Poll: How Happy Are You Being Single?
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I am actually fairly happy to be single, and I do my best to stay single: if someone tries to hit on me or shows even little interest towards me, I'll do my best to turn them away using my amazing powers of seemingly not giving a damn.
Why? Because it's fun.
Why? Because it's fun.
Damn happy. I look at the bank account and I know it's all for me *does little jig*
But then again I'm only 19 so it's not really a big deal.
But then again I'm only 19 so it's not really a big deal.
Right, three things on this.
1) I'd rather be in a relationship. Pretty straightforward. Have been in some, only one went smooth for ages until it all went to hell. Still, propably the happiest time of my life.
2) I hate failing. Dating girls means you will stumble, hurt and fail. Thank god I know who I am and what I want and need, but still. A lot of girls out there that are Venus Fly Traps. Cool to look at and eager to get a hold of you, but once that's done you propably won't survive their digestive fluids.
3) I like "the hunt". When it's on between me and a girl, I LOVE the rush it gives me. The happiness it brings. It's not love itself, it's the feeling of success, of getting what you want. Until, of course, 2 kicks in and they appear to be something you don't really want at all.
Am I a happy single? I don't think I really am, but being single doesn't ruin my life so far.
1) I'd rather be in a relationship. Pretty straightforward. Have been in some, only one went smooth for ages until it all went to hell. Still, propably the happiest time of my life.
2) I hate failing. Dating girls means you will stumble, hurt and fail. Thank god I know who I am and what I want and need, but still. A lot of girls out there that are Venus Fly Traps. Cool to look at and eager to get a hold of you, but once that's done you propably won't survive their digestive fluids.
3) I like "the hunt". When it's on between me and a girl, I LOVE the rush it gives me. The happiness it brings. It's not love itself, it's the feeling of success, of getting what you want. Until, of course, 2 kicks in and they appear to be something you don't really want at all.
Am I a happy single? I don't think I really am, but being single doesn't ruin my life so far.
I'm stuck between a rock and a big stick with 'Fuck You' carved in it. Still soul despairingly missing my ex after a few months; found out about a week ago my 'best friend' (who believed he was gay) has been going out with her shortly after we broke up, and even then I believe they had feelings for each other while I was with her. Meanwhile, I'm falling for another friend's sister who doesn't trust guys or wants a boyfriend, and effectively sees me as a brother. but gives off mixed signals...Whenever I start getting better something new about the ex pops up and knocks me down again.
So am I happy with being single? Not really...but I kinda just wanna be Forever Alone right now....now to end this sad post with a sad quote...
"Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn't it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means someone can get inside you and mess you up. You build up all these defenses. You build up a whole armor, for years, so nothing can hurt you, then one stupid person, no different from any other stupid person, wanders into your stupid life... You give them a piece of you. They didn't ask for it. They did something dumb one day, like kiss you or smile at you, and then your life isn't your own anymore. Love takes hostages. It gets inside you. It eats you out and leaves you crying in the darkness, so simple a phrase like 'maybe we should be just friends' or 'how very perceptive' turns into a glass splinter working its way into your heart. It hurts. Not just in the imagination. Not just in the mind. It's a soul-hurt, a body-hurt, a real gets-inside-you-and-rips-you-apart pain. Nothing should be able to do that. Especially not love. I hate love." - Neil Gaiman
So am I happy with being single? Not really...but I kinda just wanna be Forever Alone right now....now to end this sad post with a sad quote...
"Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn't it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means someone can get inside you and mess you up. You build up all these defenses. You build up a whole armor, for years, so nothing can hurt you, then one stupid person, no different from any other stupid person, wanders into your stupid life... You give them a piece of you. They didn't ask for it. They did something dumb one day, like kiss you or smile at you, and then your life isn't your own anymore. Love takes hostages. It gets inside you. It eats you out and leaves you crying in the darkness, so simple a phrase like 'maybe we should be just friends' or 'how very perceptive' turns into a glass splinter working its way into your heart. It hurts. Not just in the imagination. Not just in the mind. It's a soul-hurt, a body-hurt, a real gets-inside-you-and-rips-you-apart pain. Nothing should be able to do that. Especially not love. I hate love." - Neil Gaiman
I'm... actually, I don't know what I am. I don't think 'happy' or 'content' hit the spot. I am... well, I just am. No specific aches and pains due to being single, but I'm certainly not averse to starting a relationship.
The thing is, I'm unable to compare these two states, because I've never been in a real relationship; around 6 or 7 years ago I had a thing with a girl, but she just used me to cheat on her boyfriend, so aside from the sex I would argue it wasn't the real deal. Maybe if I had any experience in the matter I'd know what I'm 'missing', but as it stands I don't.
Who knows, maybe my current diet will help. I've been seriously overweight for years now, and it's quite understandable women wouldn't be interested in me; maybe with about 110 pounds less I'd stand a better chance at the love game, should I feel inclined to play.
The thing is, I'm unable to compare these two states, because I've never been in a real relationship; around 6 or 7 years ago I had a thing with a girl, but she just used me to cheat on her boyfriend, so aside from the sex I would argue it wasn't the real deal. Maybe if I had any experience in the matter I'd know what I'm 'missing', but as it stands I don't.
Who knows, maybe my current diet will help. I've been seriously overweight for years now, and it's quite understandable women wouldn't be interested in me; maybe with about 110 pounds less I'd stand a better chance at the love game, should I feel inclined to play.
At the moment, not happy. Damn V day stuff getting me down, reminding me.
Mostly I'm fine with it. Every present day relationship I have seen has led to mental trauma, depression, drama, even complete isolation from friends. I'd go through such unimaginable mental torment trying to impress a girl, then trying to keep her, that it simply wouldn't be worth it. People go out all the time with the intention of getting laid/meeting someone, and they spend all night desperately embarassing themselves and go home depressed when nothing happens. I just wanna have fun when I go out, not ruin it by trying to get a girlfriend.
Not to mention I'm so unimaginably ugly, that barring the use of extreme amounts of alcohol, no girl could ever possibly want me. And, as last night's blur of entire bottles of rum being downed after an alestorm concert showed me, if a girl really is drunk enough for me to seem slightly attractive, my damn stupid conciense will stop me, and that's forgetting what the hell would happen when she wakes up the morning after.
But yeah, I do want a girlfriend. Sometimes desperately so. It hurts to know there will never be anyone who understands me, who's always there, and perhaps more importantly, someone I can understand and be there for, but it's irrelevant. I'd be chasing after an impossible goal, I'd destroy myself trying. I just gotta forget it and remember that single=/=miserable, at least not all the time.
Mostly I'm fine with it. Every present day relationship I have seen has led to mental trauma, depression, drama, even complete isolation from friends. I'd go through such unimaginable mental torment trying to impress a girl, then trying to keep her, that it simply wouldn't be worth it. People go out all the time with the intention of getting laid/meeting someone, and they spend all night desperately embarassing themselves and go home depressed when nothing happens. I just wanna have fun when I go out, not ruin it by trying to get a girlfriend.
Not to mention I'm so unimaginably ugly, that barring the use of extreme amounts of alcohol, no girl could ever possibly want me. And, as last night's blur of entire bottles of rum being downed after an alestorm concert showed me, if a girl really is drunk enough for me to seem slightly attractive, my damn stupid conciense will stop me, and that's forgetting what the hell would happen when she wakes up the morning after.
But yeah, I do want a girlfriend. Sometimes desperately so. It hurts to know there will never be anyone who understands me, who's always there, and perhaps more importantly, someone I can understand and be there for, but it's irrelevant. I'd be chasing after an impossible goal, I'd destroy myself trying. I just gotta forget it and remember that single=/=miserable, at least not all the time.
I suppose Id like to be in a relationship, but for now Im content with just being alone. I want to be self assured and content with myself before I seek out a girl. I shouldnt feel like I need someone else to be happy and "complete". That kind of thinking's just unhealthy
Hmmmmm that is a hard question to answer, im currently happy not being in a relationship but i also want one at the same time. There are things that i want to do for myself, for example start up a career(currently 20) and learn life skills. However im the type of person to treat a woman with respect(i dont treat them like s***)but i also feel lonely and lost occasionally, so for now im forever alone.
I'm very happy being single.
The freedom and benefits of being single are the main reasons I haven't tried to find a partner in about 10 years now.
If a girl comes to me, I'm willing to try it out, but I feel no compelling reason to change what already works.
The freedom and benefits of being single are the main reasons I haven't tried to find a partner in about 10 years now.
If a girl comes to me, I'm willing to try it out, but I feel no compelling reason to change what already works.
Sorry but with this and your avatar I'm forced to ask... are you actually Jeremy Clarkson? Because if not the comparison is uncanny.TestECull said:
OT: I was happy being single for a while. Because, you know, one-night stands are fun for a while and I didn't really have to answer to anyone. But eventually it just got dull and shallow. Luckily I convinced some poor bastard to date me and it seems to be going well for all concerned.
Eh, not really. I long for that special kind of companionship you get, that warmth and comfort that I think you get in a good relationship.
Thing is, I don't really know how that feels. I just know that there's a place in my heart that goes unfilled, that there are feelings I want to express and share that I can't right now. And that's not a very comfortable feeling.
Thing is, I don't really know how that feels. I just know that there's a place in my heart that goes unfilled, that there are feelings I want to express and share that I can't right now. And that's not a very comfortable feeling.
I am not single. I was single for about four months at the end of last year, and it wasn't too bad. I can't say I was happy or sad, because in the first month I was arguing, in the second month I was busy working and in the third and fourth month I started talking to who is now my girlfriend (and my ex-girlfriend's sister. I promise, it's not how it sounds). I haven't really experienced being 'properly' single in a long time.
While I agree with you a lot of people are probably just claiming it as a coping mechanizim rather than an actual belief ("Oh it's cool I don't have a partner, because I don't really want one"), there are actually some people who are legitimately happier not being in a relationship. You can't really say that everyone in the world wants to be in one, because even one person legitimately not wanting to be in one disproves that.Razada said:
As for me personally, I am fine being single. While I wouldn't object to a relationship, I'm not really fussed about going out and seeking one out. Since I have never been in a relationship, I cannot say whether having a girlfriend would make my life better or worse. Right now though, there is a lot of shit I need to get together before even attempting to add a girlfriend to the mix.
One thing I'm curious about though: I hear some guys say they love the chase (I personally do not). Has any guy ever been asked out by a girl, started dating her, and actually thought "I really love , but god I hate the fact she made it so easy to date her".
Unhappy, but not so much because I'm single. I'm not going to hunt down any relationship just to not be single. No, because I managed to get myself in one of those "It's complicated" type situations. I remember once upon a time when this sort of stuff was easy, I miss you teenage years.
Why didn't you put content in the options then?Jacco said:
If by single you mean forever alone, then no I wouldn't be happy with that. If by single you mean sleeping around and having casual relationships, then I'm perfectly happy with that. Steady relationships mean doing a lot of stuff you don't like to do, just to please the other person. The best GF's I've had was we we're an item, but still couldn't take each other's prescence for granted.
Off topic: What's up with the Hebraic in the captcha?