Sex.

[Vault101]

I dont really agree with the whole "wait untill marrage thing

I mean that may have worked way back when people were getting married earlyer, and getting married was "the thing" you were suposed to do

but thease days such a commitment is put off untill later in life

and persoanlly aside form religious reasons I dont see ANY reason to wait untill marrage

 

[Rolfi]

(I didnt' create the account just to reply to this thread! )

Ever since I had my first broken heart I have been a slut, sleeping with as many girls as possible. I have been quite immature about it, but boy, it's been fun. For example, having a terrible one-night stand and then eating junkfood with my friends the next day and laughing about it. It's not something a brag about when I'm not anonymous on the internet, because it has been childish, but I wouldn't trade the last couple of years with anything.


I have always hated the idea that guys are cool and girls a sluts if they had a lot of seual partners. I think girls should sleep with whoever they wanted and as many they wanted - as long as you try not to hurt people in the process. I mean, everybody who have experienced a broken heart know how much it hurts, and even though you can't always prevent it, I wouldn't wish it on my greatest enemy.

But. I have been in a relationship for 8 months now with a girl I really feel like I love. And I'm shocked by the fact that I have a problem with the number of guys she's slept with before me. She is 25 and she's only had 8 sexual partners, with compared to me or some of my best female friends (they passed 40 partners some years ago ) is not a lot. It's double standards to the max, and I'm not sure why I feel this way. Love is strange.



Oh and btw, I make the destinction between lovemaking and sex and fucking aswell, but I do believe all three is part of a good relationship

 

[NinjaDuckie]

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I got quoted quite a bit, so I'm going to reply to you all at once. I should probably have mentioned that I'm gay and looking for a gay guy who's not fixed on sex seems to be harder than looking for the straight equivalent (I know plenty of straight guys who are like that, blehhh).

Edit: Just so you know, even with someone you love and are loved back by, most of the the cuddling with them will be more special then having sex.

Yeah, cuddles are nice. To be honest, I'd be happy with a relationship formed entirely of quiet cuddles, but then I'm an idealist and a romantic, so I guess you're right. I'm looking at the world through rose-tinted glasses and my hopes for certain things are very unrealistic. But I'm at least I'm not naive enough to think the world is all sunshine and happiness.

 

[metamorphosis18]

My experience is this -
I'm a guy (duh) and waited till 25 cause I wanted the right person to do it with. Unfortunately, I waited too long. Frankly, there's a phase most people go through of wanting to fuck everything in sight, and leaving that too late can really take it's toll when you're no longer the world's freshest breadloaf.
I'd have preferred it if I'd met my future partner/soulmate at 20 and shagged like mittens on fish, but that's not the way my life turned out.
Having said all that.
THe people I know who had the most sexual partners are the most fucked up people I know. The most genuine and honest people I know are the ones who have more conservative/emotionally-intact values towards sex. And whether or not it's fucking or making love, there's an exchange of energy which affects you both. Don't put your diuck in someone unhealthy - emotionally or mentally. And after time, simply fucking loses it's interesting aspect, and starts to feel meaningless.
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[LuckyClover95]

I think sex is for love, but not neccersarily marriage. I think it should be someone who you would consider marrying, thats how much you love them. But I don't think you should have to eentually marry them.

 

[SilentCom]

I know not of this sex you speak of. Just kidding, actually I don't really give a damn about it.

 

[Ampersand]

Sex isn't to be taken lightly but it's an amazing thing to be shared with someone you love and trust.
I'm not going to tell you your opinion is wrong, but I do think it would be very foolish to marry someone that you hadn't shared that level of intimacy with. Whether you like it or not sexuality is a big part of you and your partner and it'd be a huge mistake to ignore it.

Just my opinion.

 

[Zeema]

i believe that Sex is a Sacred thing. that should be handled carefully

 

[Gardenia]

Sex is nice. Coming up with rules other than "all parties must consent" is silly. Save yourself till marriage if you want, fuck at every turn if you so desire, or anything in between.

 

['Sami A-k]

A person who is able to get you off emotionally, mentally, and/or spiritually with minimal physical contact makes the best carnal lover, be it for a fleeting moment or a lifetime.

As far as marriage, a good commitment to a mutual phone plan, joint bank account, or shared apartment lease can have much greater impact on your life than a ring and vow of monogamy.

That said, the preceding is just the humble opinion of a bi veteran geek blend of Samantha and Charlotte living the city.

And for those fretting over virginity, I'd recommend 'The Purity Myth' by Jessica Valenti for some perspective.

 

[Mr. Google]

I like sex...with girls frequently if possible.

 

[k-ossuburb]

It's just something that happens, it's not special in any way, it's just a biological function. I'm not going to be all sentimental about pooping for the same reasons, so the idea of making intercourse some kind of magical thing seems silly to me.

Also, the whole "saving yourself for marriage" seems a little short-sighted. Sex isn't something you can dive into, if you want to actually have a pleasurable experience that's as special as you want it to be you are going to need to practice a hell of a lot. There's a lot of things involved in sex that that need to be established for it to be "good". You need to be able to communicate properly so both of you know what stimulates each other the best and how to achieve that, you need to have had sex enough for your body to know how it works or you are going to risk premature ejaculation (or no ejaculation at all), bad technique, breathlessness, bad rhythm, cramps and any number of other problems.

Not to mention getting into the right mental state. Psychology is just as important during sex, you need to learn how to stay focused without concentrating so hard that you get distracted. You need to know how to be responsive and attentive to your partner and be able to read their reactions but you also need to know how to do that while remaining relaxed.

Besides, abstinence does not work, it's a statistical inevitability.

 

[Colour Scientist]

I think that sex is something that should be saved til the wedding bed, personally. I think that it is the ultimate act of love and it bonds you with the person you share it with. It's like you take the core of yourself and place it in the other person's possesion and if you do it with lots of people regularly, you split that core and violate yourself. But thats just my opinion

I can't help but feel that people with that view of sex are going to severely disappointed the first time they have sex. The first time is awkward and sometimes, for the girl, painful.

On-topic, sex is awesome and I don't give it any real moral worth. I've only had sex with guys I've been in a relationship with (although with one it was two years after we had broken up) but that's a matter of my own comfort rather than beliefs or morals.

The way I see it, as long as both parties are single, over 14/15 and safe then go forth!

 

[Griffolion]

I got quoted quite a bit, so I'm going to reply to you all at once. I should probably have mentioned that I'm gay and looking for a gay guy who's not fixed on sex seems to be harder than looking for the straight equivalent (I know plenty of straight guys who are like that, blehhh).

Ah right okay. I'm sorry that you're going through that now. I really hope you find someone right for you, just keep yourself out there and open.

 

[Talon_Skywarp]

I don't get the whole 'I've gotta know them before I do it' thing.

One night stands are awesome! No fear of having to actually like them, just get in do the job and go home. It also means you can do pretty much anything, tends to be more dirty stuff.

I view it like smoking and drinking. I love it and will do it whenever.
Quesion- What is 'making love'? Sounds kinda...strange.

OT- Sex should be disgusting and slightly violent. Nothing worst than a cod.

 

[Daveman]

Yes please...

*reads OP*

It's an activity. Everyone has different reasons and ways of seeing it. I just see it as a willy going into a fanny.... (I'm English)

 

[DeathWyrmNexus]

Sex is as special as you make it. I also think it is important enough to figure out before marriage though. Its treatment and approach is part of your personality, something that is good to know about a prospective partner. Hell, the wife and I still had things to learn as we spent more time together but the headstart helped. XD

 

[Nimcha]

I like having sex.

Wow, this was such an easy question, I wish there were more threads like these!

 

[Dogstile]

I think its fun, good way to spark up a relationship. I also find it funny when it gets brought up and there is always that one person who is like "its just method of reproduction that feels good to fool us in-".

I mean, seriously, who the fuck is that guy and how come he finds every thread about sex. I give it three pages until one finds his way in.

 

[Crazycat690]

Well I'm a kinky person so I couldn't have sex with any random person, but I don't think you should have to wait until marrige and stuff because I'm not religious or anything and I don't even plan on ever getting married (but still having a family and stuff).