Yeah, in a relationship. Started December '13, so its really easy to keep track of how many months and years and all that.
How's it going? Heh. Its complicated. When we first got together we were in very similar situations, and were very similar people. The first year was great, and then she started to change. Half the things that I liked about her disappeared, and the other half I got to see maybe once a month. I certainly made my mistakes too in dealing with this, but it culminated in around 3 months from December last year until February this year things just got out of hand. For those three months each of us was pretty much breaking up with the other every night, then getting convinced not to, or to think it over, because deep down we do both love each other, there's just a huge pile of shit on top of that now. End of February things managed to calm down, and we're trying again. Naturally, its hard though. Things are getting better, but the scars still run deep. Some things aren't fully resolved, though I'm pretty sure she thinks everything is, and at the moment I don't have the time or the mental fortitude to bring anything up and argue over it for another few months.
There's also a bunch of crap in each of our lives that makes things difficult to ever talk about or do, and they're not going away any time soon, unfortunately.
What do I look for in a relationship? Someone who wants the same sort of relationship I do. I don't care if they share the same interests or not, it doesn't matter. I liked my partner because, like me, she was introverted and liked and needed to spend time alone, or with each other, though both of us could go out to social events and blend in and enjoy ourselves. I liked that she was extremely empathetic, and cared and tried to take care of anyone who needed it. I liked that we both wanted to make each other happy, more than just ourselves. I liked that while we didn't have the same interests - I liked gaming, and comics, and anime, she liked weird stuff like Adventure Time, Stephen Universe and that sort of stuff - we'd try each other's hobbies, and engage in them with each other anyway, just enjoying the company and having something to talk about. I liked that we both wanted a long term thing, and both considered ourselves 'too clingy' and wanting attention from the other constantly, whenever possible. I liked that we were both of the sort that we couldn't really like someone without being close friends with them first, and that that side of the relationship was important to us.
As I said, half of that's changed, half I don't get to see anymore, but hopefully we can sort it out. Part of me just wants to vent, but that's not really fair or respectful. I've had the happiest times of my life with her, and the worst. Hopefully things get back to the better side, but there's more work that needs to be done there first.
Yay for the first depressing "In a relationship" post of the thread...