This. There's every chance at 18 that she doesn't really know how to have a committed relationship yet. At 18 most folks are still a bundle of nerves and egoes, and she's likely to flirt with you because it feels good and makes her more confident, while flirting with everyone else for the same reason. A girl/guy in that position isn't ready to have a monogomous relationship, even a short-term one, as their ego is riding on having others flirt/chase them.Acrisius said:She's 18 dude. You're 21. She's obviously not very mature for her age. Trust me on this when I say that the age difference IS too significant. Go back to college and find someone in your own age, with interests closer to yours. I've seen first hand how scenarios like this play out, it's just a waste of time and emotional energy. Drop it. Be friends, but forget about her when it comes to romance. I personally would've seen it as a huge turnoff when she kisses people left and right and go home with exes, and obviously this bothers you too. Those are my two cents, maybe three even.HotFezz8 said:i've lived away, and have now moved back home, so i can see a girl who i like who i have been texting and calling pretty much every day.
last night we and a group went out, she kissed some other bloke and walked her "sick" ex boyfriend home, then she and a friend went home. over the last couple of days she has also showed absoloutely no interest in me, not in a romantic way at least. ive been at home almost a week.
naturally im pretty gutted about this, and am not sure how to respond. vote on the poll, please feel free to post comments as well, im genuinely unsure how to handle this.
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this seems inadequately brief. so to bulk it out and provide more inforamtion.
im a 21 year old student who was away at uni, she is a 18 year old secondary school student at home. im back for easter break, which lasts until the end of this month, then i leave for 2nd year exams next month, then i return june, staying for 4 months.
we met in january when a mutual friend organised a day out, she contacted me a week later via facebook with her number and a message saying "i would like to get to know you better" and since then we have talked fairly constatntly. i make her laugh, we generally aren't awkard when we meet, but romantic situations are uncomfortable for me and i haven't been able to make any since i got back, then the above happened.
i like her, we get on really well, but this has made me think: is she not interested or is she ignoring me, or is she completely unaware?
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we have been talking and joking about the most random crap, occasionally joking about sexual things, past history, etc, its uncomfortable to talk about feelings over the phone, so i haven't.
I don't know about where you are, but where I live, most women wait for the guy to make the first move. If you give up, you will never know for certain what would have happened, and I think you will regret that a lot more than if you tell her how you feel, ask her out, and get shot down. I say you should go for it, for whatever my opinion is worth.HotFezz8 said:i've lived away, and have now moved back home, so i can see a girl who i like who i have been texting and calling pretty much every day.
last night we and a group went out, she kissed some other bloke and walked her "sick" ex boyfriend home, then she and a friend went home. over the last couple of days she has also showed absoloutely no interest in me, not in a romantic way at least. ive been at home almost a week.
naturally im pretty gutted about this, and am not sure how to respond. vote on the poll, please feel free to post comments as well, im genuinely unsure how to handle this.
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this seems inadequately brief. so to bulk it out and provide more inforamtion.
im a 21 year old student who was away at uni, she is a 18 year old secondary school student at home. im back for easter break, which lasts until the end of this month, then i leave for 2nd year exams next month, then i return june, staying for 4 months.
we met in january when a mutual friend organised a day out, she contacted me a week later via facebook with her number and a message saying "i would like to get to know you better" and since then we have talked fairly constatntly. i make her laugh, we generally aren't awkard when we meet, but romantic situations are uncomfortable for me and i haven't been able to make any since i got back, then the above happened.
i like her, we get on really well, but this has made me think: is she not interested or is she ignoring me, or is she completely unaware?
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we have been talking and joking about the most random crap, occasionally joking about sexual things, past history, etc, its uncomfortable to talk about feelings over the phone, so i haven't.
some people want a relationship with a girl they care about. Not sex with a different sorority girl every weekend.Fetzenfisch said:Well on the one hand, you got nothing to loose, so try it.
On the other hand, why going for school kids when you can get crazy at the university? thats what it is for as far as i know (and experience it for 3 years now).
Leave her, she have showed strong tendencies she is not interested, turn single and live the hell outta life by WINNING!HotFezz8 said:i've lived away, and have now moved back home, so i can see a girl who i like who i have been texting and calling pretty much every day.
last night we and a group went out, she kissed some other bloke and walked her "sick" ex boyfriend home, then she and a friend went home. over the last couple of days she has also showed absoloutely no interest in me, not in a romantic way at least. ive been at home almost a week.
naturally im pretty gutted about this, and am not sure how to respond. vote on the poll, please feel free to post comments as well, im genuinely unsure how to handle this.
EDIT*
this seems inadequately brief. so to bulk it out and provide more inforamtion.
im a 21 year old student who was away at uni, she is a 18 year old secondary school student at home. im back for easter break, which lasts until the end of this month, then i leave for 2nd year exams next month, then i return june, staying for 4 months.
we met in january when a mutual friend organised a day out, she contacted me a week later via facebook with her number and a message saying "i would like to get to know you better" and since then we have talked fairly constatntly. i make her laugh, we generally aren't awkard when we meet, but romantic situations are uncomfortable for me and i haven't been able to make any since i got back, then the above happened.
i like her, we get on really well, but this has made me think: is she not interested or is she ignoring me, or is she completely unaware?
EDIT 2*
we have been talking and joking about the most random crap, occasionally joking about sexual things, past history, etc, its uncomfortable to talk about feelings over the phone, so i haven't.