Poll: How Happy Are You Being Single?
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I would like to have a gf but the things that did happen makes it hard for me to fall in love again :/
I dont like the OP's thing where he is essentially saying that single people arnt really happy
I AM
I like to be able to do my own thing and not worry about somone else, I mean mostof the stuff i Like to do is solitary, also romantic crap pisses me off to no end (what is it with holding hands? its stuoid and awkward and makes you look stupid in public)
though there are times I wish I could make that kind of conection with somone..but I wonder if thats what I really want, its not somthing Im worred or freaking out over, I'm fine right now
[sub] though this sex drive thing is getting hard to ignore [/sub]
I AM
I like to be able to do my own thing and not worry about somone else, I mean mostof the stuff i Like to do is solitary, also romantic crap pisses me off to no end (what is it with holding hands? its stuoid and awkward and makes you look stupid in public)
though there are times I wish I could make that kind of conection with somone..but I wonder if thats what I really want, its not somthing Im worred or freaking out over, I'm fine right now
[sub] though this sex drive thing is getting hard to ignore [/sub]
I was in a relationship for almost 5 years with a girl I met while in sixth form (late high school for Americans?). We broke up around this time last year, and once I'd gotten over the initial sadness of the relationship ending there was a period where I think I was happy, for a while.
It's telling however, that slowly but surely I've become more and more unhappy being single. I'm not a ladies man, and I genuinely don't think one night stands or casual relationships are for me. I also don't have a lot friends. I think what I look for in life is a companion, who I can really connect with. Without someone like that I just feel like my life is missing something.
It's telling however, that slowly but surely I've become more and more unhappy being single. I'm not a ladies man, and I genuinely don't think one night stands or casual relationships are for me. I also don't have a lot friends. I think what I look for in life is a companion, who I can really connect with. Without someone like that I just feel like my life is missing something.
/highfive, way to go bro.Daystar Clarion said:
Personally, I seriously doubt that I will find a girl that has all the qualities that I like that isn't also: already taken, not interested, can't deal with my personality, has some kind of weird quirk that makes them un-attractive (like an obsession with god for example), or the delightful one I've run into time and time again, lives a thousand miles away.
Happy enough, mainly because the last few times I could claim not to be single, it's been a fucking disaster.
Though I wouldn't say no if I knew that the person in question would actually make me happy.
Though I wouldn't say no if I knew that the person in question would actually make me happy.
Why do I always feel the desperate need to comment on these threads. I mean honestly what is wrong with me?
OT: I believe it's one of those situations where at one point I felt extraordinarily content with things (my ex had cut me loose after using me for the sake of satisfying her own desperate loneliness) but after...4 ish years of being basically alone it really does start to get to you. At least it did for me. Honestly, I really just think I need a girlfriend to give me some company. Not that I don't have friends to keep me company but honestly there's a certain difference (and I don't mean that way. Yes, that way. I know what you're thinking).
OT: I believe it's one of those situations where at one point I felt extraordinarily content with things (my ex had cut me loose after using me for the sake of satisfying her own desperate loneliness) but after...4 ish years of being basically alone it really does start to get to you. At least it did for me. Honestly, I really just think I need a girlfriend to give me some company. Not that I don't have friends to keep me company but honestly there's a certain difference (and I don't mean that way. Yes, that way. I know what you're thinking).
I'm not unhappy being single. That's not to say that a relationship couldn't improve my situation, but that a relationship is not vital to that improvement.
I once thought that being in a relationship would make me happier, but I've had enough vicarious experience with women and experience with women on a platonic level to realize that being in a relationship is, most of the time, not all it's cracked up to be.
You see, the thing you've got to realize is that women are people too (I know! Crazy, right?). What I mean by that, specifically, is that they're going to have their own wants, needs, dreams for the future, etc.; and frequently those wants/needs/desires/etc. will clash with yours. That, and you need a lot of face-time with most people before you discover their flaws. You might walk past your high-school crush every day on your way to your locker and say hi, but that's not going to tell you if she's got a gambling problem or a genetic susceptibility to alcoholism.
The corollary to that is that a lot of what most people consider "love" is based solely around stuff that's going on in their head, instead of the real world. I imagine we've all had the experience of "putting someone up on a pedestal", only to realize later on that you were just making shit up.
I think being in love can be as good as the hype, but the catch is you have to work really hard to attract them to you, keep them interested, and do those things in a way that doesn't drain all your mental and fiscal resources, make the relationship work, and find someone who is willing to work as hard as you are on those things. It's a difficult skill to learn, and for me, the expense (in time and energy) vs. reward is waaaaaay too lopsided for me to want to bother with it right now.
So, yeah. Happy being alone. At least for now.
You see, the thing you've got to realize is that women are people too (I know! Crazy, right?). What I mean by that, specifically, is that they're going to have their own wants, needs, dreams for the future, etc.; and frequently those wants/needs/desires/etc. will clash with yours. That, and you need a lot of face-time with most people before you discover their flaws. You might walk past your high-school crush every day on your way to your locker and say hi, but that's not going to tell you if she's got a gambling problem or a genetic susceptibility to alcoholism.
The corollary to that is that a lot of what most people consider "love" is based solely around stuff that's going on in their head, instead of the real world. I imagine we've all had the experience of "putting someone up on a pedestal", only to realize later on that you were just making shit up.
I think being in love can be as good as the hype, but the catch is you have to work really hard to attract them to you, keep them interested, and do those things in a way that doesn't drain all your mental and fiscal resources, make the relationship work, and find someone who is willing to work as hard as you are on those things. It's a difficult skill to learn, and for me, the expense (in time and energy) vs. reward is waaaaaay too lopsided for me to want to bother with it right now.
So, yeah. Happy being alone. At least for now.
Unhappy might not be the right word for it, but i am very bored with being single. I'm very ready for someone new in my life, I've been single for a long time & I'm ready to move on. My only problem seems to be finding a woman that likes to do the same things as me, they are a rare thing in the area where i live.
I'm fairly happy right now. I get some feelings of utter loneliness every now and again, but nothing paralyzing. I'm totally open to a relationship but it's not my first priority right now.
While I'd love to get into a proper relationship, I kind of enjoy being single right now. I've started getting far more female attention than I'm used to, meaning I have all the time in the world to actually find a girl I like, rather than just a girl that would want me. There are quite a few women in the latter category, but currently none in the former.
TopazFusion said:
My response to all of those except the last one is thus: You need to get into better relationships. For the last one you're honestly not missing out on anything you could gain by having good friends.
I'm happily single, my last relationship ended almost a year ago after 6 years of being together and I'm perfectly contented to be single. i have good friends and that's all I need.
I do think those who feel they *need* to be in relationships may want to try and think about why they feel unfulfilled if they're single tho.
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