Welp, there go my chances.EeveeElectro said:As long as they don't look like a complete rapist who might eat me alive like I've caught a few people looking at me like.
Welp, there go my chances.EeveeElectro said:As long as they don't look like a complete rapist who might eat me alive like I've caught a few people looking at me like.
If you didn't snip all of it, you'll note I specifically said _in my next sentence_ thatMortai Gravesend said:I doubt all females appreciate you speaking for them due to your no doubt biased experience. Your personal experience is worth nothing when talking about females in general.Cyberjester said:As one of those quiet ones who used to spend most of their time bailing out lasses from their retard boyfriends, yes. Yes they are attacked to "assholes".
Big disclaimer, pays homage to statistics and acknowledges I might not be on the median. For all I know I'm an outlier. This is just 23.5 years of experience which isn't even that much compared to others. And I'm noting that "in my subjective experience", nice doesn't work out. I also note that I still do it but I'm questioning why and pondering how much morals and "being nice" mean to me.Cyberjester said:in my subjective experience
Applies to you and every other person alive since no female is "all females", regardless of what you've heard about the hive mind. It's all a conspiracy. Hell, it applies doubly so to folk like us since we're guys, although then we start on the "disassociated viewpoint leading to a less subjective opinion", "I'm more intelligent than you are so my point counts for more" and on and on it goes eventually concluding with "Well I know nothing, let's go get drunk/play D3". I'm going to skip to the end here and go watch Justified whilst sipping whiskey because why the hell not.Mortai Gravesend said:I doubt all females appreciate you speaking for them due to your no doubt biased experience.
Holy crap, that sums up the entire six-paragraph rant I was about to go on. Well done.Allthingsspectacular said:Women don't like assholes, they're drawn to them. A subtle but meaningful difference.
Well all three obviously...<.<Panzer_God said:I'm not sure if you're yelling at me, making fun of me or sarcastically agreeing with me.Sacman said:Bah I hate these threads... it's always let's hate on the guys with no confidence because they don't fit in to society and like to complain about it somewhere they don't think they'll be judged...
But us shy guys aren't at all confident and aren't looking to be... So telling us to grow balls is hardly sound advise... from personal experience it's not about "getting the girl"... it's about waiting for them to come get us... for the exact reason that we have no self esteem or confidence and are afraid of the crippling depression and psychological confidence impairing scars that come from rejection... and other such things...
Now shame on you for telling us off for being our selves... Just because we're not the archetypal, "asshole" doesn't automatically make us a bunch of slimy, coniving, cowards... It's the coniving and cowardess that does...
I don't mean to post just to applaud someone, but thank you for this post. Telling people to conform or be left in the dust is not a way to go about this. People who have confidence should be helping the ones who don't, not stepping all over them because they assume them to be spineless foreveralone cowards. So many people are different that making stupid generalizations are ridiculous. Not all assholes are in relationships, and not all people in relationships are assholes, or confident. And many confident people aren't in relationships.Sacman said:Bah I hate these threads... it's always let's hate on the guys with no confidence because they don't fit in to society and like to complain about it somewhere they don't think they'll be judged...
But us shy guys aren't at all confident and aren't looking to be... So telling us to grow balls is hardly sound advise... from personal experience it's not about "getting the girl"... it's about waiting for them to come get us... for the exact reason that we have no self esteem or confidence and are afraid of the crippling depression and psychological confidence impairing scars that come from rejection... and other such things...
Now shame on you for telling us off for being our selves... Just because we're not the archetypal, "asshole" doesn't automatically make us a bunch of slimy, coniving, cowards... It's the coniving and cowardess that does...
True, but getting emotional about people's sweeping generalisations could only put you onto the same level.Hammeroj said:I'm amazed at how many people seem to straight up dismiss the idea of trends/leanings. Yes, we know women are individuals, but stop making it out to be this sort of "everyone is a complete individual precious little snowflake" politically correct nonsense.
This applies to probably almost any sort of group of people, too, so don't even think about taking this as some anti-feminist rant.
Now as far as the topic itself goes... Not an expert. If there's one thing I did notice to that extent, it's that women tend to care about looks far less than men do, hence, they care more about other things (confidence?). I've seen hot chicks hanging out with some ugly ass mother fuckers. Guess that makes you boobed people less shallow.
And, therefore, totally useless.Panzer_God said:I am also not speaking for all women, just the ones I know from personal experience. I don't claim to speak for everyone, but this is the combination of opinions of girls I've known my entire life.
Of course, we can learn from trends and people are naturally going to be socialised differently in different cultures due to their sex. It's not a stretch to say that most men would punch a man who punched them and not punch a woman who did the same.Hammeroj said:I'm amazed at how many people seem to straight up dismiss the idea of trends/leanings. Yes, we know women are individuals, but stop making it out to be this sort of "everyone is a complete individual precious little snowflake" politically correct nonsense.
This applies to probably almost any sort of group of people, too, so don't even think about taking this as some anti-feminist rant.
Now as far as the topic itself goes... Not an expert. If there's one thing I did notice to that extent, it's that women tend to care about looks far less than men do, hence, they care more about other things (confidence?). I've seen hot chicks hanging out with some ugly ass mother fuckers. Guess that makes you boobed people less shallow.
Sadly, some of us are slaves to the BMI system just the same, as retarded as it may be. Forget professional medical opinions - it's potential employers that hold the cards. For example, if I exceed a certain BMI (in many cases it's 25, as things stand today) I won't be able to apply for tenure once I start my teaching career.aprilmarie said:Now you might ask, what does that mean? It means don't listen to the medical profession if they say you are overweight for your height. It means BMI means jack shit(that one has actually been debunked that your BMI can determine if you are overweight). It means that everybody is different and what might be healthy for one person may be underweight for another or overweight for another.