Poll: High school: too early?
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Friendships, no, I still regularly hang out with my good high school friends and I graduated back in 01.
By relationships I'm assuming you mean dating. And I say maybe to this, because when you are in high school your world is much smaller then when you actually venture out on your own and meet new people later on.
By relationships I'm assuming you mean dating. And I say maybe to this, because when you are in high school your world is much smaller then when you actually venture out on your own and meet new people later on.
Friendships in highschool last for a very long time [I should know, I'm still being called up regarding a five-year-old restaurant tab]. Love relationships, however, are never built to last beyond high school. If love is what you're looking for, wait until college.
I have a very close relationship with a girl, not bf and gf but really close friends, there's nothing wrong with close relationships in high school. I mean, don't get too "serious" if you know what I mean (Bow chika wowwow) 
But seriously, Highscoolers can be mature enough to have a serious friendship/romance and they get the plus of knowing if it doesn't work it, your still only in High school and you have plenty of time to find another. So if it won't lead to a break up that sends you into deep depression and/or suicide (I find suicide intolerable) I say there is no reason a high schooler cant have a serious relationship.
But seriously, Highscoolers can be mature enough to have a serious friendship/romance and they get the plus of knowing if it doesn't work it, your still only in High school and you have plenty of time to find another. So if it won't lead to a break up that sends you into deep depression and/or suicide (I find suicide intolerable) I say there is no reason a high schooler cant have a serious relationship.
After one year in university I can tell you that you will meet about a jillion people in uni who you will form even tighter relationships with than high school. That isn't to say that I don't have great friendships retained from high school, its just that about 90% of them turned out to fall apart about a week into university.
As for high school relationships, most don't last, a select few work.
As for high school relationships, most don't last, a select few work.
I think that you should be able to have a serious Friendship when you want. As for serious "Relationships", it is up to the person and what that person wants.
I'll put it like this... 50% of all marriages end in divorce. There are several reasons, but the most important one is painfully obvious: They tied the knot before they knew whether or not they were right for each other. There's no way to know something like that in high school, because people continue to develop mentally long after they stop developing physically. So I'd advice you to not screw up the relationship you currently have. I know that's not the advice I would have wanted when I was in your position, but fortunately for me, that relationship never really got anywhere. I hated myself for the mistakes I made back then, but as I've gotten older, I've realized that I would have been much worse off if things had gone any other way. What I was hoping for at age 14-15 just wasn't realistic. People change. You too. Until you have a chance to know who you'll change into -- and no, no matter how convinced you are, you don't know shit yet (sorry, but that's the cold, hard truth) -- you shouldn't committ yourself. Especially not to someone you'll have to be around if (or rather, when) it goes down the crapper. And definitely not to someone you'd still like to be friends with!
And this. Seriously, chances are, if you don't screw around while you can, you'll end up screwing around when it'll end up destroying a family. A ring and a vow is not gonna beat human nature.Jandau said:
What's wrong with serious friendships/ relationships in high school? It seems perfectly okay to me.
Only reason I can find against it is that with places like high school, people can often go their seperate ways afterwards, and then spend most of their lives in the same place in their working life. So you can go far away from eachother, but that's the only issue I can think of.
Only reason I can find against it is that with places like high school, people can often go their seperate ways afterwards, and then spend most of their lives in the same place in their working life. So you can go far away from eachother, but that's the only issue I can think of.
I think the main issue is that there is a major shift in life dynamics from high school to whatever comes after, and you have to adjust your relationship dynamics to that. You go from being dependent on your family in almost every way to having your own job and your own place that you have to look after yourself. Not to say that this is immediate. Some people have certain "life experiences" sooner than others. Combine that with the fact that everyone matures differently and I'd have to say that I have a pretty mixed opinion on this. I do know one couple who have been dating since they were about fifteen. They have both been out of high school and living on their own for two years and are still together. However, they're an exception to the rule. Even in later university only a handful of the couples I know stay together for more than six months. In summary........I'm prepared to say that there are a lot of people who are ready for a serious relationship in the later years of high school, but there are also a lot of people who aren't. Some people might be mature enough when they're younger. Also, some people will be idiots for their entire lives.
As for serious friendships, definitely not too early. I still hang out with my high school friends despite the fact that we ended up across the country for university.
As for serious friendships, definitely not too early. I still hang out with my high school friends despite the fact that we ended up across the country for university.
I voted no, but the real challenge is when you go to university. If you can keep a friendship from highschool going while you/they are at college/uni then they'll probably be a friend for life. 2 of my best mates I met when I was 15 and 17 and we're still good friends 10/8 years on.
I'm in a boys school till 5th form (Grade 11 in America)so i'm too busy with school to find a girl
And i'll get conscripted for 2 years after i graduate while the girls run off to uni so a lasting relationship is hard to get, tho my teacher managed to hook up with his old girlfriend years later
And i'll get conscripted for 2 years after i graduate while the girls run off to uni so a lasting relationship is hard to get, tho my teacher managed to hook up with his old girlfriend years later
I don't think it's too early. But I have to say, I know alot of relationships that turned sour either due to cheating or falling pregnant. I had alot of older friends in high school and learnt alot from how their lives turned out. I've only been with one guy and I am still with him, but even after three years I still wonder what it would be like with someone else. A workmates parents divorced due to the mother cheating, she loved her husband, but the urge to see what someone else was like brought her to cheat. Her husbane refused to take her back and she eventually married the new fella. Luckily, everyone gets along fine now.
Stuff waiting until 25. Why wait that long? I know plenty who are already married with more than one child.TheMatt said:
I think it sounds like you're nitpicking a bit there, but maybe I didn't make myself clear enough. If 50% of all marriages end in divorce, and an important reason for this is people getting married too quickly, then what do you think the success rate for less serious committments are? And if even married people screw around, don't you think the same applies to people in less serious relationships as well? The point I wanted to make was, get involved in a serious relationship too soon, and it WILL end. That will hurt, and it will ruin any other relationship you have with that person as well. For that reason, I do not recommend it at that age, especially not with someone you're currently friends with. I hope that makes my point more clear.mike1921 said:
I don't think it's too early to try, though I reckon it's fair to say it's pretty much too early for them to last.
It's not nitpicking, the way I saw it your post was totally irrelevant to the actual question the thread gave us.Martymer said:
I thought the success rate for relationships was pretty low regardless of whether or not you're in high school? I'm aware people cheat. I'm aware people shouldn't rush into a serious relationship, but high school lasts 4 years. This isn't telling kids not to get into serious relationships, this is telling them not to be illogical morons.
I met my Ex-Wife in high school. We got married at age 20 and at about age 24 we had both changed into completely different people from who we were when we were 18.
Your personality changes so dramatically from ages 18-mid twenties. Two people that used to get along might not be.
For example;
In that time I; cleaned myself up, became a police informant for a while, got a job, and at the tail end, entered college
in that time she; ... well she didn't change or grow at all really that was part of the problem. Also the 'fucking a whole lot of other guys' thing cinched it.
I'm just glad we didn't have any kids.
Conversely some of my good friends that I had in high school I am still friends with.
I think it just depends on the person and you won't really know until later in life if you should have or should not have made such serious friendships. That's part of the growing up you do.
Your personality changes so dramatically from ages 18-mid twenties. Two people that used to get along might not be.
For example;
In that time I; cleaned myself up, became a police informant for a while, got a job, and at the tail end, entered college
in that time she; ... well she didn't change or grow at all really that was part of the problem. Also the 'fucking a whole lot of other guys' thing cinched it.
I'm just glad we didn't have any kids.
Conversely some of my good friends that I had in high school I am still friends with.
I think it just depends on the person and you won't really know until later in life if you should have or should not have made such serious friendships. That's part of the growing up you do.