Question about sexuality.

[Thaa'ir]

Gay. I accepted it at 14...but in retrospect, I can see signs going back to being 5.

I only started watching Star Wars because I thought Luke Skywalker was cute after we were read a picture book of the first movie in Kindergarten. I recall that acutely.

I was never really interested in girls in middle school...I thought I was, but then I remember my first crush on a guy, and it was at least a thousands time strong as any of my "crushes" on girls.

 

[LCP]

Straight, never doubted anything.


*today i will refrain from arguing the sanity if homosexuality and (dis)respectfulness of transgendered since It's late*

 

[Shock and Awe]

I'm like at the very least 50% of the population here, Heterosexual Male; fucking original! =D

Serious Face: I have always seen myself as hetero even before I understood the concept. I have always "liked" girls and even though I have given the idea thought I have never had any attraction to my own gender. As for your second question I do not believe it matters much in most cases, sexuality hardly has much bearing on who my friends are or how I act.

 

[zombiesinc]

I'm a Bi female who heavily prefers woman.

I still find some guys attractive, and if I found a guy worthwhile i'd give him a chance. I find woman to be much more attractive though, and the sex is better. I haven't dated a guy in five years.

I'm the same way. Although I've been with both men and women, I generally prefer women sexually and especially romantically. The sex has always been better, but I think a part of that is due to my comfort with women, and how unfamiliar a man's body is to me (a small part, but a part nonetheless). I haven't been in a long-term relationship with a man before, but have had two long-term relationships with women, so although I am comfortable with men in any way, they're less... known to me, if that makes sense.

I knew since... I can remember, or I was aware of my attraction to women as well as men since I can remember. I find both males and females attractive, but my attraction to females is much more intense. Of course, if I meet a guy that I find attractive, physically and mentally, I won't necessarily hesitate to date 'em, but that doesn't happen often.

As for whether or not it matters, it does and it doesn't. It matters to those intimately involved, but not so much for anyone else. A lot of people claim just how much it matters (in a negative way) regardless of whether or not any of them know someone within the LGBT community. It seems it matters most to heterosexual individuals against anything besides heterosexuality (but that's not to say all heterosexuals are against any other sexuality, or anything else negative). I find it funny that it seems to matter more to those who are 'socially acceptable' than anyone else, especially those fighting for equal rights and the like.

 

[OneOfTheMichael's]

Sex ed, I learned that males have sex with females to reproduce. I never questioned it.

Same here, it always seemed very natural to me...

 

[Chibz]

I'm pansexual. I don't care about a person's sex as long as they have a... personality I "love".

When'd I realize that? When I realized that sex has very little appeal to me. Almost no sex drive.

 

[Serenegoose]

I'm 24, and I'm essentially a lesbian. I find men and women nice to look at (but am usually more attracted to women than men) but don't feel I could ever be in a relationship with a man. I've just never been interested in one that way despite much opportunity.

 

[flyingninjadude]

I am...questioning. 2 years ago I was sure that I was sure that I was a heterosexual man. 3 months ago I was sure I was a bisexual. 1 day ago I was asking myself who I was.

I suppose...heterosexual, biromantic is the best label? I've had a girlfriend and it was wonderful, and I've always been intrigued by the idea of being with a guy, but I never have been. The way I think of guys isn't nearly the same as with women, but there is certainly a level of physical attraction.

In summary, if I claimed I knew all the answers I'd be lying to you.

 

[Eldarion]

I came into my sex drive at a very early age, came into my bisexuality around my teens. Didn't accept it fully until around 16.

 

[superbatranger]

Being heterosexual is kind of like being Undeclared in a college major.

So, I guess I'm still Undeclared.

Ah, same here. Although part of me doesn't really know. I mean I find girls sexually attractive, but at the same time I can say there are guys I find attractive as well. But, I don't see myself ever having a relationship with a guy. So who knows.

 

[DuctTapeJedi]

I think, technically, I'm asexual. I'm 21, and have only ever been on one date (not a fan of the experience).

I just never really considered it as something important to me. I have other things to worry about. I never thought anything of it until my mom started saying crap/assuming I'm gay etc.

 

[DuctTapeJedi]

I am...questioning. 2 years ago I was sure that I was sure that I was a heterosexual man. 3 months ago I was sure I was a bisexual. 1 day ago I was asking myself who I was.

I suppose...heterosexual, biromantic is the best label? I've had a girlfriend and it was wonderful, and I've always been intrigued by the idea of being with a guy, but I never have been. The way I think of guys isn't nearly the same as with women, but there is certainly a level of physical attraction.

In summary, if I claimed I knew all the answers I'd be lying to you.

I wouldn't worry too much about it. If you like someone, ask them out. Don't worry about gender.

 

[Drake_Dercon]

Heterosexual male. I've never been attracted to men in the least, which isn't for lack of trying. I always try to place myself in other people's shoes simply because I can (even though, for the most part, I can't). On the other hand, I find conventional ideas of attractiveness a bit strange... but that's another topic.

I've really always been that way. Sure there's always some lingering self-doubt, but that's just who I am.

As far as importance, it shouldn't be, but it is. I suppose it depends on the meaning of "importance". As per my definition (more liable to change someone's opinion of you than, say, the ideal state of importance of someone's religious or political opinion, which I think should also be quite low), this is far from my ideal. In my ideal world, nobody should really care... but this isn't my ideal world, is it?

In the words of Pierre Trudeau: "The government has no place in the bedrooms of its people." Of course, this should also apply between friends, acquaintances, enemies, people you haven't met and family (unless, of course, they want you in their bedrooms, which is their business. Except families; incest has been scientifically proven to be morally questionable.)

 

[zega frega omega]

Being a straight male, I guess it wouldn't be inaccurate to say I always knew I'd be hetero.

 

[Tonythion]

From the beginning I always found men attractive.
So Gay.
Recently though I have been able to like women but only if they have a certain personality type.
So I guess Omnisexual? Pansexual? Dunno.

 

[Hap2]

Asexual, hetero romantic. I have never been sexually attracted to anyone, and assumed I was heterosexual up until last year at age 22 when I came across the concept of asexuality (mainly because I became romantically attracted but not sexually attracted to a woman in the past).

Sexuality matters a lot, I look back at my life and I find that being asexual has affected a lot of my experiences, thoughts and ideals without me realizing so at the time. It is a part of our being, and a significant one at that, since it can give a huge difference of perspective from where one is standing.

 

[ImperialSunlight]

I'm not really sure. I am male. I pretty much know at this point, though I never had any sexual experience (with anyone else ) yet, that I like men. I don't know about women though. I tried to go out with women a few times as that is the norm but it didn't get very far and there was no sexual attraction that I know of. After this, though, I became a bit mysogynistic so I don't know what would happen if I tried again. I knew I liked men at about 14. It was very similar to Dexiro's experience. While I showed no homosexual tendancies as a child, nor did I fit into the stereotypes, later on I became curious, but didn't realise until quite a bit after haw much I liked it XD.

I didn't have any shame in it as I'm not religious (not christian anyway) and have known some very honourable homosexuals. I haven't "come out" yet, but I see no reason to. Straight people don't have to tell everyone and if someone asks I'll tell them without making a big deal out of it.

Edit: Oh, and also I am a furry and thats what got me into porn, witch got me into gay porn, witch got me into being gay :3

 

[Chefodeath]

Heterosexual bi-romantic male.

I don't really know. I tried homosexuality when I was younger, but it never really appealed to me, but I did still know that I liked guys in something like 'that way.'

I sort of settled into my sexuality fully when I was 17/18, but had basically known since I was 14 (when I was experimenting primarily) and then around when I was about 20 I actually found the definitions of romantic attraction and realised that was probably the best fit of what I was.

For those confused by my terms (who obviously have never seen me discussing my sexuality in the many many other threads about it) I actually fuond the best simple definition here on this website:

'I want to sleep with Stephanie but cuddle with Stephen.'

Note that I said bi-romantic, I still have romantic relationships with women, it's just that I want to sleep with them as well, men it's all about the romance. And I'll admit that when it comes to men I am shamelessly shallow, much less so than with women. For a woman I genuinely look for personality etc, with a guy I'm mainly interested in how they look and wow this got weird all of a sudden.

How very odd, a legitimate example of true Platonic love.

OT: I really wish humans weren't so damn obsessed with sex. I mean, sex is fucking boring when you remove the evolutionary imperative to it. Well, not the cool biology bits of it, but I mean fuck, penis slides in vagina/mouth/asshole. What the fuck is the big deal? So, given that sex does not really interest me as a being of thought and curiosity, and since I would like to labell that part of me the dominant, I would like to say I was asexual.

Of course I am a human with a functioning sex drive, so obviously I am compelled to dabble. Still, I would never take the unnotable misadventures of my animalistic self to define who I am to any real degree. In fact, I find in myself a very great annoyance with people who do.

 

[Paksenarrion]

Being heterosexual is kind of like being Undeclared in a college major.

So, I guess I'm still Undeclared.

Ah, same here. Although part of me doesn't really know. I mean I find girls sexually attractive, but at the same time I can say there are guys I find attractive as well. But, I don't see myself ever having a relationship with a guy. So who knows.

It's like, "that underwater basket weaving class looks interesting to watch, but I'm not really a scuba diver type of girl".

 

[Light 086]

I'm a Bi and was surprised as well as relieved to find that out (about 5-6 years ago), because I always felt that I was missing something with just dating guys. Some of my friends weren't happy though, cause I lost 2 friends when I brought it up (high-school peer pressure to hate 'different' people I suppose). But I'm glad I found out because it's nice to understand yourself and know your own desires, it's also nice not to have that feeling that you're 'missing something' to stop eating at you.