Poll: Teens sleeping together?

[similar.squirrel]

I can certainly understand if parents don't want any jiggery-pokery going on under their roof, mainly because it's probably disturbing for them and any siblings that may be sleeping nearby.
That said, my parents had no problem with girls sleeping in my bed at home. Not that sex ever happened.

 

[ceyriot]

I honestly think that as long as both partners are educated, aware of the risks and properly protected (condom, pill or both)...then there really isn't a problem.

As for the parents, I think that they should discourage that type of behavior (whether their teenager is a guy or a girl) until after high-school. Sometimes it can be hard to stop, but whatever...don't encourage that shit, until they're legal.

Just my two cents.

 

[Radoh]

You want to know what I think? I think there are a lot more sex threads on The Escapist then there needs to be.

 

[Tdc2182]

Eh, I think you're just like that teacher everyone has who always catches the one particular student doing something naughty when they are incredibly well behaved 99% of the time, and when they are well behaved they are never in the room.

Hmm, well, I guess I'll have to keep my eye on you.

Just quit bringing the pales of feces to my town hall meetings.

I've just got to point out, condoms actually do protect from STDs. Birth control (as in pills and whatnot) do not, but condoms definitely do. They're not quite as effective against STDs as they are as birth control, but they are effective. If memory serves, it's something like a 75-85% success rate.

Well, it depends on where you get them.

Condoms tend to only cover someones shaft. Things like herpes will generally be all around your downstairs area. It's rather hard to keep those two areas from touching with another female.

Also, Condoms aren't designed for that. They may help prevent it, but that is not their true purpose.

 

[Stasisesque]

And, to think that a condom or birth control would remotely protect you from an STD is ridiculous.

Wait... what? Either that's bad phrasing, incredibly bad phrasing, or you're suggesting condoms do not protect against STDs?

 

[SillyBear]

Eh, I think you're just like that teacher everyone has who always catches the one particular student doing something naughty when they are incredibly well behaved 99% of the time, and when they are well behaved they are never in the room.

Hmm, well, I guess I'll have to keep my eye on you.

Just quit bringing the pales of feces to my town hall meetings.

Will do!

 

[Stasisesque]

Eh, I think you're just like that teacher everyone has who always catches the one particular student doing something naughty when they are incredibly well behaved 99% of the time, and when they are well behaved they are never in the room.

Hmm, well, I guess I'll have to keep my eye on you.

Just quit bringing the pales of feces to my town hall meetings.

I've just got to point out, condoms actually do protect from STDs. Birth control (as in pills and whatnot) do not, but condoms definitely do. They're not quite as effective against STDs as they are as birth control, but they are effective. If memory serves, it's something like a 75-85% success rate.

Well, it depends on where you get them.

Condoms tend to only cover someones shaft. Things like herpes will generally be all around your downstairs area. It's rather hard to keep those two areas from touching with another female.

Also, Condoms aren't designed for that. They may help prevent it, but that is not their true purpose.

Depends on where you get them? Is there some black market trade in condoms I'm not aware of? If you get the wrong size, sure, that can pose problems - but all condoms are made to a very very high standard. They cannot be sold if they do not meet incredibly specific requirements.

Herpes can be contracted without another person present. There is no guaranteed way to protect against the disease. You can pass oral herpes on to become genital herpes, hell you can even transfer it from your own mouth to your own genitals with your hands. Not a nice disease but the outbraks are completely controllable with the right treatment.

However, every other STD can be protected against with sensible use of condoms (male or female).

 

[88chaz88]

Whether you and her sleep together is up to you, but I don't think your parents should be supporting it by any means. It gives the impression that they're trying to be the 'cool parents' instead of actually looking out for their kid. Protection or not, there's always a chance she could get pregnant, and that brings up the issues in having a child so young (or getting an abortion and everything that goes along with that). Couple that with the risk of STDs and everything else and parents certainly shouldn't be actively allowing their kids to have sex.

Of course, if it's just sleeping in the same room, then it's not too big of a deal. But your question seems to mean otherwise.

Great, now I have nothing to say that hasn't been said already.

 

[Deadcyde]

you don't always have to fuck her hard... in fact some times that's not right to do.

 

[Flamezdudes]

I'm pretty sure that if I didn't have another friend sleeping round aswell, my girlfriend wouldn't even be able to stay round at all, let alone in the same bed since my parents would probably move her to another room.

Yeah, they're like that and I guess them being Catholic may have something to do with it maybe...

 

[Engarde]

I am not going to speak for others as that is not what I do, but I wasn't / aren't ready at that age / at this age so I wouldn't support it. Up to the two and what they know.

 

[Chibz]

People trying to tell other people what they can or cannot do with their bodies. Especially when the actions harm none. That general attitude sickens me.

 

[Hosker]

Sure, go for it. I don't see why you shouldn't, if you and your partner want to.

 

[onewheeled]

Huh, funny. I'm basically in the exact same situation as you. My long-distance girlfriend could make a stop where I live when she is flying from college in Michigan to her family in southern California, and I've been tossing around the idea of us sleeping together in a non-sexual way, only because there isn't any better way to do it. And you're only a year older than I am, whaddya know (I'm 16, I saw on your profile that you're 17, right?)!

Honestly, as long as things don't get kinky, I don't see any problems with it. But I can understand concern, so what I'm probably going to do is either have both of us sleep on a single L-shaped couch, or just grab an extra blow-up mattress for her while I take the couch.

 

[FamoFunk]

What age are we talking? 13yo teens or 15/16yo teens; there's a big difference.

Honestly - I'd rather my kid was sleeping with their Girlfriend/Boyfriend under my roof, where I know where they are and what they've been up to, rather than out gods know where trying to do the same thing, just because I dissaprove. (I don't actually disaprove, though).

 

[Torrasque]

I'd be telling my son to wait until he's been with this girl for at least 6 months if he really cares about her and to keep it to cuddling and such. If he doesn't care about her THAT much, then I'd tell him to enjoy being a kid while he can, and sex as much as he can so long as he uses protection.

I'd be telling my daughter that she can cuddle with him and kiss him as much as she likes, but she is not to sleep with him or have any sex with him until they have been together for at LEAST 8 months. I'll judge the boy's character, and if I like him, I might change my mind. But I intend to be that over-protective dad when I have a daughter.

If I was just an on-looker and not a parent in this situation, I'd tell the kids to wait till they are not living with their parents and to decide for themselves when they decide the time is right. I don't think anyone under the age of 16 should be allowed to date, because they have no idea what the fuck they're doing.

 

[Tdc2182]

Depends on where you get them? Is there some black market trade in condoms I'm not aware of? If you get the wrong size, sure, that can pose problems - but all condoms are made to a very very high standard. They cannot be sold if they do not meet incredibly specific requirements.

I was talking about actual herpes, as in inflamed areas with lumps. They are generally found all over the groin region.

Not the condoms.

I probably should have made myself more clear. When I was talking about STD's, I was pretty much only referring to the diseases that are visible. It's become sort of a bad habit to associate everything STD related with herpes.

Herpes can be contracted without another person present. There is no guaranteed way to protect against the disease. You can pass oral herpes on to become genital herpes, hell you can even transfer it from your own mouth to your own genitals with your hands. Not a nice disease but the outbraks are completely controllable with the right treatment.

However, every other STD can be protected against with sensible use of condoms (male or female).

Did not know that you could pass oral herpes to the groin. The more you know.

 

[MasterOfWorlds]

I personally don't have a problem with 17-18 year olds sleeping together in the same bed/having sex because most of them are going to at least have some understanding of the fact that having a child that young would slam the breaks on any future they might be planning.

Being southern myself OP, I'm a little bothered that you seem to think that our customs are really all that different from yours. It's not a regional thing, it's typically a religious thing. If her family is Baptist, and there are several kinds, you were lucky to be able to go there period. The same could probably be said about any strict religions, like Mormonism, Catholicism, and many other Christian ones, and I be willing to bet religions other than Christian as well.

I recently took a trip with my gf for a week to visit her family, and we slept in different houses. Mostly because her dad is just an overprotective asshole, but that's a story for another time. XD

Her mom wouldn't have cared if we slept together, as her mom loves me and thinks I'm probably the best thing that's happened to her daughter. Her mom gave us as much free time together as she possibly could, whereas her dad seemed to be calling every five minutes, which makes it very hard to do anything even remotely intimate with your significant other. I swear, it was like her had cameras in her mom's place. I kissed her, and my phone rang. We started fooling around, my phone rang. I was tempted to turn it off, but I didn't want to wake up dead. XD

 

[MasterOfWorlds]

You want to know what I think? I think there are a lot more sex threads on The Escapist then there needs to be.

But...without sex threads, I wouldn't have any threads to start. XD

Just out of curiosity, why do you think there are too many?

I like your avatar btw. I tried to resist the Pony Madness...it didn't work. XD

 

[aba1]

What do you mean by teenager? There's a pretty big difference between eighteen and thirteen. Seventeen to eighteen isn't so bad but thirteen to fourteen is a bit bigger of a problem.

Gotta agree with this guy also I belive in reasponsibity. Can you afford a child? If not you better be damn good at keeping you stuff in line cause a single mistake and your going to be paying for that kid.