Poll: How Happy Are You Being Single?

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Emotional development plays a big role in how you feel about your relationship status (or lack thereof). Some people are just wired to feel like they're only ever happy in the arms of another, while others are comfortable enough with who they are that they don't need a partner to define them. It's not that the latter would scoff at the opportunity, but I am saying they don't hold their breath waiting for someone to come along so they can reassess their self worth.

I fall in the latter, I'm not overjoyed at being alone but it's not the main reason for living in my world. I find plenty of reasons to get out of bed and get on with the day. If anything, people that are overly dependent on relationships need to be alone for awhile. Staying single long enough aids you in being comfortable in your own skin, to stop putting so much emphasis on other people and their opinions and live your life according to your rules.

The source eludes me but I think this phrase sums it up well:

"You can't love someone until you learn to love yourself"

 

[Korolev]

It depends on the situation. I'm not happy that I have no one to say "I love you" to... but on the other hand, I am happy that I can sink more time into studying, which I desperately need. Being single has its upsides and downsides. I will say that being single is not a one way ticket to a life of despair - I've been single all my life (mostly due to my crappy, stoic personality and incredibly average looks), and I am reasonably happy at the moment.

 

[onewheeled]

What an appropriate time for me to find this topic.. My long-distance girlfriend of a year and a half just broke up with me in the last week.

Granted, it was more because our age and experience differences (she's only a year and a half older, but I'm only a junior in high school, and she's a freshman in college, so that year and a half is kind of a huge deal), and we've acknowledged that breaking up is the best option for both of us right now, so the whole thing went down pretty smoothly.

That said, it's a bit surreal being single again. And it will definitely be odd to find a girlfriend that lives nearby, since a 300 (and later 2000) mile difference is the norm for me now.

 

[Sentox6]

I'm happy being single because I'm selfish. That's the basic truth of the matter. I have too many things I like to do with my own time to want the obligation of sharing it with someone else.

 

[pwned123456]

i picked unhappy im happy overall but i really want to not be single but there is some good news i might not be single much longer if i can work up the courage to ask this great girl i like out

 

[this account is gay]

First off, I am 15ish. To clear up any questions about that. I have a crush on someone, and she liked me back. But, she has a boyfriend. :| Anywho. After a while of knowing her, she told me that she was suprised that I didn't have a girlfriend. I'm not sure if I should take that as a compliment, or insult. Probably complimenting me. It made me somewhat happy, because after that, I noticed how females acted towards me in the past, and it gave me a feeling that I could be with anyone I wanted. But not her. ._.

 

[Macgyvercas]

Single?

What's that?

>Been in a relationship with the same girl since he was 15. Is now 24.

Yes. I'm a charismatic stallion.

Lucky bastard.

I jest. Mostly.

Anyway, I get kinda depressed about it around this time of year. I'm not the greatest looking guy, and most girls regard me as a dear friend than someone who they would date. Add to that the fact that I would ask someone out, but I spend all my time envisioning possible ways that could go wrong, coupled with a bad stammer when I get nervous, and...Oh fuck it, I'm not happy, and why the devil did Aylaine have to leave?! She gave great advice!

 

[Josh Hibbard]

I'm not happy being single almost at all. Granted I was fairly recently engaged and that recently got ruined. But I'm 25 now which I know isn't really old, but I'm starting to feel old. I want so bad to start a new life with someone. So yeah, not happy being single. It's for some people, but it's not for me.

 

[Tsekatsu]

Nope, not really happy at all at the present moment, Being in a relationship might help with being happy factor but there are a lot of other things I could do to be a little happier.

 

[Chancie]

I'm just fine. Being single doesn't bother me, so I'm totally happy with that, even if my family isn't. Though, there's one certain guy that I would definitely love to be with, but really only him specifically at the moment. Otherwise, I'm content being on my own.

 

[Hollock]

I'm not really happy. But I couldn't tell if it was because I don't have a girlfriend because I've never had one ever. Maybe I'd be happier, but I don't know.

 

[hooksashands]

Got 99 problems but a ***** ain't one.

 

[uguito-93]

Honestly, I find that I've been unhappier while in relationships than while single. I'm the kind of person who gets fed up with having someone around them night and day.

 

[Thespian]

If it was someone I really liked, I'd be happier in a couple.

But I'm not unhappy now...

 

[SonicMTD]

I was happy when I was in a relationship.

I also realized how miserable I am now that I'm single.

 

[Scionxa19]

it sucks. I hate it with all my heart

 

[The Aimless One]

Well I'm in a relationship now....but I was happy when I wa single.
Same goes for my partner.....

We are both convinced you should be able to be happy on your own before attpemting to form a meaningfull relationship
(or one without any unnecessarily complex emotional dependencies anyway).

Before we met I was'nt happy anout being single but life was good and I was happy.
And besides: You can't force a thing like love.

 

[zhoominator]

To be happy in a relationship, you NEED to be happy as a single person. That doesn't mean you wouldn't like a relationship, it means that you shouldn't need a relationship to fill some kind of hole in your life. This almost inevitably ends badly.

I'm feeling pretty good. I'm far to busy to worry about being romantically lonely.

 

[Andrux51]

I'm probably going to get crap for this, but I see a lot of people saying things like "I only want this one girl/guy and nobody else (who may or may not know I even exist)" - that sounds like a recipe for disaster to me. What if you do get together with that person, and they turn out to be completely different than the expectations you have for them? For about 5 years now, my brother's had his sights set on a girl who's recently married, but he doesn't understand that he's completely incompatible with her. He wants to play video games just about as much as possible (taking the dog to the vet is an awful long time away from Steam...), and she's the "hollywood pretty girl" type, like her perfect day is shoe shopping and fancy expensive dinner, but he looks at her having a happy life and being pretty and thinks she'd make him happy.

For the record, I'm taken now, but I've spent plenty of time being both happy and unhappy when I was single. Dating before my current girl helped me learn what I really want out of a relationship, and that I was an idiot when I had a few relationships that involved me not being myself (i.e. things like hiding any nerdy hobbies like video games, and showering gifts on the girl)

If I can impart any advice on someone who's in the "single and unhappy about it" camp, don't lust after that one person who you think is going to be what dreams are made of. Everyone has faults, and many times we think we'll be happy with someone because we're happy and we see them being happy, but if they don't share your interests, you'll have one hell of a hard time being happy together. Be yourself, always, or you'll never be happy whether in a relationship or not.

 

[Aetera]

I see myself being single as necessary right now. It's not that I hate the idea of relationships, but rather that I'm content in the knowledge that I'm making the right choice. I won't get into it here, since it's not the place, but I've been struggling with a mental illness that is severe enough to have just re-entered partial hospitalization for the second time. I'm not stable enough for a relationship right now. I've realized that I'm really unable to care for the needs of another person if I can't even take care of my own. I think that it's a healthy decision for everyone(potentially) involved. It just wouldn't be fair to dump my current struggle/worsening episodes/etc. on someone I'm supposed to care about to worry about/care for.