Poll: How Happy Are You Being Single?
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0.o....I uh..didnt think male prostitues for women were really a "thing"......(and no I dont think soStBishop said:
)I guess, but to be honest Im really not the kind of person who would do that, Im too self concious and I wouldnt want some stranger in my house or end up at a strangers house randomly
Yeah, the services offered range from your bog standard "piece of meat" through to what's known as the "boy friend" experience. They take you out and make you feel special. Some times they don't even have sex with you.Vault101 said:0.o....I uh..didnt think male prostitues for women were really a "thing"......(and no I dont think soStBishop said:
I guess, but to be honest Im really not the kind of person who would do that, Im too self concious and I wouldnt want some stranger in my house or end up at a strangers house randomly
But the boyfriend ones are more expensive.
I can understand feeling apprehensive about random people and places. Surely you have a mutual friend who you find sexually attractive? More women should be pro active with their sex lives. Women always control the frequency (including none at all) and choice of partners in a sexual relationship.
Use that control to your advantage.
....well....you learn somthing new everydayStBishop said:Yeah, the services offered range from your bog standard "piece of meat" through to what's known as the "boy friend" experience. They take you out and make you feel special. Some times they don't even have sex with you.Vault101 said:0.o....I uh..didnt think male prostitues for women were really a "thing"......(and no I dont think soStBishop said:
I guess, but to be honest Im really not the kind of person who would do that, Im too self concious and I wouldnt want some stranger in my house or end up at a strangers house randomly
But the boyfriend ones are more expensive.
I can understand feeling apprehensive about random people and places. Surely you have a mutual friend who you find sexually attractive? More women should be pro active with their sex lives. Women always control the frequency (including none at all) and choice of partners in a sexual relationship.
Use that control to your advantage.
I dunno..the "boyfreind experience" might end badly if the lady in question is willing to pay for it she may get emotionally attatched or somthing..interesting
I think I be ok with it if I were comfortable with the person..but yeah, Im not about to go hire a prostitute or ask to fuck a freind
but thanks for the info!
Im pretty cool about being single, but if i could get a relationship off the ground and get back to the gym I would go back on the dating scene.
I used to be quite angry when I was more of the loner type.
I still am but more so before out of spite rather than a natural urge to not be around anyone.
It got pretty bad at one point where I felt so alone that I wanted to kill myself.
Even tried but it backfired (in more ways than one) and was left, not with a physical ailment but just a sense of clarity that I should just keep going.
That one Winston Churchill quote comes to mind, even if a bit overly dramatic when my situation is taken into account.
However, I did eventually find someone not too long later. Around the time I became alright with being by myself and was more of a natural independent.
My girlfriend and I got together and we've been a couple for a little over a year now. Almost two years since I've known her, actually.
I love my girlfriend and am sometimes overly possessive of her even if she doesn't know it.
That's my only issue now. >.>
But the point is that one shouldn't depend on another for their own happiness.
Someone isn't going to make or break who you are. You have to learn to love yourself before anyone else can and I've learned that first hand.
I still am but more so before out of spite rather than a natural urge to not be around anyone.
It got pretty bad at one point where I felt so alone that I wanted to kill myself.
Even tried but it backfired (in more ways than one) and was left, not with a physical ailment but just a sense of clarity that I should just keep going.
That one Winston Churchill quote comes to mind, even if a bit overly dramatic when my situation is taken into account.
However, I did eventually find someone not too long later. Around the time I became alright with being by myself and was more of a natural independent.
My girlfriend and I got together and we've been a couple for a little over a year now. Almost two years since I've known her, actually.
I love my girlfriend and am sometimes overly possessive of her even if she doesn't know it.
That's my only issue now. >.>
But the point is that one shouldn't depend on another for their own happiness.
Someone isn't going to make or break who you are. You have to learn to love yourself before anyone else can and I've learned that first hand.
I mentioned this to someone earlier today (not in this thread or even online). He was in the same situation as you. A feeling of "content" but wanting to get out there and such. Only difference is that he had had a girlfriend earlier in his life but just didn't bother with it after but the feeling of being single started getting to him for whatever reason.knight of some random number said:
He decided to attempt to get back out in the scene or whatever but wasn't really sure how.
If you really want a relationship but aren't looking to find that "one true love" thing just yet; get out there and talk to people. It isn't difficult and you don't have to make great friends with someone to ask them out.
People ask strangers out all the time only because they find them interesting/hot/sexy or whatever. Strike up a conversation and at least ask for their number if the convo goes somewhere.
If they say no, move on, no big deal.
If they say yes, if nothing else at all, your confidence will be boosted OVER 9000% simply from completing that. Trust me, it works.
Also, nice seeing you again Jamie, haven't seen you in a while ^-^
I'll say I'm all right.
Not quite happy. Not quite content even. But all right.
I'm not miserable or anything but there's nothing special about being single.
When you get right down to it, I'd like to meet someone who pretty much makes me feel that I was perfectly fine without them and I'd still be perfectly fine with them gone. But I'd be better, quite a lot better with them.
Not quite happy. Not quite content even. But all right.
I'm not miserable or anything but there's nothing special about being single.
When you get right down to it, I'd like to meet someone who pretty much makes me feel that I was perfectly fine without them and I'd still be perfectly fine with them gone. But I'd be better, quite a lot better with them.
While I am coming up on a year in my current (happy!) relationship, I don't think I'd mind the single life all that much. Ah well, that day will come eventually, so I think I'll make the best of this one until I'm exhausted by the thought of starting a new one when things end with my current GF
Well I am happy with my life but I would be awesome to get a girlfriend this year, especially if its a girl I like.
Though I don't think that will happen this year. *sigh*
Oh well, I still love to hang out with my best friend and play games and stuff with him. (He just discovered he had a free month of Live...)
But I really would like to have someone to cuddle though. D:
Though I don't think that will happen this year. *sigh*
Oh well, I still love to hang out with my best friend and play games and stuff with him. (He just discovered he had a free month of Live...)
But I really would like to have someone to cuddle though. D:
Don't worry, there's probably a person for you.RAKtheUndead said:
I'm happily taken, despite my relaxing weekends involving long manuals and afternoons faithfully simulating Russian SAM systems. Alternatively playing study sims for various aircraft...
...or making fun programs for people I care about.
Nerd and proud!
Being single sucks. I hate it; but seeing as I'm a cynical teenager I'm probably not going to find anyone special anytime soon.
I just need sombodyyyyy to loooove
I just need sombodyyyyy to loooove
yeah, being single can suck but it has some advantages i guess.
and on another note, any single females escapists between 18 and 25 around /forever alone
and on another note, any single females escapists between 18 and 25 around
/forever alone
I have to say your advice did put a smile on my face, thank youJulianking93 said:I mentioned this to someone earlier today (not in this thread or even online). He was in the same situation as you. A feeling of "content" but wanting to get out there and such. Only difference is that he had had a girlfriend earlier in his life but just didn't bother with it after but the feeling of being single started getting to him for whatever reason.knight of some random number said:
He decided to attempt to get back out in the scene or whatever but wasn't really sure how.
If you really want a relationship but aren't looking to find that "one true love" thing just yet; get out there and talk to people. It isn't difficult and you don't have to make great friends with someone to ask them out.
People ask strangers out all the time only because they find them interesting/hot/sexy or whatever. Strike up a conversation and at least ask for their number if the convo goes somewhere.
If they say no, move on, no big deal.
If they say yes, if nothing else at all, your confidence will be boosted OVER 9000% simply from completing that. Trust me, it works.
Also, nice seeing you again Jamie, haven't seen you in a while ^-^
Also confidence wise I am getting better, originally my fear of talking came from bad experiences. I.E I was often the victim of the whole "hey will you go out with her, naw I'm only kidding who would go with a guy like you." Its thanks to events like this, that if a girl where to ask me I probably wouldn't take her seriously and end up turning her down.
Although I was thinking of the more positive side of my interactions with the female species and it seems that ever since I entered uni, they've gotten a lot better. Granted I'm still not at the level were I can strike up a conversation with a complete stranger, it does take me a while to warm up to someone. The girls I do talk to and have actually made friends with some or the ones I know throw other people, such as a friends girlfriend. However it use to be that I couldn't even face them, when thrown into a situation where I was alone with them, I would make up some petty excuse and leave.
So in conclusion the good news I've gotten better at getting on with girls, the bad news they're always taken although to me this is a good sign, if I can talk to them, then perhaps someday I can talk to girls who are complete strangers.
So thanks again, if it wasn't for your advice I probably wouldn't have remembered this.
Also, it has been a while hasn't it. ^-^
Depends. I used to be miserable if I didn't have some intimate level of companionship. My first three girlfriends used me until I had no use to them (two of them cheated on me, one with about a dozen different people) and dumped my sorry ass. Still, after each one, I found myself miserable and longing for that feeling again. Just to have someone to cuddle with, talk to, etc. which lead to each subsequent relationship ending up the same.
Now the 4th one. She was a good person. She was nice, nerdy, cute, supportive, etc. We didn't always see eye to eye, and it lead to the whole going to bed mad thing more often than I'd like (but making up was fun so whatever), but overall it was good. I had a good, loyal girl and things were looking up for me. The big problem with us was her borderline obsession with work. We lived about an hour away from each other and she rarely, if ever, had the time to see me. She had more than enough money, and transportation, but she never had the time because she worked 10 hour days at a pizza place. I didn't have nearly as many resources, but I still would have made the trip if she was ever free to take advantage of it. Long story short, the longing for physical affection got the better of me and I ended up being unfaithful and tried covering it up, and it blew up in my face.
Now, after this disaster, and what was probably 3 months of self-loathing, I was ok with being single for once. I felt like a piece of shit that didn't deserve any woman. I never thought I'd end up cheating on anyone and saw myself as as low of a human as you can be. I was ok with being single because I didn't think I deserved to be with anyone. Even if I did, at that time I was too afraid to let it happen, because I felt like a time bomb, I could do the same thing any time to any girl and I'd rather be alone forever than put anyone else through that.
A big reason I got past that was my current girlfriend. I knew her before I even met the aforementioned "good one". She was the biggest help anyone could imagine to be. She'd stay up late on school nights just so I could beat myself up over the phone to her, she'd listen to anything i had to say at any time and seemed to always know exactly how to make me feel better. She's an even longer distance than the last one (literally across the country), but I'm so in love with her. She's everything I've ever wanted and needed in my life. We're both working right now toward settling in in California (where she is) and moving back here when our schooling is finished. I'm many times happier than I can remember ever being, and I firmly believe that by far the biggest reason is her.
Short version: I'm usually miserable if not in a relationship, but sometimes it's good to stay out of the "game" and reflect and figure out what you have to offer and what you want. And sometimes it's better to be alone and content than with someone that makes you miserable. But i am currently taken and couldn't be happier about it.
Now the 4th one. She was a good person. She was nice, nerdy, cute, supportive, etc. We didn't always see eye to eye, and it lead to the whole going to bed mad thing more often than I'd like (but making up was fun so whatever), but overall it was good. I had a good, loyal girl and things were looking up for me. The big problem with us was her borderline obsession with work. We lived about an hour away from each other and she rarely, if ever, had the time to see me. She had more than enough money, and transportation, but she never had the time because she worked 10 hour days at a pizza place. I didn't have nearly as many resources, but I still would have made the trip if she was ever free to take advantage of it. Long story short, the longing for physical affection got the better of me and I ended up being unfaithful and tried covering it up, and it blew up in my face.
Now, after this disaster, and what was probably 3 months of self-loathing, I was ok with being single for once. I felt like a piece of shit that didn't deserve any woman. I never thought I'd end up cheating on anyone and saw myself as as low of a human as you can be. I was ok with being single because I didn't think I deserved to be with anyone. Even if I did, at that time I was too afraid to let it happen, because I felt like a time bomb, I could do the same thing any time to any girl and I'd rather be alone forever than put anyone else through that.
A big reason I got past that was my current girlfriend. I knew her before I even met the aforementioned "good one". She was the biggest help anyone could imagine to be. She'd stay up late on school nights just so I could beat myself up over the phone to her, she'd listen to anything i had to say at any time and seemed to always know exactly how to make me feel better. She's an even longer distance than the last one (literally across the country), but I'm so in love with her. She's everything I've ever wanted and needed in my life. We're both working right now toward settling in in California (where she is) and moving back here when our schooling is finished. I'm many times happier than I can remember ever being, and I firmly believe that by far the biggest reason is her.
Short version: I'm usually miserable if not in a relationship, but sometimes it's good to stay out of the "game" and reflect and figure out what you have to offer and what you want. And sometimes it's better to be alone and content than with someone that makes you miserable. But i am currently taken and couldn't be happier about it.
Single, and like the OP, I was content with it, in fact more than content, almost happy. Suddenly, my biological clock has gone off, and I'm suddenly feeling lonely. Originally, I think I was happy because I was convinced no female could interest any part of me above the waist. Then after a series of events, which included an embarrassing "failure to launch" with a random girl, and me meeting an awesome girl (who is not only hot, but smart, and a badass), I've been forced to reconsider. Damn, I was happy single. Why brain, why?