Poll: What's your sexual orientation?

[Johnny Novgorod]

I remember a similar thread with cis-this and cis-that options. I was very confused. I hate labels, especially the newer ones.
I'm a guy and I like girls.

 

[Not Matt]

Asexual bisexual. Meaning that I can swing both ways, I just don't want to. My sexdrive has been reduced to nothing and the idea offinding a partner or "getting laid" iisn't something I can bring myself to care about.

 

[Jenvas1306]

why even ask for trans people seperately? a transwoman isnt different hetero or homosexual than a ciswoman.
sometimes making distinctions there isnt good. sexuality and gender arent the same things and can be very unrelated, so if you ask for sexuality you might aswell forget about gender and simply set the options to Bi, Andro- and Gynephile and explain those terms that really just relate to what you are attracted to without asking about who you are.

 

[StriderShinryu]

Another heterosexual male here. I can certainly appreciate that some dudes are just plain nice to like at, but I've never been attracted to them personally.

 

[scorptatious]

Heterosexual.

What can I say? I like girls. Not much to it really.

 

[Calibanbutcher]

Heterosexual male here, straight, white etc, but I refuse to classify myself as boring, for I don't know what them other guys do in their bedrooms with their partners, but if they feel the need to classify themselves as "boring", I am gonna guess that the closest approximation is two fish flopping around on each other, but not with me, ohhh nooo, I am out to prove that you can be straight WITHOUT being "boring", especially not in bed.

 

[Snowbell]

I'm an asexual but I'm still romantically attracted to men and have never considered dating a woman - is 'heteroromantic' a term?

 

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I'm an asexual but I'm still romantically attracted to men and have never considered dating a woman - is 'heteroromantic' a term?

It most certainly is!
OT: I can be sexually attracted to either gender (and even then, mostly to females), but I can't see myself getting into a relationship with another guy. Put myself down as heterosexual for the poll.

 

[Bara_no_Hime]

Not american, swedish.

Yes, I was aware that you are from (and were talking about) Sweden. I was saying that I hadn't had that experience in America, but that I'd heard other bisexual woman (mostly on the West Coast) complain about the same thing that you had mentioned. I've never been to Sweden, so I can't comment on the situation there (or anywhere aside from America - even when I've traveled abroad, I haven't exactly taken the time to examine the specific attitudes within the gay communities of other nations... although now that I type it, doing so sounds rather fascinating).

As to your further comments, I've certainly heard of bisexuals being ostracized in the gay community for not being "gay enough" or "passing" or other similar bullshit. However, I've never heard of lipstick/femme lesbians getting picked on - that much be a Swedish (or European) thing. I will say, however, that the stereotype that all lesbians (and bisexual) are experts and constantly quote gender studies lectures is alive and well over here in the US of A. And that one's coast-to-coast.

 

[zama174]

I'm a bisexual cisgender male.
Hey, I have a question. What exactly is the difference between pansexuality and bisexuality? I know there is a difference, but I've never really been clear on what exactly it is. In fact I don't know much about pansexuality at all. Would you please elucidate me?

The gist of it is pretty simple. Bisexual is attraction to male and female, where as pansexual is attraction to virtually anyone regardless of where they fall in the gender spectrum. (Male, Female, Trans, Cis, ect) And often times physical attraction doesn't play as large of a role in romantic interest as personality compatibility does. Basically like Bi, but more open and a few other different nuances.

 

[kavikova]

Not that it really matters but bi/pan transwoman here. I like people for who they are and how they make me feel - guess I'm a romantic. I prefer women usually, but open to anything. Sexuality is such a varied and fascinating topic for people who are open minded and honest enough with themselves to not only discuss it, but explore.

 

[Aesir23]

Heterosexual here. Rather, I'm fairly certain I am.

Generally when I think of romance I prefer men but at the same time I haven't found anyone I've met physically attractive since middle school to the point where I've actually forgotten what it feels like.

 

[Mikeyfell]

I'm heterosexual, even though I should probably pick Asexual.

Is it still Hetero if you find the female body attractive but the logical side of your brain knows that perusing a relationship that could possibly result in sex can only ever lead to pain suffering and needing to find another place to hide a body...

I mean... That was a joke. You don't HIDE bodies you dissolve them in... You know what I'm just going to stop typing now.

 

[MrMixelPixel]

Pretty sure I'm hetero. I've a lot of issues regarding sex and intimacy, but it hasn't stopped me from having attractions and dating, and I'm pretty much always attracted to the females.

 

[kortin]

This is probably one of the most idiotic and irrelevant threads I've ever seen.

And it's still probably one of the most posted.

For the sake of avoiding an off topic infraction, hetero. Not boring though. Mainly because the very notion of heterosexuality being "boring" implies that other sexualities are somehow superior, which frankly isn't true as all sexualities are equally interesting.

 

[chiggerwood]

At the moment, asexuality is the second most popular option after heterosexuality.

Oh, Escapist, you never change.

Am I missing something about the Escapist?

OT: True blue ace here. I've never been attracted to anybody and quite frankly I find the idea of dating and all that to be tedious, but hey! What ever floats your boat, just don't invite me sailing.

 

[TheNewGuy]

Hey, I have a question. What exactly is the difference between pansexuality and bisexuality? I know there is a difference, but I've never really been clear on what exactly it is. In fact I don't know much about pansexuality at all. Would you please elucidate me?

Definitions kinda vary, but generally, a bisexual is someone who is attracted to both men and women, pansexual doesn't care what the gender or the sex of their partner is and can be attracted to people who are neither male nor female or to totally non-physical qualities.

That's kind of a contentious deal. Some people say bisexual includes everything, and others say it includes male and female.

Pansexual is an identity based around the notion that bisexual is the latter, and thus pansexual fills the former niche. This is the problem with language: even the same words might be different.

I put bisexual, though I've been in relationships with an FTM (who was living as a woman, but still), another who thought they might be FTM, two people who fell in that nebulous sort of "genderqueer" category, and one woman who IDed as a woman but really wanted a penis. Depending on who you ask, any of the above my DQ me from bisexuality. Or they might not.

I've personally never been one to care about what bits people I liked had/wanted/felt they should have. It's not quite accurate to say I don't care, but I don't care in any meaningful sense that would stop me from dating/sleeping with one.

So the difference is either nothing or the difference between two points and all the points. It depends. I use bisexual in part because people react to the concept of pansexuality with a "special snowflake" mentality.

But then, given the number of people I've seen go "ew tranny!" even in the bi camp, maybe I am a special snowflake. >.<

The gist of it is pretty simple. Bisexual is attraction to male and female, where as pansexual is attraction to virtually anyone regardless of where they fall in the gender spectrum. (Male, Female, Trans, Cis, ect) And often times physical attraction doesn't play as large of a role in romantic interest as personality compatibility does. Basically like Bi, but more open and a few other different nuances.

Okay, that all makes sense. Sexuality can be really be complicated, huh?

I've seen MTF transsexuals who are fairly attractive looking, at the risk of sounding like I'm jumping on a bandwagon, I think I might be pansexual. Although I think I'll agree with Zachary, if anyone asks (and I feel like being honest) I might just say "bi."

Well anyway, thank you all for answering my question!

 

[Nurb]

Bi-guy that likes everyone.

Though how many of you asexuals have no sexual or romantic contact at all? Are you all under 40?

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I'm an asexual but I'm still romantically attracted to men and have never considered dating a woman - is 'heteroromantic' a term?

It most certainly is!
OT: I can be sexually attracted to either gender (and even then, mostly to females), but I can't see myself getting into a relationship with another guy. Put myself down as heterosexual for the poll.

You're bi, guy! Just with strong female romantic bias, but you'd probably fool around with the right guy, am I correct?

People think bisexual has to mean 50/50, but if you're attracted to both genders, regardless of what amount, you fall into the bisexual catagory.

There's a wide range of tastes under the "bi" catagory from romantic bias to sexual bias, where a person might enjoy sexual play with one gender but not have a desire for a romantic relationship. There's way more bi people than what one would think, but misconseptions sort of limit people's understanding.

 

[GeneralFungi]

I'm a dude that's into the men.

I don't really have anything else to add.

I'm a heterosexual male.

I can't help it! I was born this way!

You should be ASHAMED. Are you saying that you have a problem with men?!

(I'm only kidding of course.)

 

[Zombie_Fish]

Sapiosexual: Aroused by intelligence.[footnote]Otherwise known as my new excuse for not getting laid.[/footnote]

On a more serious note, I identify as bisexual. Note that I use the term 'bi' to mean 'two or more'; although I could probably classify as pansexual, I'm not comfortable with using that term to describe myself.

You're bi, guy! Just with strong female romantic bias, but you'd probably fool around with the right guy, am I correct?

People think bisexual has to mean 50/50, but if you're attracted to both genders, regardless of what amount, you fall into the bisexual catagory.

There's a wide range of tastes under the "bi" catagory from romantic bias to sexual bias, where a person might enjoy sexual play with one gender but not have a desire for a romantic relationship. There's way more bi people than what one would think, but misconseptions sort of limit people's understanding.

I feel like this is a good moment to bring up the bisexual umbrella [http://fc05.deviantart.net/fs71/i/2011/324/6/a/the_bisexual_umbrella_by_drynwhyl-d4gq9ji.jpg].