Poll: How Happy Are You Being Single?
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I was happy when I was in a relationship.
I also realized how miserable I am now that I'm single.
I also realized how miserable I am now that I'm single.
Well I'm in a relationship now....but I was happy when I wa single.
Same goes for my partner.....
We are both convinced you should be able to be happy on your own before attpemting to form a meaningfull relationship
(or one without any unnecessarily complex emotional dependencies anyway).
Before we met I was'nt happy anout being single but life was good and I was happy.
And besides: You can't force a thing like love.
Same goes for my partner.....
We are both convinced you should be able to be happy on your own before attpemting to form a meaningfull relationship
(or one without any unnecessarily complex emotional dependencies anyway).
Before we met I was'nt happy anout being single but life was good and I was happy.
And besides: You can't force a thing like love.
To be happy in a relationship, you NEED to be happy as a single person. That doesn't mean you wouldn't like a relationship, it means that you shouldn't need a relationship to fill some kind of hole in your life. This almost inevitably ends badly.
I'm feeling pretty good. I'm far to busy to worry about being romantically lonely.
I'm feeling pretty good. I'm far to busy to worry about being romantically lonely.
I'm probably going to get crap for this, but I see a lot of people saying things like "I only want this one girl/guy and nobody else (who may or may not know I even exist)" - that sounds like a recipe for disaster to me. What if you do get together with that person, and they turn out to be completely different than the expectations you have for them? For about 5 years now, my brother's had his sights set on a girl who's recently married, but he doesn't understand that he's completely incompatible with her. He wants to play video games just about as much as possible (taking the dog to the vet is an awful long time away from Steam...), and she's the "hollywood pretty girl" type, like her perfect day is shoe shopping and fancy expensive dinner, but he looks at her having a happy life and being pretty and thinks she'd make him happy.
For the record, I'm taken now, but I've spent plenty of time being both happy and unhappy when I was single. Dating before my current girl helped me learn what I really want out of a relationship, and that I was an idiot when I had a few relationships that involved me not being myself (i.e. things like hiding any nerdy hobbies like video games, and showering gifts on the girl)
If I can impart any advice on someone who's in the "single and unhappy about it" camp, don't lust after that one person who you think is going to be what dreams are made of. Everyone has faults, and many times we think we'll be happy with someone because we're happy and we see them being happy, but if they don't share your interests, you'll have one hell of a hard time being happy together. Be yourself, always, or you'll never be happy whether in a relationship or not.
For the record, I'm taken now, but I've spent plenty of time being both happy and unhappy when I was single. Dating before my current girl helped me learn what I really want out of a relationship, and that I was an idiot when I had a few relationships that involved me not being myself (i.e. things like hiding any nerdy hobbies like video games, and showering gifts on the girl)
If I can impart any advice on someone who's in the "single and unhappy about it" camp, don't lust after that one person who you think is going to be what dreams are made of. Everyone has faults, and many times we think we'll be happy with someone because we're happy and we see them being happy, but if they don't share your interests, you'll have one hell of a hard time being happy together. Be yourself, always, or you'll never be happy whether in a relationship or not.
I see myself being single as necessary right now. It's not that I hate the idea of relationships, but rather that I'm content in the knowledge that I'm making the right choice. I won't get into it here, since it's not the place, but I've been struggling with a mental illness that is severe enough to have just re-entered partial hospitalization for the second time. I'm not stable enough for a relationship right now. I've realized that I'm really unable to care for the needs of another person if I can't even take care of my own. I think that it's a healthy decision for everyone(potentially) involved. It just wouldn't be fair to dump my current struggle/worsening episodes/etc. on someone I'm supposed to care about to worry about/care for.
I hate it so much.
It just feels like i'll never be able to find anyone. Hell i turn 20 in a few months and i've only ever had 1 girlfriend, and that lasted less than a month. I've been told i'm fairly attractive, but the only people who ever seem to be attract are gay men, which doesn't do me much good as i'm straight. I just can't ever seem to get a date, and i know it doesn't help matters that i'm shy, but despite my best efforts, I can't seem to fix that. It just feels kind of hopeless.
It just feels like i'll never be able to find anyone. Hell i turn 20 in a few months and i've only ever had 1 girlfriend, and that lasted less than a month. I've been told i'm fairly attractive, but the only people who ever seem to be attract are gay men, which doesn't do me much good as i'm straight. I just can't ever seem to get a date, and i know it doesn't help matters that i'm shy, but despite my best efforts, I can't seem to fix that. It just feels kind of hopeless.
I was unhappy being single so I got a girlfriend. Turned my life around but adds all sorts of complications and new responsibilities that I, looking back, don't really want or need.
Don't get me wrong though, I love my gf very much so its not all bad, but I just wish I had more time to do everything I wanna do and not much else (aside from working to fund my games addiction, of course)
Don't get me wrong though, I love my gf very much so its not all bad, but I just wish I had more time to do everything I wanna do and not much else (aside from working to fund my games addiction, of course)
I'd like to be in a relationship so my friends and family will stop bothering me about it. I'm slightly unhappy with being single, but I can't tell if it's my own feelings or just being told that single people can't be happy everyday for years caused it.
I was happy being single for a while, but after being alone for several years things get pretty depressing.
I have been in a long term relationship for most of my life(past 17) so yeah, I didn't really get the "I'm young and single" feeling. Cherish it because it will end and you will never get another chance. I'm not saying that it's bad being in a relationship (I have never been out of one really) just that I have never experienced being single really since I became sexually active. Live your life how you want, the number one thing is this; Looks don't matter if you can't be yourself. It doesn't matter how beautiful your woman is if all she wants to do is change you every day.
Where's the "I feel fine, but wouldn't mind being in a relationship if I happened upon one" option?
I'm happy being able to mingle everywhere and all, but at the same time I would have to admit I long for another relationship. Still, luck just bit me badly in the ass, the moment you find that someone, they or you always have to be separated miles away.
As for now I'm probably sitting out my time for a karmic payback for my previous relation. "Never date the transfer student" they say.
But at the same time I'm kind of sick and tired of relationshit, despite still holding on to some hope.
As for now I'm probably sitting out my time for a karmic payback for my previous relation. "Never date the transfer student" they say.
But at the same time I'm kind of sick and tired of relationshit, despite still holding on to some hope.