Poll: Teens sleeping together?

[Stasisesque]

As long as you aren't stupid and and you know not to like believe all those stupid myths like "Oh if you pull out before you actually finish then she can't get pregnant"; thats a nice one; then it is fine.

This is totally off topic, but the pull-out method can be just as effective as condoms when done correctly. The kicker is the "when done correctly" part... And it also doesn't really help with preventing STDs.

But yeah.. If your only concern is pregnancy and you're extremely self-controlled then the pull out method could work for you.

One source: http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control/withdrawal-pull-out-method-4218.htm (Click on the "How Effective is it?" section)

Yeah, as long as you've thoroughly checked your pre-ejaculate for any sperm prior to and during sexual intercourse you should be fine.

Suggesting it as a valid form of birth control is naive at the best of times. Suggesting it for a teenage boy is borderline abuse.

 

[StBishop]

You're 17.... who cares?

I think it also matters about the gender of the child.
Many parents care more about their daughter having sex than their son.

I don't see a problem with teens sleeping together.
Sex, I think depends on the age, maturity, length/seriousness of relationship.

I think if they aren't educated and protected they should probably not have sex regardless of age.

 

[Jamie Doerschuck]

As long as you aren't stupid and and you know not to like believe all those stupid myths like "Oh if you pull out before you actually finish then she can't get pregnant"; thats a nice one; then it is fine.

This is totally off topic, but the pull-out method can be just as effective as condoms when done correctly. The kicker is the "when done correctly" part... And it also doesn't really help with preventing STDs.

But yeah.. If your only concern is pregnancy and you're extremely self-controlled then the pull out method could work for you.

One source: http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control/withdrawal-pull-out-method-4218.htm (Click on the "How Effective is it?" section)

Yeah, as long as you've thoroughly checked your pre-ejaculate for any sperm prior to and during sexual intercourse you should be fine.

Suggesting it as a valid form of birth control is naive at the best of times. Suggesting it for a teenage boy is borderline abuse.

I'm not exactly "suggesting" it, I'm just saying it's possible..

 

[wootsniper]

Just because you are sharing a bed, does that mean you are having sex? In my experience: no (...sadly). I really don't see the issue. Now having sex, that is a totally different issue entirely. Sex does crazy thing to your biologically that is actually quite intense. I was saddened when I learned nobody told me about that. Sure they told us about all the STDs, pregnancies, etc, but never mentioned what your brain does after sex which is probably the scariest thing on that list in my opinion.

What do you mean "Sex does crazy thing to your biologically"?
Why is everyone on this site so dark and gloomy about sex(uality). Pedophiles, people who are only attracted by fictional characters and people who are not attracted by anyone at all.

Seriously, please tell me what happens to your brain
Your freaking me out man! :S

 

[crudus]

Just because you are sharing a bed, does that mean you are having sex? In my experience: no (...sadly). I really don't see the issue. Now having sex, that is a totally different issue entirely. Sex does crazy thing to your biologically that is actually quite intense. I was saddened when I learned nobody told me about that. Sure they told us about all the STDs, pregnancies, etc, but never mentioned what your brain does after sex which is probably the scariest thing on that list in my opinion.

What do you mean "Sex does crazy thing to your biologically"?
Why is everyone on this site so dark and gloomy about sex(uality). Pedophiles, people who are only attracted by fictional characters and people who are not attracted by anyone at all.

Seriously, please tell me what happens to your brain
Your freaking me out man! :S

Wow, I did not catch that grammatical nightmare in my post.

Anyway, sex isn't just for reproduction in humans. After you have sex a cocktail of endorphins are released which you associate with the person with you at the time. This increases emotional bonding with said person. This is good for married couples, but not so much for young teenagers.In the end it causes quite the emotional damage (for lack of a better word) when the break up does happen. Essentially it is why "just sex" never works. As <a href=http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.300008-Poll-Teens-sleeping-together?page=3#11941119>Julianking93 pointed out, it isn't true for everyone at every point in time. It is just how humans tend to be genetically wired.

 

[Flailing Escapist]

Sex? Sure.
Get married and/or have children? No, wear a condom.

(As one) Teenages are wayyyyyyyyyyyyyy to immature to handle children. I don't know why so many teens these days want to have kids these days. I know several mothers who were impregnated when they were 15-16 years old.... And if I'm not mistaken that's illegal? (In North America and I had sex before I was 18 too, so I'm not ragging on them) But if you want to waste your early life on a child who will probably be raised in a home that can't afford it to feel more "mature" knock your self out.

 

[FuktLogik]

Just because you are sharing a bed, does that mean you are having sex? In my experience: no (...sadly). I really don't see the issue. Now having sex, that is a totally different issue entirely. Sex does crazy things to your biologically that is actually quite intense. I was saddened when I learned nobody told me about that. Sure they told us about all the STDs, pregnancies, etc, but never mentioned what your brain does after sex which is probably the scariest thing on that list in my opinion.

I think they were lying to you. And if they weren't, I don't imagine it's any different than masturbation in terms of what it does to you biologically. In fact, you've got me curious now, what exactly did THEY tell you it did to your body biologically?

 

[Stall]

The only way I can really respond to this thread is by saying it's the 21st god damn century. TWENTY MOTHERFUCKING FIRST. How futuristic does that shit sound? We have mapped the human genome and are quickly approaching unlocking the secret to aging. I think two teens can sleep together and have sex fairly safely.

 

[spartan231490]

I don't see any problems with teens having protected sex. In all reality, if a person isn't capable of making intelligent decisions for themselves by the time they're 14, they're not going to be by 18.

 

[That One Six]

Gah, my mother has a problem with this. My girlfriend of nine months (today) and I are both going into college this year, and yet my mother freaks out whenever I suggest my girlfriend spending the night. Her reason? She doesn't feel comfortable with me growing up and she doesn't want to be put in a situation where she has to acknowledge it. >.>

 

[OrokuSaki]

I've ALWAYS wanted to say my piece in this matter, so thank you. I think it doesn't matter if they sleep together so long as they use protection BECAUSE it's human nature.

Think about this for a second. Once upon a time when the pilgrims landed in the new world and were obnoxious pricks to the natives, only the very, very, very lucky people got to live to 30. Human beings are, at best, animals inhabiting earth; so tell me, when was the last time you saw a mother dog push her son off a female because he "Wasn't old enough to take responsibility for it's actions"? Never. It's a law of nature that if you have it, use it or somebody else will.

In conclusion, I find conservative views of sex annoying and in opposition to the fundamental laws of nature, and the laws of man should be utterly disregarded on the basis that the people who make modern laws need E.D. drugs anyways.

 

[The Mehster]

Just because you are sharing a bed, does that mean you are having sex? In my experience: no (...sadly). I really don't see the issue. Now having sex, that is a totally different issue entirely. Sex does crazy thing to your biologically that is actually quite intense. I was saddened when I learned nobody told me about that. Sure they told us about all the STDs, pregnancies, etc, but never mentioned what your brain does after sex which is probably the scariest thing on that list in my opinion.

..what exactly does the brain do after sex that's so scary? I haven't heard anything except that it releases dopamine.

After sex, your brain releases a chemical called oxytocin. Oxytocin is what bonds child to mother and partner to partner. So, your brain pretty much gets attached, hormonally, to your partner.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Oxytosin [The Wikipedia article on oxytocin.]
Oddly enough, I learned of Oxytocin in Sex ed.

 

[P.Tsunami]

OP neglecting to specify an age is kind of a hamper. There's a world of difference between a thirteen year old and an eighteen year old.

Still, I think it's the kind of matter that can be okay, can be bad, but needs some solid judgment. I was in my mid-teens the first time, and it's damaged me none. Still, some have bad experiences. It depends on a lot of factors, and contraceptives are a must (knowing, also, that no contraceptive is 100% safe). I'd be very careful about it, but I'm not ready to go OMG EVIL either.

 

[crudus]

I think they were lying to you. And if they weren't, I don't imagine it's any different than masturbation in terms of what it does to you biologically.

First, may I ask why you think they were lying?

After sex, your brain releases a chemical called oxytocin. Oxytocin is what bonds child to mother and partner to partner. So, your brain pretty much gets attached, hormonally, to your partner.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Oxytosin [The Wikipedia article on oxytocin.]
Oddly enough, I learned of Oxytocin in Sex ed.

I was told the clitoris was essentially a woman's urethra...

 

[P.Tsunami]

I think they were lying to you. And if they weren't, I don't imagine it's any different than masturbation in terms of what it does to you biologically.

First, may I ask why you think I am lying?

That's not what FuktLogik said.

 

[crudus]

That's not what FuktLogik said.

Take an Irishman for what he means, not what he says.

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thanks

 

[Ritter315]

As a matter of principle, to me at least, the idea is not to have sex with someone unless you plan on marrying them. Then even is something does go wrong, you have the commitment to go along with it. And I dont really see the problem in just sleeping in the same bed. You know how many couples go to bed and not have sex, a lot actually. Its fairly common. Ok maybe thats more with married couples who are more mature but still.
And the reason why? Because the majority of teenagers are stupid, that why. Everyone rails about protection, but I dont see why. Now every teenagers seems to take condoms for granted, like its against UN sanction #127 and 1/2 that they dont get to buy them. Just like everything else, sex and condoms are taken from granted by the American teenager.
Personally I think it takens away some of the intrest. Sex is so taken for granted, its made it less intresting. Am I the only one that shares this opinion?

 

[airrazor7]

I think once a person has sexual urges, they are old enough to have sex...

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_youngest_birth_mothers
or you could just use google and see what you find

Children as young as 12 have sexual urges and some girls have urges at younger ages, so I'd say giving in to urges just because you have them isn't always the way to go.

On Topic: Your parents have already given you the go ahead and obviously you're more than excited at the prospect of even being in the same town as your girlfriend so knock yourself out, share your bed for the duration of her stay. What anyone says here will not change that.

My unpopular viewpoint on sex, protected or otherwise, is that you can have as much of it as you desire as long as you're completely independent (completely not dependent upon parents) and be prepared for any results that may come later. You may start having a really good time and get started without condoms or the condom could break.

You've already made up your mind on that as well, so just be protected and smart.

Also, of course different parents have different viewpoints because they grew up in different societal environments and were raised by different parents of their own. So you'll have the parents who will think sex should wait until a certain age or marriage and then you have parents on the other end of the spectrum who don't mind whatever their children get into.

 

[FuktLogik]

That's not what FuktLogik said.

Take an Irishman for what he means, not what he says.

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thanks

Uh, yeah...

All the chemical/hormonal talk in that article made me feel like I was in biology 10 again, so I quickly closed the page. I'll just assume that it meant bonds are formed when the hormone is released, and the hormone is released when the sexual organs are stimulated, but doesn't that mean a woman could form a heartfelt, everlasting love for her sexual aid? Either way, I think your educators were trying to scare you off sex more than educate you.

 

[templargunman]

I think once a person has sexual urges, they are old enough to have sex...

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_youngest_birth_mothers
or you could just use google and see what you find

Children as young as 12 have sexual urges and some girls have urges at younger ages, so I'd say giving in to urges just because you have them isn't always the way to go.

I'm going to go ahead and say I was wrong, I forgot that most people are pretty stupid when they're young.