Sex.

[Amberella]

I prefer the 'making love'. I'm currently engaged to a wonderful man and he's all I've been with since we've been together. We have a fantastic relationship and we both have those animal urges. We tend to have sex and make love. Now what I mean from that is we have the wild, spontaneous sex and the passionate, full of emotion making love. ;D The best of both worlds if you ask me. :3

 

[MasterOfWorlds]

-snip-

A sex topic not done by you? You're slipping, my friend.

OT; Sex is sex. "Love making" (though I am cynical of love existing) is for two people who wish to bond in the most intimite way.

Personally I choose lust over 'love'; at least then you know what you are getting and no-one is hurt. That, and animalistic, sordid, sweaty sex is preferable to gentle lovemaking.

To quote the song, we ain't nuthin' but mammals...

EDIT; Forgot to add, but it would take someone truely special to be able to thaw me out to 'love.' They don't need to be drop-dead gorgeous or sickeningly kind, just to have...it, if you get me.

I know, I litterally thought the same thing when I saw this. XD

I was like, "I don't remember posting that...man, I'm slipping."

I guess I was just keeping a low profile while I figured out how the new head of the site would react to stuff like this. Don't worry, I'll be making another one within the next few days.

 

[BlackSaint09]

Here goes then.

I think sex is sacred in a way you should do it with someone you truly care about/love. I also think it doesnt matter if youre married or not just as long as youre responsible. As for the act itself, i beleive its a way to make youre partner happy.

 

[legion431]

It's not sacred, it's just an act of reproduction, the same as any other species except we sometimes do it for fun, like dolphins.

 

[MassiveGeek]

A big fat shrug.

Sex is really just what you make of it, call it whatever you want, in the end it's just you and someone else(maybe more people, I dunno) getting down and naughty. Sometimes it's good, sometimes it's awkward, sometimes it's great, sometimes it's horrible or painful and sometimes it's pure awesome.

I have no direct opinion other than use fucking protection.

(Pun intended)

 

[TheComfyChair]

It's fun with the right person don't see the point is sleeping around, it's only going to be worse in both the emotional and physical aspects.

 

[Nikk Sixx]

Sex is a means to getting off.
do it with everyone that will let you
although yes with someone you love it is better..doesn't mean it's bad with just anyone though

 

[CrashBang]

I only have sex with someone who I see a future with so usually after a few weeks, maybe a month of going out. If I know we're gonna have a long term relationship then I go for it. I don't do one night stands, I think they're rancid. I don't think sex is sacred, I just think it's so much better and much more special with someone you know well, someone you trust and really really like

 

[Whateveralot]

I think it's an intimate thing people get in to too early too often.

I love the tension it brings. That's why I think sexuality is an important thing in relationships, even in early stages. You can tell a lot of what to expect from sex from the way that she kisses and how confident she is about her body. A partner that's inconfident about his or her body is probably harder to get past than crossing virginity lane.

 

[Tanakh]

Like, do you think it's sacred, do you think it's just an activity, do you think it's something that you should wait to do, or dive right in on the first date? Would you do it with a stranger, or only with someone you truely know?

It's at least everything you said there, depending on the person and your couple.

And it's one of the few topics in life where i am a BIG believer of applying a Socratic "middle of the road" PoV.

Waiting till marriage and till you are with someone you know deeply sounds romantic, but chances are:
- That you have overbuild the event and will end up disappointed
- That you suck at it (yeah, noobs suck everywhere) and will end up disappointing your almost certainly more experienced sexmate
- That you and your sexmate just suck together, having lots in common, some chemistry, but no matching in bed at all.
- Kinda ruins your reputation with friends, obv as a guy, but even as a girl you will be seen as kind of crazy

Now, you can be just whoring around but that will probably:
- Lead to STD
- Leave you kinda jaded
- Seems to lead to permanent dissatisfaction with details of your sexmate.
- Kinda ruins your reputation with friends, obv as a girl, but even as a guy you will be respected but deemed as not trustworthy

Me? Well, I usually only sleep with girls I know well and like or really really REALLY like. With the usual missteps here and there, whatever. So, middle of the road.

 

[Nami nom noms]

Sex is awesome, between a couple who are good at it. Sex is amazing if you take that and add love into the mix.

any other way sex ranges from dull to 'kinda fun but not as fun as _______'

 

[JochemDude]

Started when I was like 15, the girl I was with is still my girlfriend. I am one of the lucky guys who has a nice and open relationship. We have a few fwb's who we do it with occasionally, but when you have the choice you don't do it as often.
Some people see it as something sacred and some see it as a pleasure, I belong to the latter.

 

[Hugga_Bear]

I never understood the stigma with sex. It's not some heinous act. It's great fun, it's emotionally bonding and it's a fantastic release. I don't condone jumping into bed with everyone for safety as much as anything else but if you're old enough and mature enough then it's nothing.

Marriage is a huge commitment compared to sex. Besides I think sex is a part of a committed relationship. A good sex life is seriously important and you don't know how it's going to be unless you go for it.
Oh and practice makes perfect, having sex on your marriage night sounds really romantic and cute but honestly odds are it's just going to be mildly painful, embarassing and silly. That's OK for some people, especially the more confident of the world, but for the others it could cause problems. Not a great idea.

 

[Kuroneko97]

I'm too young to have sex without being labeled a slut (or my partner being labeled a pedophile; I'm under 15).

That said, I often debate between diving right in when I'm old enough, or the same thing, but with more waiting for a good partner, along with condoms and birth control pills at the same time (one fails, the other doesn't! Hopefully...).

I'm a little obsessed with sex, to the point that I can't go to sleep without a dose of hentai. I know the full intention of sex, which is to reproduce. However, humans need something to persuade them into doing so. I'm probably going to like sex, so I'll remember to protect myself, since I know I won't be ready to carry a baby at 18, and although I'm pro-choice, I'd rather not have to get an abortion if it is not necessary.

I'm not going to say sex is a magnificent, beautiful act join two people together, because it isn't. In my eyes, it is merely a process done by two people in a variable degree of love, who wish to either create a child, pleasure each other, or both.

 

[holy_secret]

Sex is an amazing thing and actually the only "natural" thing that I think makes sense.
Sex is not sacred nor is it something to play around with. It is a way to entertain yourself and another one (or several if you're into that sort of things). If there is love involved, it can be one of the most intimate and meaningful experience you can experience with someone else. It's a combination of mental/emotional and physical pleasure.

If there is no love, it is still a very nice thing to do. It releases a lot of hormones which make you feel better, improve your self confidence and do a lot of other nice things.

There is only risk for STDs if you go unprotected. That is not due to sex, that is due to idiocy. It's like blaming the bloiling pot when you pick it up without a glove and get burned.

 

[twaddle]

A boyfriend who's willing to wait and love me for who I am rather than be focused on casual sex... the person who apparently doesn't exist in modern society. ¬_¬

That would be someone like me then


I've been with my fiancee since we were 15, (we're both 23 now).

We lost our virginity to each other and I've never had sex with anyone else.

So don't worry. Guys like that do exist.

yep and i happen to be one of those guys. unfortunately ladies (and gentlemen even though i'm straight)i'm taken. have been for almost 4 years now. as for sex yes i've been there i you can do both sex and love making and lovemaking can turn into just sex and just sex can turn into lovemaking in one session

 

[Zyntoxic]

Sex in good ^_^

no but seriously, I'm all for a casual attitude towards sex, sure I don't think it's good when youngsters throw away virginity for the hell of it, I've seen that go pretty bad, there aways has to be somthing selfish about sex I think, have sex for your own sake not for others.
respectul of the other but still selfish.

I know I'm selfish when it comes to sex, I don't have sex if I don't feel like it and I make sure I enjoy it when I do, and I'd say my relationship to sex is pretty healthy. some people I've known started when they were like 11-12 years and did it mainly because of insecurity and the need of validation, and some of these people have been traumatized long after that, barely capable to have intimate relationships or have an orgasm because of an unhealthy relationship to sex.

another opinion I have regarding sex, I want it to remain taboo. this may seem contradicting but it is really not conflicting with eachother at all.
with casual I mean that I think people feel better about sex if it is no shame in enjoying it, but I also think people enjoy sex more when it is a bit taboo, pretty much "this is an intimate act that should not be public" kind of taboo.

I don't know if this made any sense but I should really get back to work now =P

 

[Trippy Turtle]

I would do it with someone I truly know but I don't find it sacred. Then again view might change in the next few decades of being alone.
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[Ironic Pirate]

I was averse to joining the leagues of people from my generation who jumped into casual sex really early, and I'm honestly pretty glad, because it means I had the conviction to keep to a strict moral code that governed my behavior in both public and private since I was about thirteen or fourteen.

That said, my 21st birthday approaches next year and I'm still a virgin, though there are lots of guys who would like very much to get in my pants. And I kind of want to lose it before my 21st, but I also don't. Like, I want my first time to be special, and almost like if I just leap impulsively and do it as a throwaway moment it won't be the same, or I'll have lost a part of me or something. I'm not sure.

So it's not like I'm being forced to be a virgin, it's just that I would feel wrong about it. I'm not a religious person and I don't particularly believe in the institution of marriage, but I guess the thing I've most missed out on while growing up was a romantic, long-term relationship, so that's what I'd probably need to have before I could jump into sex. A boyfriend who's willing to wait and love me for who I am rather than be focused on casual sex... the person who apparently doesn't exist in modern society. ¬_¬

Not to sound like a creep, but there's plenty of guys like that.

Anyway, as a virgin who doesn't really have a say in the matter, can't it be both?


Sex is a quick fuck done for pleasure. Making love is what OP was referring to.

 

[SckizoBoy]

That's the topic. But what do you think about sex? Like, do you think it's sacred, do you think it's just an activity, do you think it's something that you should wait to do, or dive right in on the first date? Would you do it with a stranger, or only with someone you truely know? Just your thoughts on sex. And why?

I think that sex is something that should be saved til the wedding bed, personally. I think that it is the ultimate act of love and it bonds you with the person you share it with. It's like you take the core of yourself and place it in the other person's possesion and if you do it with lots of people regularly, you split that core and violate yourself. But thats just my opinion

I believe sex to be an integral part to any healthy relationship. A few people have mentioned it already, that there's 'fucking/shagging' (i.e. from a man's POV, just sticking his dick in someone else's orifice and not caring about afterwards), 'sex' (i.e. two or more people indulging in recreational self-gratification as part of their relationship) & 'lovemaking' (i.e. two people partaking in a genuine expression of love for each other).

Thus, in response, I think sex is like most other (non-vital) pleasurable activities: damned good while it's happening, but I can live without it, though granted, I'd rather not. Having said that, I haven't had sex with anyone who I didn't already know really well, because that's generally the way my life has progressed (as far as relationships are concerned) and that's just the way I am.

Anyway, I'm probably not the best person to speak to regarding the ins and outs of sex (pun not intended) because human biochemistry has sought to completely fuck with me and the one woman I genuinely care for. Sex (and lovemaking more so, I suppose) results in a rush of endorphins which is what makes it so damned good. And in so saying, I'd challenge anyone to find someone else who regularly cried after sex out of a mistaken sense of shame.