LeathermanKick25 said:
Not physically strong or fast enough? Then become faster, become stronger. I never had much intention of going to a gym growing up. I still had to in order to survive. I never said it was fair or reasonable. If you play the victim card, you'll be treated like a victim. Simple as that. And nothings going to get done in that way. On this very site people have said how at this point a lot of people simply don't give a shit because trans cry victim without doing anything about it, and just take to flinging shit at others because "I'm trans I'm a victim". Not to mention how any slight jab you find remotely offensive you take it as a personal insult and again bring up "but we're getting murdered every day". How do you think things are going to change when you're alienating yourself like that? Because that's exactly what you're doing.
I don't need an excuse to be insensitive or whatever other insults you want to throw my way. I don't care what you think of me. I don't care about you or your troubles either, hell I don't even have to respect you or your wishes or any of that. You and your people are not the only ones who have had a hard life. You're not the only people who have had to fight to survive, to learn to defend yourself from a young age. You're not the only people who get fucked in the legal system. Shit things happening to good people is a universal thing.
And even still, you're not going to change all of the injustice in the world, whether it's against trans or whoever by crying foul on a forum like this.
Like as PaulH has pointed out, being on HRT and post orchiectomy, or on anti-androgen drugs, makes it difficult to build strength, due in large part to a lack of testosterone(usually significantly less than even women have/produce). Also please try not to apply your standards to everyone else, some of us have other unrelated physical issues that may limit us physically, trans, or not. Sure life isn't fair, but that doesn't mean everyone has to be up to your personal standards on everything, especially because as a military man you have some pretty high standards. I'm not trying to be an asshole here, but I know it's been a bit heated in this debate, for my part I apologize for that, but it does rile me up. Aside from that the "shit flinging" is coming just as hard from the other side just because they have a problem with us having a problem with anything. Like I said trans people tend to be sensitive on these issues and for damn good reasons. Also being victimized is traumatic, you should know this, being victimized on a regular basis for every part of who you are just makes things that much worse. So please try to understand that it's more than "people have to deal with shittyness in life" for trans people, we have to deal with constant shittyness from every side and having to defend ourselves on every god damn little thing. That's part of what being marginalized means.
As for the jabs, and bringing up why we find them especially egregious, it's again part of being marginalized, along with being constantly harassed and targeted. This is doubly true because we didn't ask to be like this, and the mistreatment isn't a side thing, it's systemic. A systemic problem with a marginalized, harassed, and abused group is of course going to make every little thing especially egregious, gays and lesbians didn't start getting more protection by being quiet and sucking it up. Well guess what the trans community isn't going to get anywhere by shutting up and just taking it either, we need to stand up for ourselves and our rights.
Pointing out bad and/or anti-social behaviour isn't an insult, if I say you're being insensitive then I'm pointing out that's the behaviour you're employing. Acting like a jerk doesn't absolutely mean you are a jerk as a person, it just means that's how you're acting. Of course you don't have to be sensitive to my position, respect my wishes, or even tolerate me on a personal level. But doing so actively, then justifying it also isn't going to make you look very good on a social level to anyone.
Learning to defend our selves is a good thing, a helpful thing, but it's not always going to work, especially when we're heavily targeted for abuse. More risk means more chance of failure which can be fatal. Not to mention that defending myself can be used against me to royally screw me over legally. It's almost a lose/lose situation. Sure it happens to a lot of people, but I'm saying that specifically, being trans can actually invalidate my rights. As for people getting screwed by the legal system in general? Yeah that sucks, but most people aren't systematically targeted in the legal system and denied justice either, trans people however are. Shit does happen to good people, yes, but for trans people things tend to be systematically shitty.
Still helping people understand, be more understanding, even if they disagree personally, helps, even if it's on a small scale. You don't win a war by shooting one guy on the other side, it's all the battles and skirmishes, no matter how big, or little, that contribute to the whole. Even if that's as small as just trying to explain how bad things can and tend to be for a group on a forum. I'm just one person I don't expect to fix injustices and problems in the world, or my country, my state, my town, or even individual people. That also doesn't mean that I shouldn't state my opinion, and try to get people to understand either.
