You can't say you didn't break people's "shit" but then say if you did you took responsibility for it.tofulove said:sounded like he was trying to get the ball and avoid taking responsibility for the window while in the process breaking the fence. every other time the kids went to the door. this time they tried to sneak in and cause more damage. if the kid had some honesty marched his but to the door and apologized, than in my mind did not deserve any serious punishment at all. a little time out and a stern reminder to be careful. but he tried to hide his crime by sneaking in. and for that i stand by my principles, spare the rod spoil the child.Delsana said:You really misinterpreted what happened.tofulove said:there alot of things i like about the eu, but the no spanking your child mentality alot of them have is bs. you should of bin able to smack that kids ass for that. after words the mom should of bin like well if a kid broke my window and broke my fence, id smack his ass to.
i don't believe in beating a kid, and i think time out and grounding (with out spanking) should happen in most cases. but when a kid has the nerve to break you window, than break you fence to hide the fact he broke your window, his ass needs a smack plus some grounding.
The kid was playing a game, the ball hit the window, the window broke, he climbed over the fence to get the ball which also broke. He wasn't breaking the window or fence on purpose and it's sheer hypocrisy for you to want uber punishment for this kid when you did the same shit as a kid yourself.
Capcha is "jump the gun", and you sure jumped the gun.
p.s. when i was a kid i did not break peoples shit, and when i did i took responsibility for it. i was rarely spanked cause i had the common sense not to be a tool. the few times my ass got a wooping i deserved it. maybe if kids had a little more incentive to not act like tools, we have less tools in the world.
An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind.tofulove said:sure it does, if some one murders some one else, and you kill them for there crime. they wont be doing any more murdering. for major crimes make examples out of people, for minor crimes focus on teaching them a better way. rapist, murders, people with multiple assaults and so on deserve the harsh punishments as a warning to others, more petty crimes focus on the rehabilitation to make them a functioning member of society.Delsana said:Punishment doesn't stop things, it makes you get better at hiding it. Your "usually" indicates this. It's not punishment that gives you self-introspection, it's maturity and development of self through experiences based on your own capacity and capabilities and drives. Not the forced drives of others.stonethered said:Right, but we got caught, we got punished, and we were forced to take responsibility for ourselves. What they did is not the worst thing ever, its not good, but nobody's dead or psychologically scarred. But I'm glad to hear that they got caught, they got punished, and someone took responsibility for it. Maybe one of these days they'll shape up to be decent, responsible adults like many of the other kids who did stupid things and got punished. But one thing's for sure, if they don't get punished then they probably won't learn to behave themselves.Delsana said:You guys all broke things when you were really young, or your parents did, and you didn't want to take responsibility and you fled... and now look at you all taking issue with it and acting as if it's the worst thing ever and punishment ever made you stop.. bahaha such hypocrisy.stonethered said:Depends on the region.Delsana said:Legally, it was child abuse.stonethered said:I don't think you were, not even for the ear twisting (which frankly sounds totally situationally appropriate, and is exactly how it would have happened if it had been a movie). Kids should have known better than to trespass, assuming they knew it was someone's property. Lady shouldn't have yelled at you for it, but her reaction is quite understandable. She was angry, and probably a bit scared about what you were doing; odds are nobody has ever actually laid hands on her kids before (and I'd say that after trespassing and vandalizing your private property, somebody probably ought to).
Could you have handled it better? Yeah, you could have just tracked down their parents and courteously requested compensation. But at the same time, your actions will have a rather more lasting impact on all of them. And you didn't try to kill anyone, or cause permanent harm. Nobody was threatened. And everything was paid for. As long as there's no legal problems, I'd say you did fine.
There's a very big legal problem here.
Again, I sense hypocrisy for everyone forgetting what happened when they were young kid...
And by legal problems, I mean depending on whether anyone wanted to press charges. Generally, the police don't fuss with things unless people take issue with them.
And what exactly is it that we're all forgetting here?
And Punishment did, usually, make me stop.
i never broke a window, i never broke a fence, the worse i did was accidentally broke a friends toy and told him i did, the toy was already falling apart any ways. so not really, in my life i might of broken a few things here and there but always replaced them. i wasn't dumb enough to play base ball next to some ones house, id go to the park. so you know common sense past on by parents. don't play ball next to peoples houses. and if i was a dumb enough to do some thing like that, and try to hide the fact i did it. you bet i get my ass spanked. if i came clean right from the get go, i wouldn't be pulled out by my ear, and my dad would offer to fix it and spare some leniency. like extra choirs to pay off the window my dad had to replace. if i tried to hide it, i would get pulled out by my ear, my mom and dad would agree with it, id get a good spanking, grounded and extra choirs. so what this method teaches people who are honest when they do bad deeds get off ez, but still responsible to fix what has bin done, hide it and your punished for your treachery, and forced to fix it.Delsana said:You can't say you didn't break people's "shit" but then say if you did you took responsibility for it.tofulove said:sounded like he was trying to get the ball and avoid taking responsibility for the window while in the process breaking the fence. every other time the kids went to the door. this time they tried to sneak in and cause more damage. if the kid had some honesty marched his but to the door and apologized, than in my mind did not deserve any serious punishment at all. a little time out and a stern reminder to be careful. but he tried to hide his crime by sneaking in. and for that i stand by my principles, spare the rod spoil the child.Delsana said:You really misinterpreted what happened.tofulove said:there alot of things i like about the eu, but the no spanking your child mentality alot of them have is bs. you should of bin able to smack that kids ass for that. after words the mom should of bin like well if a kid broke my window and broke my fence, id smack his ass to.
i don't believe in beating a kid, and i think time out and grounding (with out spanking) should happen in most cases. but when a kid has the nerve to break you window, than break you fence to hide the fact he broke your window, his ass needs a smack plus some grounding.
The kid was playing a game, the ball hit the window, the window broke, he climbed over the fence to get the ball which also broke. He wasn't breaking the window or fence on purpose and it's sheer hypocrisy for you to want uber punishment for this kid when you did the same shit as a kid yourself.
Capcha is "jump the gun", and you sure jumped the gun.
p.s. when i was a kid i did not break peoples shit, and when i did i took responsibility for it. i was rarely spanked cause i had the common sense not to be a tool. the few times my ass got a wooping i deserved it. maybe if kids had a little more incentive to not act like tools, we have less tools in the world.
Did you or didn't you?
Truth is you can say all that now, but when you were a kid you were a lot different. Stop being a hypocrite and stop insulting other kids because you're not one anymore and so you can't hope to be on their level of communication.
for some people, if you don't take there eye out, they will keep ripping other peoples eyes out. more importantly your showing every one else what happens when you do some thing that stupid. for people who do horrible deeds against there fellow human, horrible deads befall them as a reminder. lesser evils should be treated as mental illness and focus on healing instead of crucifying.Delsana said:An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind.tofulove said:sure it does, if some one murders some one else, and you kill them for there crime. they wont be doing any more murdering. for major crimes make examples out of people, for minor crimes focus on teaching them a better way. rapist, murders, people with multiple assaults and so on deserve the harsh punishments as a warning to others, more petty crimes focus on the rehabilitation to make them a functioning member of society.Delsana said:Punishment doesn't stop things, it makes you get better at hiding it. Your "usually" indicates this. It's not punishment that gives you self-introspection, it's maturity and development of self through experiences based on your own capacity and capabilities and drives. Not the forced drives of others.stonethered said:Right, but we got caught, we got punished, and we were forced to take responsibility for ourselves. What they did is not the worst thing ever, its not good, but nobody's dead or psychologically scarred. But I'm glad to hear that they got caught, they got punished, and someone took responsibility for it. Maybe one of these days they'll shape up to be decent, responsible adults like many of the other kids who did stupid things and got punished. But one thing's for sure, if they don't get punished then they probably won't learn to behave themselves.Delsana said:You guys all broke things when you were really young, or your parents did, and you didn't want to take responsibility and you fled... and now look at you all taking issue with it and acting as if it's the worst thing ever and punishment ever made you stop.. bahaha such hypocrisy.stonethered said:Depends on the region.Delsana said:Legally, it was child abuse.stonethered said:I don't think you were, not even for the ear twisting (which frankly sounds totally situationally appropriate, and is exactly how it would have happened if it had been a movie). Kids should have known better than to trespass, assuming they knew it was someone's property. Lady shouldn't have yelled at you for it, but her reaction is quite understandable. She was angry, and probably a bit scared about what you were doing; odds are nobody has ever actually laid hands on her kids before (and I'd say that after trespassing and vandalizing your private property, somebody probably ought to).
Could you have handled it better? Yeah, you could have just tracked down their parents and courteously requested compensation. But at the same time, your actions will have a rather more lasting impact on all of them. And you didn't try to kill anyone, or cause permanent harm. Nobody was threatened. And everything was paid for. As long as there's no legal problems, I'd say you did fine.
There's a very big legal problem here.
Again, I sense hypocrisy for everyone forgetting what happened when they were young kid...
And by legal problems, I mean depending on whether anyone wanted to press charges. Generally, the police don't fuss with things unless people take issue with them.
And what exactly is it that we're all forgetting here?
And Punishment did, usually, make me stop.
I was shy, I never broke anything, I just know all the people who did.. and they're pretty much everyone.tofulove said:i never broke a window, i never broke a fence, the worse i did was accidentally broke a friends toy and told him i did, the toy was already falling apart any ways. so not really, in my life i might of broken a few things here and there but always replaced them. i wasn't dumb enough to play base ball next to some ones house, id go to the park. so you know common sense past on by parents. don't play ball next to peoples houses. and if i was a dumb enough to do some thing like that, and try to hide the fact i did it. you bet i get my ass spanked. if i came clean right from the get go, i wouldn't be pulled out by my ear, and my dad would offer to fix it and spare some leniency. like extra choirs to pay off the window my dad had to replace. if i tried to hide it, i would get pulled out by my ear, my mom and dad would agree with it, id get a good spanking, grounded and extra choirs. so what this method teaches people who are honest when they do bad deeds get off ez, but still responsible to fix what has bin done, hide it and your punished for your treachery, and forced to fix it.Delsana said:You can't say you didn't break people's "shit" but then say if you did you took responsibility for it.tofulove said:sounded like he was trying to get the ball and avoid taking responsibility for the window while in the process breaking the fence. every other time the kids went to the door. this time they tried to sneak in and cause more damage. if the kid had some honesty marched his but to the door and apologized, than in my mind did not deserve any serious punishment at all. a little time out and a stern reminder to be careful. but he tried to hide his crime by sneaking in. and for that i stand by my principles, spare the rod spoil the child.Delsana said:You really misinterpreted what happened.tofulove said:there alot of things i like about the eu, but the no spanking your child mentality alot of them have is bs. you should of bin able to smack that kids ass for that. after words the mom should of bin like well if a kid broke my window and broke my fence, id smack his ass to.
i don't believe in beating a kid, and i think time out and grounding (with out spanking) should happen in most cases. but when a kid has the nerve to break you window, than break you fence to hide the fact he broke your window, his ass needs a smack plus some grounding.
The kid was playing a game, the ball hit the window, the window broke, he climbed over the fence to get the ball which also broke. He wasn't breaking the window or fence on purpose and it's sheer hypocrisy for you to want uber punishment for this kid when you did the same shit as a kid yourself.
Capcha is "jump the gun", and you sure jumped the gun.
p.s. when i was a kid i did not break peoples shit, and when i did i took responsibility for it. i was rarely spanked cause i had the common sense not to be a tool. the few times my ass got a wooping i deserved it. maybe if kids had a little more incentive to not act like tools, we have less tools in the world.
Did you or didn't you?
Truth is you can say all that now, but when you were a kid you were a lot different. Stop being a hypocrite and stop insulting other kids because you're not one anymore and so you can't hope to be on their level of communication.
apparently you broke a lot of shit. when you say we all did this kind of stuff as a kid, you should say you.
The eye for an eye statement is actually an interpretation of something in the bible said by Jesus.tofulove said:for some people, if you don't take there eye out, they will keep ripping other peoples eyes out. more importantly your showing every one else what happens when you do some thing that stupid. for people who do horrible deeds against there fellow human, horrible deads befall them as a reminder. lesser evils should be treated as mental illness and focus on healing instead of crucifying.Delsana said:An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind.tofulove said:sure it does, if some one murders some one else, and you kill them for there crime. they wont be doing any more murdering. for major crimes make examples out of people, for minor crimes focus on teaching them a better way. rapist, murders, people with multiple assaults and so on deserve the harsh punishments as a warning to others, more petty crimes focus on the rehabilitation to make them a functioning member of society.Delsana said:Punishment doesn't stop things, it makes you get better at hiding it. Your "usually" indicates this. It's not punishment that gives you self-introspection, it's maturity and development of self through experiences based on your own capacity and capabilities and drives. Not the forced drives of others.stonethered said:Right, but we got caught, we got punished, and we were forced to take responsibility for ourselves. What they did is not the worst thing ever, its not good, but nobody's dead or psychologically scarred. But I'm glad to hear that they got caught, they got punished, and someone took responsibility for it. Maybe one of these days they'll shape up to be decent, responsible adults like many of the other kids who did stupid things and got punished. But one thing's for sure, if they don't get punished then they probably won't learn to behave themselves.Delsana said:You guys all broke things when you were really young, or your parents did, and you didn't want to take responsibility and you fled... and now look at you all taking issue with it and acting as if it's the worst thing ever and punishment ever made you stop.. bahaha such hypocrisy.stonethered said:Depends on the region.Delsana said:Legally, it was child abuse.stonethered said:I don't think you were, not even for the ear twisting (which frankly sounds totally situationally appropriate, and is exactly how it would have happened if it had been a movie). Kids should have known better than to trespass, assuming they knew it was someone's property. Lady shouldn't have yelled at you for it, but her reaction is quite understandable. She was angry, and probably a bit scared about what you were doing; odds are nobody has ever actually laid hands on her kids before (and I'd say that after trespassing and vandalizing your private property, somebody probably ought to).
Could you have handled it better? Yeah, you could have just tracked down their parents and courteously requested compensation. But at the same time, your actions will have a rather more lasting impact on all of them. And you didn't try to kill anyone, or cause permanent harm. Nobody was threatened. And everything was paid for. As long as there's no legal problems, I'd say you did fine.
There's a very big legal problem here.
Again, I sense hypocrisy for everyone forgetting what happened when they were young kid...
And by legal problems, I mean depending on whether anyone wanted to press charges. Generally, the police don't fuss with things unless people take issue with them.
And what exactly is it that we're all forgetting here?
And Punishment did, usually, make me stop.
an eye for an eye doesn't apply to every thing. when Gandhi said it, he new he couldn't beet the English with force, and new with mass media could win the war with the hearts and minds of the English populace. but a guy who murdered his wife for insurance pay out cant be compared to what gandhi faced. a person who casually took some one else life for personal gain is some thing society needs to remove. you cant fix every one, when some one is at the point of making money with murder, or murdering for fun. you remove them and let every one else who might take that path know what happens when you do.
now a 19 year old kid who is poor and steels a car for personal gain can be saved, with some therapy and skill training, you can send that kid back into the world able to support him self and be a functioning member of society. Leniency on those who can be saved. make an example of those who cant.
im glad you know all the people who broke stuff in the world as a kid. oh wait, your just pulling numbers out of your ass. not even numbers, just a generalize we all broke shit as a kid that implied on the level of what the kid did to op, and try to hide it after words.Delsana said:I was shy, I never broke anything, I just know all the people who did.. and they're pretty much everyone.tofulove said:i never broke a window, i never broke a fence, the worse i did was accidentally broke a friends toy and told him i did, the toy was already falling apart any ways. so not really, in my life i might of broken a few things here and there but always replaced them. i wasn't dumb enough to play base ball next to some ones house, id go to the park. so you know common sense past on by parents. don't play ball next to peoples houses. and if i was a dumb enough to do some thing like that, and try to hide the fact i did it. you bet i get my ass spanked. if i came clean right from the get go, i wouldn't be pulled out by my ear, and my dad would offer to fix it and spare some leniency. like extra choirs to pay off the window my dad had to replace. if i tried to hide it, i would get pulled out by my ear, my mom and dad would agree with it, id get a good spanking, grounded and extra choirs. so what this method teaches people who are honest when they do bad deeds get off ez, but still responsible to fix what has bin done, hide it and your punished for your treachery, and forced to fix it.Delsana said:You can't say you didn't break people's "shit" but then say if you did you took responsibility for it.tofulove said:sounded like he was trying to get the ball and avoid taking responsibility for the window while in the process breaking the fence. every other time the kids went to the door. this time they tried to sneak in and cause more damage. if the kid had some honesty marched his but to the door and apologized, than in my mind did not deserve any serious punishment at all. a little time out and a stern reminder to be careful. but he tried to hide his crime by sneaking in. and for that i stand by my principles, spare the rod spoil the child.Delsana said:You really misinterpreted what happened.tofulove said:there alot of things i like about the eu, but the no spanking your child mentality alot of them have is bs. you should of bin able to smack that kids ass for that. after words the mom should of bin like well if a kid broke my window and broke my fence, id smack his ass to.
i don't believe in beating a kid, and i think time out and grounding (with out spanking) should happen in most cases. but when a kid has the nerve to break you window, than break you fence to hide the fact he broke your window, his ass needs a smack plus some grounding.
The kid was playing a game, the ball hit the window, the window broke, he climbed over the fence to get the ball which also broke. He wasn't breaking the window or fence on purpose and it's sheer hypocrisy for you to want uber punishment for this kid when you did the same shit as a kid yourself.
Capcha is "jump the gun", and you sure jumped the gun.
p.s. when i was a kid i did not break peoples shit, and when i did i took responsibility for it. i was rarely spanked cause i had the common sense not to be a tool. the few times my ass got a wooping i deserved it. maybe if kids had a little more incentive to not act like tools, we have less tools in the world.
Did you or didn't you?
Truth is you can say all that now, but when you were a kid you were a lot different. Stop being a hypocrite and stop insulting other kids because you're not one anymore and so you can't hope to be on their level of communication.
apparently you broke a lot of shit. when you say we all did this kind of stuff as a kid, you should say you.
Oh.. wow, I've never been able to do this before... I'm rather excited.... Okay, here goes:The Plunk said:Oh look, the "everyone's a paedophile" fallacy.SaneAmongInsane said:Child rapist and murderers in this world, sir... Sure you see a guy on a street corner grabbing some young girl by the arm and you stand back and go "I'm sure theirs a logical reason for it." then the next day the girls actual parents are on TV looking for their dead child.
Hell go one step further then that, some people are just fucked in the head. I had a guy that tried to fight me because he was upset that when he tried to enter the bathroom stall I was in that I slammed the door shut. Like it or not, you can't trust total strangers to dish out punishment...
...Which bare in mind that when people talk about the days when a village would raise a child, a parent pretty much knew EVERYONE pretty well. These days people are more isolated.
This bullshit, along with "everyone's a terrorist" is how the government manages to constantly find new ways to invade our private lives. After all, it's for our -and dear little Timmy's- safety!
Try to use your common sense instead of paranoia in the future, perhaps?