who said I want to have a child?

A friend of a friend...

If your girlfriend wants children and you dont, better start using condoms.

Condoms...? What are they? I jest. They are a type of sweet right?

I dont see why you'd want to force someone to have a child. It would be unwanted by one parent and no child deserves to feel that. It would be selfish and wrong.

This is what is usually on Jeremy Kyle. Poor children. I would hate to be loved my only one or neither parent.

 

[Aur0ra145]

Adoption is an option, I guess

 

[Ben Legend]

Adoption is an option, I guess

yeah, quite a few of my friends would rather adopt than have a child of their own. Most of them are girls, and their reasoning is due to fear of marks being left on their body from having to give birth to a child.

 

[Bellvedere]

I never ever ever want children. They make no sense when you try to talk to them... And they're got sticky hands. And they don't do anything interesting.

I know this is hypothetical that if I did want children... but I can't imagine that. So my partner never wanting children is probably a good thing.

Also it does terrible terrible things to a girls body.

 

[khain13]

Lets say your boyfriend or girlfriend refused to have children,

I would marry them.

but you wanted to have at least one.

Impossible. I despise snotlings children.

Finally someone else who refers to children as "Snotlings"! I am also quite fond of "Podling".

On the topic of this thread, I wasn't really keen on the idea of having children when I was younger. I decided to give it time and see where I was later in life. Around 25 I came to the conclusion that I would like to have 1 child by the time I was 30, as luck would have it my wife and I had our first child in December of 2006 and I turned 30 in August of 2007. My wife still wants to have 2 more, but I think she's holding on to the number 3 knowing that I don't want any more and hoping I will compromise with 2. My wife is going to be 28 this year and I think if we are still financially stable in 2 years I might be open to having another child.

So, in conclusion, I would not have left my wife if she didn't want children and I'm glad she stayed with me while I was deciding if I wanted children or not. However, I don't know for sure if she would have stayed if I decided I did not want children.

 

[Curiosity's Cat]

I dont see why you'd want to force someone to have a child. It would be unwanted by one parent and no child deserves to feel that. It would be selfish and wrong.

Heh, this was exactly the situation with my parents and it worked out okay. Dad really wanted kids and mum didn't, so he talked her into using a contraceptive method he knew to be only about 75% effective (the billings method). End result: ME! I tell people I'm half an accident.

My parents had my little bro 2 years later by mutual consensus and we're a loving, normal family, so mum must have acclimatised.

As grateful as I am to dad though, I don't want kids and if my bf ever pulled that crap on me I would neuter the hell outta him.

 

[Legion]

Lets say your boyfriend or girlfriend refused to have children, but you wanted to have at least one. Would you stay with them, despite not being able to have children with them, or would you leave them and pursue a relationship with someone else who would want a child.

EDIT: I mean, your partner never wants children, not that your partner doesn't want them at the moment.

Other way around for me, I can't imagine being with someone who wants kids.

No, We woulden't Be partners if they refused or if they had different plans then I did. Thats what dating is for, to see if you click.

This too.

 

[twistedshadows]

I don't want children (at this point in my life, anyway) so it's hard for me to decide what I'd do if I were ever in that unlikely situation.

Still, if there's an issue like that in a relationship, it's probably not going to work out in the long run. If one person has to make such a (potentially) major concession, they will be resentful that they were the one who had to do so. On the flip side, if neither person gives in to the other, there will just be a lot of pointless arguing. I don't see it ending well either way.

 

[Ben Legend]

I never ever ever want children. They make no sense when you try to talk to them... And they're got sticky hands. And they don't do anything interesting.

I'd prefer to have a child that makes no sense than one who makes sense. For some reason I imagine a child who has sense as being a little bit too much like Stewie from Family Guy.

Don't do anything interesting? You make them sound like animals haha. You could always teach it to do something interesting.
May I suggest a backflip.

 

[Lexodus]

Definitely leave her. Children are a must, I sure as hell ain't mowing my own lawn.

Ahahahahahahaha! WIN.

 

[Spirit_Of_Fire]

If they didn't want to have children, or they couldn't have children. Then I would leave my partner, because I have always wanted kids.

 

[Samurai Goomba]

I wouldn't become seriously involved with anyone who absolutely had to have kids. Let's just say that due to various family circumstances, I'm positive that I'm 100% the wrong person to raise kids, and I have no desire to do so. I (generally) like kids, but that's different. After all, they're always someone else's kids. At the end of the day, my young cousins or whatever get to go home and be brats to somebody else. Parenting is a full-time job.

Of course, finding a woman who does NOT want kids is much harder than the reverse. Stupid biological clock.

 

[Rickyvantof]

Not at the moment, I have better things to do than raise children.
Although I'm only 19, I might do it if I really wanted children very badly.

 

[Mockingjay]

I dont see why you'd want to force someone to have a child. It would be unwanted by one parent and no child deserves to feel that. It would be selfish and wrong.

Heh, this was exactly the situation with my parents and it worked out okay. Dad really wanted kids and mum didn't, so he talked her into using a contraceptive method he knew to be only about 75% effective (the billings method). End result: ME! I tell people I'm half an accident.

My parents had my little bro 2 years later by mutual consensus and we're a loving, normal family, so mum must have acclimatised.

As grateful as I am to dad though, I don't want kids and if my bf ever pulled that crap on me I would neuter the hell outta him.

That's a sweet story, though I want kids one day it won't be until I'm settled and completely self sufficent, and my boyfriend would have to feel thes same.

I'm a complete accident. Although my parents aren't unloving or horrible they still don't treat me in the same way they treat my planned brother and sister. This isn't me bitching, I'm big enough and ugly enough to reaslise the way it's going to be, but as a child it wasn't plesant being treated like this.