Poll: Teens sleeping together?

[PurplePlatypus]

It depends.
Because of course the contexts and the specifics can be important and it?s too vague a question to even answer generally. As to your specific case; I don?t know because I don?t know enough. Not about; either of you, either of your parents, the state of your relationship, or what you both think about the whole thing.

 

[crudus]

Also to the rest of your post and to the other people questioning it...

While that was informative it wasn't necessarily meant to apply to everyone. Also, there is a difference between one-night stands and fuck buddies. I wasn't trying to say that if you have sex with someone once you will be madly in love with them. I was trying to make a statement that applied to most people. The only way to know if that statement doesn't apply to you is to try it. The consequences of seeing if you fall into that statement are too great to try it in your early-to-mid teen years.

 

[BlueberryMUNCH]

I spent 2 weeks sharing a double bed with my older-than-me girlfriend. I was 15.

We obviously fumbled around a lot, and it was the best 2 weeks of my life.

Hell yeah, everyone needs to experience it.

 

[Jonluw]

There's nothing wrong with sexual promiscuity at all, so long as you make sure you're not spreading STDs and babies around.

 

[Knusper]

Well really the teenagers should be trusted and I wouldn't say that it is 'bad' to not use protection, just irresponsible.

 

[Lethos]

I was 15 for my first. Really, by that age you should have had sex ed grilled into you.

 

[TheRightToArmBears]

What do you mean by teen? Are we talking 13 or 19?

Generally, about 16 seems right to me, but of course it's going to be different for different people. 13 is certainly too young. I would say above 16 or maybe 15 is fine so long as you have protection. I wouldn't agree with sex without protection until you're able to support a child because otherwise that would be rather irresponsible.

 

[Gindil]

Alrighty, well tonight I was having a discussion with my sister about what will happen with the sleeping arrangements when my girlfriend comes to my house for about a week at the beginning of August. Basically to put this into context, I live in NYC and she lives in a suburb of DC, so it is a fairly long distance relationship. For 4th of July weekend I was invited to come with her, her parents, and her grandparents to her grandparent's beach house in Delaware. While there I had my own guest room while she was basically forced to stay in a room with her parents. Now when she comes to NYC to visit me my parents will not have any problem with us sleeping together, which brought to my attention the BIG differences in the way different parents think. So basically I'm asking out of curiosity, should teenagers be allowed to sleep with each other, and also as a side note, is it really SO terrible if they are sexually active as long as they are using protection?

Captcha: yeaTree THE

Edit: I also do recognize that different countries/states have different customs. Both of my parents being northern, they do not really care as long as they don't like walk in on their kids have sex. However my girlfriend's parents are both southern so they have really stringent customs regarding that stuff.

Editº: I'll try to add a bit more discussion value with this; why exactly is it a bad thing for teenagers to have sex if they are protected and educated?

Uhm... Don't take this the wrong way, but I would not want the kid who was seeing my daughter, or the girl seeing my son be in the same living quarters as their boyfriend/girlfriend. Not until he's part of the family. Even then, that's where the hotel room is kept. It's more or less respect for the family in my view. I own the house, I'm not going to make it any easier to have grandchildren in it. I don't care if my daughter/son says "but it's just one night!". They know the rules and can do what they want outside of the place.

 

[Yosato]

As someone who lost their virginity at 15 (go me) it would be super-hypocritical for me to condone teenage sex. Then again the term 'teenage sex' is a bit unclear. If it's between two people of a similar age then it's alright, but I know someone who I knew through both primary school and high school that was recently jailed for 2 years for having sex with a fourteen year old (he's nineteen). It was in the paper and everything. Technically that's teenage sex but there's a much bigger difference between that and two consenting mid-teens

 

[Sandernista]

Well, I have sex regularly with my girlfriend, we're both teenagers. (I'm 17, shes a few months older at 18)

I don't see anything wrong with it, as long as both parties communicated and are educated about protection. I'd really like to stress the communication thing, communication is key.

 

[Tdc2182]

Does it really fucking matter?

If they are safe and aren't going to produce a baby or give each other STIs, what the fuck does it matter? What will be influenced negatively by this? What will change? How will it effect your life?

The answers are: No, No, Nothing, Nothing and It won't.

You know why this forum is considered superior to other forums? Because we like to think ourselves as one that thrives in having actual debates instead of the atypical 'throwing shit at each other from across the street', that you mostly see now on 4chan and site like that.

What you did right there was throw shit in the middle of a town hall meeting. Every other post I see of yours is you literally attacking someone elses opinion.

For fucks sake, chill out.

And, to think that a condom or birth control would remotely protect you from an STD is ridiculous.

OP: It really depends in my opinion.

I personally don't trust anyone with sex these days, because all of my friends seem to get way to lenient with safe sex. If I was a parent, I'd at least say no to it to keep them on their toes.

Condoms are actually remarkably effective at stopping STIs as they limit fluid exchange. I think the two points silly was trying to make was that, firstly, when individuals get to a certain age they're capable making certain decisions for themselves. In my country the courts consider it to be 16 years of age. Secondly that sex isn't an awful thing, despite what your country's puritan culture might think. There is nothing immoral about consensual sex between healthy and/or protected individuals that are not in a long term relationship.

Keep reading on.

I was mainly talking about herpes. Just look through the posts and you'll see what I was saying.

I should probably edit it.

 

[Wolf-AUS]

Just because you are sharing a bed, does that mean you are having sex? In my experience: no (...sadly)

I laughed.. Then realised I'd been in the same situation

OT: I don't think it would be a problem as other people have said, sleeping in the same room or even the same bed is not the same as intercourse. Even then, two teens over the age of consent should be able to do as they please, whether they are smart about it or not is down to them and while the parents are justified in wanting to protect their child, need to realise that some teens can develop seeming mature relationships without simply truly to fuck each other like rabbits.

 

[sdafdfhrye3245]

I don't get it? I slept with my best friend yesterday, there was only 1 bed so where else would I sleep? The floor? Fuck that!

 

[The Big Boss]

Funny how the opportunity for sex always arises when i don't have a condom.

 

[Zykon TheLich]

If they're und

 

[CODE-D]

No, why should they get to, I dont get to. course thats cause I dont have a girlfriend and am 18.

 

[Altorin]

in my house there was nothing wrong with it, my sister had a live in boyfriend at 15 and my girlfriend was always at my house, and our friends were always sleeping with eachother at our house. Maybe my parents were just pushovers but they never really put up much resistance to the idea.

 

[Julianking93]

While that was informative it wasn't necessarily meant to apply to everyone. Also, there is a difference between one-night stands and fuck buddies. I wasn't trying to say that if you have sex with someone once you will be madly in love with them. I was trying to make a statement that applied to most people. The only way to know if that statement doesn't apply to you is to try it. The consequences of seeing if you fall into that statement are too great to try it in your early-to-mid teen years.

I'm not saying that either. People can care for one another and even sex one another up and still be fine without the added bit of crazy emotions thrown into the mix. I'm saying that it happens quite often to a lot of people and I've both seen and experienced it. I do agree though that the risk of such emotional stress isn't really worth seeing if it applies to you at least not in my eyes. Works for some people. Not others. Just like most things but either way, like I said, it's not my place to force an opinion on anyone and that applies for both sides. I don't want people telling me who I can and can't sleep with nor do I want someone telling me I'm pathetic because I haven't had sex and that I desperately need to get laid.

Like with most things in the world, a delicate sense of balance is key >.>

 

[Zantos]

I don't think it's an issue so long as they're adult about it. If 2 teenagers (I will put a limit on this and say from about 15 onwards, don't know why) want to because it's right for their relationship and as long as they're protected then there's nothing wrong with it.

However, and this is only slightly biased because I hate the little brats, younger people are more likely to want to do it as a peer pressure/social status thing (I had this issue, it didn't end well) and more likely to be less educated about these matters then it's an issue which needs to be carefully dealt with.

In my experience the girls parents are always more stingy about this than the boys. Overall I think it's because of this idea that boys can panda it if something goes wrong whereas girls have to bear the brunt of it.

 

[conflictofinterests]

Teens have been known to be forgetful when they're paying attention to other, more interesting things. It is also the LAST thing they want to listen to that they MIGHT not have considered all the implications of sex. However, given that they are using protection and know as much about sex as can reasonably be expected from someone who's never had it, and neither set of parents are going to press charges, it's fine.