1. Must be Christian, and the kind of Christian I think most people are talking about when they say "very religious." Church twice a week, we're studying he Bible and praying ogether, we're stopping to give that homeless man some food and maybe a hotel room for the night, etc.
2. No smoking, drugs, or hard drinking.
3. No extramarital sex or getting close to it. She's gonna have to help me on this one, honestly.
4. A combination of eats very poorly/doesn't exercise/is fat won't work for me. I've been in a relationship where I wanted to marry the girl, but was pretty usre her complete lack of attention ot her health would mean she'd die ten years before me, and hat's not fun to contemplate.
5. No kids. I see no point in having children. I don't begrudge those that do, I simply don' want ot do it anymore than I want to live in India or go deep-sea fishing. This is obviously the thing that breaks people up, so let's not start something we can't finish.
6. She has to accept that one of the things that most makes my blood boil is the gender war. I won't tolerate blaming the patriarchy, accepting double standards that benefit women while blasting those that benefit men (the draft, domestic violence, etc.), or similar entiments.
7. Not ruled by her emotions. "I feel" is not the same as "the truth is." Also, no one "make you feel" anything. You are responsible for your emotions. Can I hurt your feelings? Yes. Is it your responsibility to tell me about this suff and work with me to find out a compromise instead of insisting that anything you don' like is a sin against you? YES.
8. Don't touch oher boys in the ways you know can be perceived as sexual. I have grace to give on this, but I've been burned before.
2. No smoking, drugs, or hard drinking.
3. No extramarital sex or getting close to it. She's gonna have to help me on this one, honestly.
4. A combination of eats very poorly/doesn't exercise/is fat won't work for me. I've been in a relationship where I wanted to marry the girl, but was pretty usre her complete lack of attention ot her health would mean she'd die ten years before me, and hat's not fun to contemplate.
5. No kids. I see no point in having children. I don't begrudge those that do, I simply don' want ot do it anymore than I want to live in India or go deep-sea fishing. This is obviously the thing that breaks people up, so let's not start something we can't finish.
6. She has to accept that one of the things that most makes my blood boil is the gender war. I won't tolerate blaming the patriarchy, accepting double standards that benefit women while blasting those that benefit men (the draft, domestic violence, etc.), or similar entiments.
7. Not ruled by her emotions. "I feel" is not the same as "the truth is." Also, no one "make you feel" anything. You are responsible for your emotions. Can I hurt your feelings? Yes. Is it your responsibility to tell me about this suff and work with me to find out a compromise instead of insisting that anything you don' like is a sin against you? YES.
8. Don't touch oher boys in the ways you know can be perceived as sexual. I have grace to give on this, but I've been burned before.
