Poll: Teens sleeping together?

[Jesse Billingsley]

Most kids these days seem to want to get their microscopic dicks sucked just so they can brag about it with friends without even considering how it will effect the girl. Its ignorance like this that really urks me because I have seen it destroy lives, and its not pretty, and anyone who thinks they get respect out of losing their viginity should be smacked silly, then smacked some more.

A wise man, IE my roommate, once said "Don't sleep with a girl, unless you know for a fact that you would want to wake up next to her for the rest of your life." If you have found a woman that you know for a fact that you Truely, deeply want to be with every morning, then by god do whatever you like! God Bless you son!

 

[Stasisesque]

Most kids these days seem to want to get their microscopic dicks sucked just so they can brag about it with friends without even considering how it will effect the girl. Its ignorance like this that really urks me because I have seen it destroy lives, and its not pretty, and anyone who thinks they get respect out of losing their viginity should be smacked silly, then smacked some more.

A wise man, IE my roommate, once said "Don't sleep with a girl, unless you know for a fact that you would want to wake up next to her for the rest of your life." If you have found a woman that you know for a fact that you Truely, deeply want to be with every morning, then by god do whatever you like! God Bless you son!

The juxtaposition of those two paragraphs is just amazing.

 

[LikeDustInTheWind]

In Canada if you're close enough age you can legally have sex if you're 12. I doubt twelve year olds should be having sex but if they know the risks and how to use protection and all that then hey, go for it.

 

[Evil Teddie]

My dad told to never have sex with a virgin if you are one, since you'll have no idea how it do it and will be probably be uber self conscious about another person seeing you naked.

Heh, maybe would be better if 'sex education' was a bit different so sex would be pretty commonplace and people wouldn't get so uptight about it.

Capacha: oh brother (says it all really.)

 

[thirion1850]

Define teen exactly, because I find it that a 16 year old is well in their right to either fuck up their life or play things right.

 

[Blueruler182]

I think it's fine. I mean, if the kids are going to screw they'll screw, no matter what you do, short of the two bricks option (enjoy that visual). At least this way it's not thought of as a huge deal and they know the parents trust them. I think the same with drinking and pretty much every other damn thing short of chemical drugs. No fuss no muss. My mom got me drunk my first time when I was fifteen and I don't drink anymore because I don't like the taste or effect, and I came to that because she was mature about it.

 

[Blow_Pop]

my mother-whom I live with full time- basically told me to use protection and keep the noise down.

funny both my parents tell me that.....and have been telling me since I turned 16 that if I'm going to drink at least do it at home so they don't have to worry about me......




My personal opinion is that kids are having sex at too young an age. Hell we had an 11 year old get pregnant out here!!!! That is way to freaking young. I mean if all you guys are going to do is sleep that's one thing but......If you must however, use freaking protection. As long as both people are of legal age (for their country since I know it differs) then generally I don't have a problem.

 

[ReaperGrimm]

Fuck the rules, do what you want, Vivia la Mexico!!!!!!!!

Yea VIVIA LA MEXICO!!!!
Captcha: goody two shoes

 

[Conza]

Alrighty, well tonight I was having a discussion with my sister about what will happen with the sleeping arrangements when my girlfriend comes to my house for about a week at the beginning of August. Basically to put this into context, I live in NYC and she lives in a suburb of DC, so it is a fairly long distance relationship. For 4th of July weekend I was invited to come with her, her parents, and her grandparents to her grandparent's beach house in Delaware. While there I had my own guest room while she was basically forced to stay in a room with her parents. Now when she comes to NYC to visit me my parents will not have any problem with us sleeping together, which brought to my attention the BIG differences in the way different parents think. So basically I'm asking out of curiosity, should teenagers be allowed to sleep with each other, and also as a side note, is it really SO terrible if they are sexually active as long as they are using protection?

Go for it dude! Home run! Home run! Home run! (Or USA, whichever you prefer).

Honestly, I think knowing what protection is ect is important, and using it should be 'advised' but not necessarily compulsory. Imagine if two rich 16/17 yr olds wanted to have children (hypothetical, their famous or something, inheritence, ect), I'm not sure we should say 'oi, you hold off, because we did it later' its kinda their thing.

For you, I would advise you do... but still dude - Home run! Good Luck!

Edit: Provision on the home run I've decided, sort of like Black Jack, hit on 15, stand on 17, 16 being the grey area, I think in this discussion 14 yrs old might be the grey area (when your 14 you might not think that way, but yeah), hit on 13 (don't), stand on 15 (its probably ok), 14 is kinda grey. So if you're 13, well, hmm, again its not for us to decide, but personally I think thats a wee bit too young.

Edit 2: \/That Guy\/ we must've tapped each others mind, I edit my post and use '14' then suddenly your saying 14. He's also right on all counts.

 

[Strazdas]

Nothing wrong with that. If both of you agree to it there should be absolutely nothing to stop you. Our bodies sexually mature at 11-14 years old. It is biologically natural to have sex from 14 year olds. merely the fact that we have social norms and that teenage woman bodies are not ready to have babies (which is solved by protection now) is the thing that brought the 18 year old rule.

So you're basically saying that middle-schoolers should be able to have sex because I'm pretty sure when every teenage boy starts to get sexual urges. Does it mean that they should be having sex? ABSOLUTELY NOT!

Wrong. We are biologically made to have sex at the time we start to have urges.

To say otherwise is just retarded because they are in no way prepared for the responsibilities that come with sexual intercourse AT ALL.

And the ONLY person at fault for them not being prepared for it is BAD PARENTS.

Of course educate them on the subject of safe sex, but don't start encouraging them to start boning immediately after the lesson is done.

Its not about encouraging, its the fact that most parents live in a wonderland believing that their 16 year old daughter does not know what sex is.

 

[brunothepig]

I actually had the same problem as you. My mum let my girlfriend and I sleep in the same bed before we'd even seen each other naked. She talked to me about being responsible when we do have sex, then left it up to me. My girlfriends parents still don't let us sleep in the same room, after we've been dating more than two years. It's really quite annoying. We still have sex, obviously, then I have to go into the loungeroom and sleep on the fold out bed.

 

[InfiniteSingularity]

If you're not a fucking idiot then why not? Me and my girlfriend are both teens under 18. We are sexually active and we are 100% safe at all times. What's wrong with that? We can make our own choices and we don't need anyone else telling us what to do. I'm speaking on behalf of most teenagers, who I would assume by the poll results, agree with my standpoint

 

[SeeIn2D]

If you're not a fucking idiot then why not? Me and my girlfriend are both teens under 18. We are sexually active and we are 100% safe at all times. What's wrong with that? We can make our own choices and we don't need anyone else telling us what to do. I'm speaking on behalf of most teenagers, who I would assume by the poll results, agree with my standpoint

Yeah that's exactly my point in argument against people who say its a bad thing. As long as you aren't stupid and and you know not to like believe all those stupid myths like "Oh if you pull out before you actually finish then she can't get pregnant"; thats a nice one; then it is fine.

And just to clarify, we have both had sex and this is not a thread where I'm trying to get the opinions of people on unfair rules placed on us etc. I was just using my situation to clarify why exactly I'm curious about peoples opinions and to give some idea of what I'm talking about because it seems like a very good example.

 

[XHolySmokesX]

I have no problem with teens having sexual relationships as long as they use protection, don't let it define them, and don't just do it with anybody.

If i had a teenage son/daughter in a relationship i wouldn't force them to be celebate, it's their descision.

If they experiment with relationships and sex at a young age they will be happier in life as long as they have someone to guide them through who's been there before.

 

[InfiniteSingularity]

If you're not a fucking idiot then why not? Me and my girlfriend are both teens under 18. We are sexually active and we are 100% safe at all times. What's wrong with that? We can make our own choices and we don't need anyone else telling us what to do. I'm speaking on behalf of most teenagers, who I would assume by the poll results, agree with my standpoint

I laughed. Sex is, has never been and probably will never be 100% safe. Even multiple layers of protection (that is, male condom, female condom, the contraceptive pill and spermicides) can strictly speaking fail, and I'm going to guess that you don't exactly go to all of those lengths.

The world is overpopulated as it is. We don't need people who aren't financially or emotionally ready to take care of children engaging in an activity where there is a likelihood, even if it is a slim one, of the reproductive act being completed. As clichéd and trite as it sounds, the only 100% safe method of protection is abstinence, and it is distinct knowledge of this that allowed me to resist my biological urges during my teenage years, and indeed, during my younger adult years, whereby I have not been in a financial situation which would make fatherhood at all a sensible or logical idea.

It doesn't really matter. My point is that there is, quite realistically, no chance of something going wrong with me and my girlfriend. Yea it's not 100% guarantee, but there are enough 9s after 99.9% that it might as well be. And yeah, there's a risk - there is always a risk. But we're willing to take that risk. It's our personal choice. And quite frankly, I'm not going to sacrifice a personal wish of mine for the sake of "overpopulation". Sorry, but my individual rights and freedoms are more important to me than stopping overpopulation. You want to stop overpopulation? So do I. Restricting underage sex won't do it - it's like prohibition. It didn't work for alcohol or drugs, it ain't gonna work for this. Restricting the amount of children for all couples is the way to do it - do you want to enforce that? Neither do I.

There are people who aren't financially or emotionally ready for children who are past their 30s. Should we be restricting their sexual activity? Should we be isolating them by trying to actually find who is responsible enough to have children and who isn't? Should the government really be enforcing more and more laws to reduce the need for people to think for themselves? If people want to have sex, then they should go ahead - if they want to take that risk to their livelihood, it's no one else's business. And if you're concerned about overpopulation, there are much more substantial problems contributing much more than underage sex.

EDIT: Oh, and I forgot to add: You're really missing out. I feel sorry for you, man

 

[SirDoom]

Honestly, your parents really shouldn't be concerned if you're 18+. They should be concerned with you getting the hell out of their house, but not with who you sleep with.

That's if your girl is okay with sleeping with you though. I once suggested that my ex should spend the night at my place. Even after backpedaling and saying the spare bedroom is free, she still looked at me like I had just run over her dog in the driveway or something. Needless to say, it didn't work out.

 

[Jamie Doerschuck]

I believe that if the couple has an open conversation about sex and they both decide they're ready (without feeling pressured from their partner), then they should be able to have sex. This kind of takes care of age weeding out anyway, because girls in particular probably wouldn't be REALLY ready for sex until they're 16+ (15 at the youngest). Either that or they're really mature... For example:

I'm sixteen years old. I had sex with my girlfriend when I was 13. Yeah, I was young.. But I don't regret it at all. We had multiple conversations about whether or not we were ready for sex before we finally did the deed, and we discussed what we were and weren't comfortable with (to the best of our knowledge since we were both virgins). I'm still with her, and we're quickly approaching our three year anniversary.

But we have a weirdly mature relationship, so that's not right for everyone.

Also, before anyone opens their mouth and tells me I know nothing about mature relationships or maturity in general... Yeah, I do. My parents are still married (and it's their first marriage), so I've had a great role model to base my relationship off of and I'm in college (graduated early). And my girlfriend is seventeen. So... We're not exactly your "average teenage couple", and I'm not exactly an average teenager. But.. That's my personal experience.

Edit: I'm gay though, so I never really had to worry about STDs (I know it's possible for lesbians to get STDs, it's just extremely hard to do and neither of us had slept with anyone anyway, so we were clean) or pregnancy*.. But the most important part to me was figuring out if I was ready for the emotional aspect of it. Spoiler: I was!

*Funny story... Since I was gay and my mom didn't know anything about lesbian sex, she decided that my dad should have the sex talk with me because he might get it a little more. He was so uncomfortable that all he wound up saying was that "No meant no" and I should go on Oprah if Anna [my girlfriend] ever got me pregnant... I love you, Dad <3 =]

 

[viranimus]

No. Now granted we coddle our children entirely too much in this day and age. However, because we DO coddle our children too much, they simply are not yet prepared to handle such things with any degree of responsibility.

No, it boils down to those who support the notion are young enough to think "Yeah I am responsible, I should be able to do that" and the ones who are saying no are the ones who have lived long enough to understand why that is such a horrible and irresponsible idea. And its no coincidence that the demographic of the site just so happens to reflect those age brackets.

OT: Now, being realistic.. you can want to stop kids from it, lemme know how that works out, because Im pretty sure that has never ended well.

 

[Jamie Doerschuck]

As long as you aren't stupid and and you know not to like believe all those stupid myths like "Oh if you pull out before you actually finish then she can't get pregnant"; thats a nice one; then it is fine.

This is totally off topic, but the pull-out method can be just as effective as condoms when done correctly. The kicker is the "when done correctly" part... And it also doesn't really help with preventing STDs.

But yeah.. If your only concern is pregnancy and you're extremely self-controlled then the pull out method could work for you.

One source: http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control/withdrawal-pull-out-method-4218.htm (Click on the "How Effective is it?" section)

 

[captaincabbage]

It's a perfectly natural occurance, I don't see why not. As long as it's safe and consentual that it's all good.