Question about sexuality.

[Bernzz]

Sex ed, I learned that males have sex with females to reproduce. I never questioned it.

Me too. Only years later did I ever wonder, but I think of the prospect of doing...things with guys, and in the end I shudder. Nothing against gay people, anyone who knows me would know I have no problems with them, I just couldn't do that myself.

 

[Dango]

This is kind of an odd explanation from me, but here you go:

I am a heterosexual male, who has been "sexually conscious" since I was about 10. From what I hear from friends, that's kind of early, which is odd, because I'm 15 now and I'm no longer really attracted to women for sexual reasons. Although yes, there is still a bit of sexual attraction, my attraction is mostly emotional.

When it comes to others' sexuality, I just don't really care. My relations to people and opinions on them are based on their actions, not who they're attracted to.

 

[BonsaiK]

When did you realize that you are the orientation you are? Were you always that way, or did you wake up one day and realize that you were one or another?

I hit puberty, I saw pictures of naked women, and it turned me on. On the other hand similar pictures of naked men didn't elicit any reaction at all. That's how I knew I was heterosexual. It seemed straightforward enough back then and it still does. You just know from the way your body reacts and that's all there is to it - at least for me.

 

[Vouk]

I guess I'm mostly straight.
There's been a time when I was kind of bi-curious but somehow never got the chance or courage to actually do something about it. But I guess it wasn't that serious since after a while I didn't put anymore thought in it.

When did I realize it? I don't know, I don't think that I've had an epiphany or something like that. I just knew that I liked girls. Simple as that.

And well... The sexual orientation is important, I guess. In the end it's a huge part of a human being and as such has or could have a big impact on his/her life, behavior and personality.
Does it decide wether or not I like someone? Certainly not!
But of course I want to know. I'm curious, wether it's the sexual orientation of a person or his/her other personal traits.

 

[Sightless Wisdom]

Heterosexual male here. I have some bi-sexual friends and acquaintances so naturally I've questioned my sexuality, but any time I imagine myself in any sort of sexual situation with a man I don't find myself aroused... so there's my explanation of why I don't like men. I mean I'm perfectly comfortable with saying man is attractive, it just doesn't really mean anything to me.

As for when I realized my sexuality.... not very relevant in my case but puberty I guess.

 

[Aetera]

I'm a gay woman. I've always been gay, but it took me FOREVER to realize it myself. I've always felt like this, and I didn't know that it was abnormal. It was pretty much a "But I'm a Cheerleader" epiphany, if you've seen that movie.

"Huh? You mean that most girls don't think that girls are hot and attractive, and don't really see the supposed appeal of the male form? Seriously? You mean that most girls actually find guys sexually attractive? BEING EXCLUSIVELY ATTRACTED TO GIRLS MAKES ME GAY?! ...oh. That explains a lot." I didn't even know that gay existed until I was in 7th or 8th grade. I just assumed that girls found a guy that they got along with, and the guy just served a function, and as a companion. I assumed that everyone thought that girls were really hot.

...Yeah, I was a pretty clueless kid. Apparently everyone, including my dad and my friend, knew that I was gay before I did. THEY COULD HAVE TOLD ME. D:<

I didn't realize until my freshman year of college. Yeah, I was THAT clueless about myself. I felt so dumb. When I told my dad, he just told me that he'd known since high school, and didn't really care one way or the other. My friend just snorted and said, "yeah, tell me something I don't know."

Hrmph. At least one person could have pretended to be surprised.

 

[RedMagic]

I'm still not entirely sure what my orientation is, but the more I think about, the more it starts to fit in the asexual description (if it even counts as an orientation). The most I've felt from both men and women are feelings of admiration and respect.

As for whether sexuality matters, I think it is starting to matters less, especially with the promotion of tolerance and acceptance to other sexual orientations.

 

[ImpofthePerverse]

As I said in the sexuality thread I consider myself Bi even though I've never had a sexual encounter with a man.

I just don't see the point in limiting myself to one set of experiences for the rest of my life, I'm old enough to have come to grips with my sexual identity, but I only use the term Bi in order for other people to understand. I'm not sure if it's the word I want to use, but it's the best one available to me.

I can't really see the point in lying on a forum, nobody's coming across as cooler because they claim to be "Bi" or "Gay" or "Pansexual". Even if that were true who honestly on here gives a crap about another posters sexuality wither they were telling the truth or not.

 

[jamesworkshop]

I can't actually remember just like I don't remember the time it took me to grow pubic hair, I started watching porn when i was about 11, I don't think there was any one point much like I don't remember the point I discovered that certain foods taste better to me than other foods, I think it was always the case.

Now "Does sexuality really matter?" seems vague to me, I think most people do care.
I like food but i'm not going to marry and grow old with chocolate so it's more than just a preference it's a bigger part of life than that.

 

[Leg End]

Hmm... not sure. Guess you could say all my life. :/

I've always known it really. :/

No, it doesn't. You love who you love. People don't like it? Tough titties.

 

[Illesdan]

Hm. Something I didn't see anyone admit to here yet is being genderqueer. Something I have been as long as I can remember. I can't say I care too much for Wikipedia's examples of it, just because the definition is so broad for my taste, so I'll be specific about myself:

I am a married woman, therefore, considered 'straight' by the rest of 'normal' society.

That's the surface stuff. I can rarely stand to be around other women, I have no female friends to speak of, I love men and frankly, eversince I was three, have always wanted to be one myself on the outside. Well, THAT never happened, and, at this stage in my life, never will. I've come to accept that, while I may physically be a woman; there is nothing wrong with me being a male emotionally/mentally. I have close male friends and my husband who know what I am like, and accept me for what I am (fucked up jaded misanthrope) and thats enough to make me happy.

 

[badgersprite]

I'm a lesbian but I didn't even think about my sexuality until I was like thirteen. You know, old enough to experience and understand sexual attraction. I guess in hindsight I was always really tomboyish and at my all girl's school as a little kid I would always be the boy or pretend to be the boyfriend when we were kidding around. So yeah until I was like twelve or thirteen I didn't have any concept of sexuality, even though I knew what being gay or being a lesbian was. I just assumed I would grow up and marry a guy because that's what society says is normal. Cue my surprise when every crush/attraction I ever had was towards girls.

Other LGBT people usually tell me they knew on some level they were gay from a really young age. In my case everyone else knew, but I guess because I always got along so well with everyone I never felt different or like there was anything different about me...

 

[MasterOfWorlds]

Tough titties.

Be careful, those can put your eye out. >.>

 

[MasterOfWorlds]

Hm. Something I didn't see anyone admit to here yet is being genderqueer. Something I have been as long as I can remember. I can't say I care too much for Wikipedia's examples of it, just because the definition is so broad for my taste, so I'll be specific about myself:

I am a married woman, therefore, considered 'straight' by the rest of 'normal' society.

That's the surface stuff. I can rarely stand to be around other women, I have no female friends to speak of, I love men and frankly, eversince I was three, have always wanted to be one myself on the outside. Well, THAT never happened, and, at this stage in my life, never will. I've come to accept that, while I may physically be a woman; there is nothing wrong with me being a male emotionally/mentally. I have close male friends and my husband who know what I am like, and accept me for what I am (fucked up jaded misanthrope) and thats enough to make me happy.

I'm actually fairly certain that my second gf was also genderqueer. She has issues with women, refuses to even consider having children, and will do anything to stop that from happening as long as it doesn't impede on her ability to fuck like a bunny. She had a mentallity somewhat similar to yours about the whole thing, only she was a nymphomaniac, bipolar, and schizophrenic. If you meet one or more of those, I'm sorry. XD

 

[Gentle Dementia]

I'm Asexual, came to realize it about a year ago.

 

[Leg End]

Tough titties.

Be careful, those can put your eye out. >.>

Not from where I'm standing. <.<

 

[MasterOfWorlds]

Tough titties.

Be careful, those can put your eye out. >.>

Not from where I'm standing. <.<

I loled. I shouldn't have, but I did. XD

Luckily I'm taller than my gf, so on the odd occasion they do come about, it's not a big deal.

 

[Leg End]

Tough titties.

Be careful, those can put your eye out. >.>

Not from where I'm standing. <.<

I loled. I shouldn't have, but I did. XD

Luckily I'm taller than my gf, so on the odd occasion they do come about, it's not a big deal.

>.>

Lucky you.

<.<

 

[Ultress]

I'd say I'm bi,since my very limited experience with sex (i.e 2 times and one may have not really happened) has been with menot I do find women very attractive as well. I kinda of realized it around the time I was lets say 12-14(I'm terrible at remembering when events happen) and more recently have settled into it,so to speak, as I've moved away for collage/got a job and felt like I had a little more freedom.My family doesn't know and I think it's better that way.

As with everything else,as long as your not a douche I could care less about your sexual orientation.

 

[MasterOfWorlds]

I'd say I'm bi,since my very limited experience with sex (i.e 2 times and one may have not really happened) has been with menot I do find women very attractive as well. I kinda of realized it around the time I was lets say 12-14(I'm terrible at remembering when events happen) and more recently have settled into it,so to speak, as I've moved away for collage/got a job and felt like I had a little more freedom.My family doesn't know and I think it's better that way.

As with everything else,as long as your not a douche I could care less about your sexual orientation.

I'm sorry, but... one may not have happened? Could you explain that? If it's too personal, that's fine, but it made me wonder what went on. XD