It's amazing how aware people are of their prejudices and how they still, for some reason, are unwilling to change them, or acknowledge it as a failing on their part. It's- I'm not sure what the word is for when people do that, but it's probably not a very pleasant word.
I've seen people on here say that they wouldn't date a transperson "considering the transpeople they know". They then acknowledge that they have a small sample size and that, therefore they're being needlessly biased, but then seem to simply shrug their shoulders and go "oh well".
Or there are the people who see nothing wrong with claiming that transpeople aren't "real" women. Nevermind that the concept of "real" women is a highly subjective term. Even if the transperson were literally indistinguishable from the "real" thing, they still wouldn't date them. They still wouldn't find them attractive because, you know, they just don't. Simple as that; they just don't. Are they not aware that this doesn't justify it, or that people might be upset or offended over it? I'm sure they'd just shrug and say "it is how it is" and make no effort to correct this problem.
Or you get the absolute idiots who expect transperson to tell everyone they get vaguely intimate with that they're a transperson completely out of the blue. If they're asked and lie, that might be one thing; but to say it on the off chance that you might have a problem with it? Considering that transpeople are the victims of physical assaults over such things, that the dude (or chick) could then react badly, accussing the transperson of leading them on, it's absurd anyone would expect this of them. Also, at what point is someone obligated to inform others that they're trans, exactly? On top of that, if one expects transpeople to have to inform others that they're trans, just because some people might have a problem with it; should (for example) jewish people have to tell their partners that they're jewish, on the off chance they're anti-smetic or that, whilst being totally non-anti-semitic, they just have a problem with sleeping with jewish chicks and dudes.
Actually, comparing transpeople to other minorities is very enlightening in this scenario. If someone were to tell you that they weren't cool with dating or sleeping with (btw, you do know that those things are different, right?) black people, for example, what would you think of them? Whilst you might not think them to be racist straigh away, you'd certainly suspect something was amiss. What would you say if they tried to justify it with: "well, I'm worried about what my mates would think of me", or "well, considering some of the black people I know, I doubt I'd want to", or "even if they're physically attractive and I hit it off with them on an emotional and intellectual level, just knowing they're black will be a turn off", or even "well, come on, that interracial crap is just weird".
Think I'm wrong or that this is some kind of exaggeration? Certain racial minorities are seen as less desirable, even though most people just can't give a straight answer as to why this is. It certainly isn't an innate things; one can chart the perceived attractiveness of certain racial groups over time. Some people are just willing to accept what their culture has told them is attractive [note: presently in the western world, that amounts to white (maybe with a hint of asian), heterosexual (bisexual also acceptable), cisgendered women] and are unwilling to challenge their own views. Not that I'm saying everyone has to go out and be pansexuals who see everyone as equally attractive, and who don't judge people on their appearances in the slightest but, come on, at least TRY to better yourselves.
I'm not saying that not wanting to date a transperson makes you transphobic. What I am saying is that, firstly, transphobia is bad. Usually I wouldn't feel the need to say this but, reading some comments here, just- uggh... The second point is that transphobia comes in many forms and relies, in part, on how one views transpeople. Is your unwillingness to date (or consider dating) them really a simple as preference? If it were just a preference thing, would you really rule out the idea so completely? Are you 100% sure it's not just that you see them as "fake" women, or as men in drag, or as something else? Are you sure that you AREN'T a bigot? Really?
I could go on about how a load of people here seem to have the wrong impression on what it means to be trans, seem to take for granted that being trans is something weird and undesirable, and just generally come across as how you'd expect bigotted idiots to come across. However, I've rambled on enough here and, unlike many on this forum, I don't want to stray TOO far from the topic at hand.
TL;DR? Basically, after reading some posts on this forum, I'm not sure I'm comfortable dating cisgendered people anymore.