Sex.

[ShadowsofHope]

Nothing "sacred" about it. Biological imperative of every human being on the face of the planet at some point? Very much so.

To me, sex is mostly about the pleasure, intimacy and physical/emotional rewards that come from the act. Reproduction may be a natural course of sex if it happens, but I really have no interest in a kid for as long as I can stave it off, myself. In general, however? Two or more adults consented to the act, the act is legal in the country you are in residency of, and everyone was understanding of what potential acts might be involved in the situation?

Fuck all you want, how you want.

 

[HardkorSB]

I think that sex is something that should be saved til the wedding bed, personally. I think that it is the ultimate act of love and it bonds you with the person you share it with. It's like you take the core of yourself and place it in the other person's possesion and if you do it with lots of people regularly, you split that core and violate yourself. But thats just my opinion

Ultimate act of love?
For me, the "ultimate" act of love would have to be something that would require significant effort. Having sex is just physically pleasuring one another, sometimes resulting in reproduction.
For me, it's far more intimate to, for example, share each other's secrets, things that you wouldn't tell even when tortured, things about yourself that make your heart tremble. Everyone has those.
It's easy to share your body, even easier when you love the other person. It's harder to show what's on the inside and that's what really matters when you're really in love.
That's what I think at least.

Someone said once:
"Love is not looking at each other, love is looking in the same direction".
Don't know if that quote is totally on topic but I like it so I thought I'll share it.

 

[General BrEeZy]

I wont try and stop anyone else, but I hold it sacred, its supposed to be the last part of bonding, the deal-sealer; and AFTER marriage at that. THEN the pleasure comes into play...which frankly, im excited for, but waitings just fine!

Aren't you afraid it won't work? So many people I see who think like that have ended up unhappy. They meet, get a relationship, marry after a few months when they hardly know eachother, and then start acting like man and wife.

And within 2-5 years, most of them are divorced with kids, because it turned out they didn't fit well together after all. Some sucker even lives two doors away whose now 26 with two kids, and he's practically broke all the time, living in student appartmens because he has to support his ex and the kids.

yeah. after a marriage thats been built on a relationship thats lasted for at least a few good years, ya know, the marriages that actually last and where they're happy. sorry..you do have a point, so thats what i mean by marriage. and no not everyone does it right, but its a challenge to get it right...

 

[Akimbo_Slice]

Ive only had sex with one person, but I've made love a couple of times. Sometimes straight sex is fun, because you can do what you want with no consequences, but making love is better for the most part.

 

[Sandernista]

For me, the "ultimate" act of love would have to be something that would require significant effort. Having sex is just physically pleasuring one another, sometimes resulting in reproduction.

Hey! That takes some effort!

(I do agree with the most of your post though)

 

[lacktheknack]

See my avatar for any details on how I do sex.

<color=white>I'm pro-monogamy. Draw your own conclusions.

 

[IkeGreil29]

Well, my teenage idiot is making me about as lust-full as a rabbit, for lack of a better stereotype.

Aside from the obvious teenage angst, when my brain instead of my hormones are thinking for me, it is something VERY special. I won't have sex till I'm married (or in a relationship where we don't want that but are serious about being together). I'll never have oral or anal or any sort of new-school normal thing. I just never have found the appeal to it. My fantasies of more... sexual depravity, shall we say, are with people I'd never consider having a girlfriend relationship, let alone a marriage or, say, serious relationship but not married.

Edit: After reading all the "waiting till marriage will suck" posts, I've decided to become a chronic masturbator.

 

[Julianking93]

I got quoted quite a bit, so I'm going to reply to you all at once. I should probably have mentioned that I'm gay and looking for a gay guy who's not fixed on sex seems to be harder than looking for the straight equivalent (I know plenty of straight guys who are like that, blehhh).

I'm omni and like that, does that count?

OT, sex to me is something I wouldn't share with anyone other than someone I loved dearly.
Casual sex... eh. I could say I look down on it but I don't want to seem like a smug bastard (not like I usually don't anyway according to some of you ¬_¬) but it isn't something I would do myself and people who do that... eh. Just kinda weirds me out to be honest.
It's just that the way I view sex is that it's intimate and loving. Not something I'd do with just anyone because I feel horny. I have my hand and the internet for that.

Hell, even having sex with a good friend is preferable to casual sex with a stranger. That just doesn't make sense to me. I mean... it does and I get why people do it but it's not for me.
I prefer the intimacy of being with someone I love or care for rather than just the feeling of another orgasm.

So essentially, sex for me is something I'd only do with people I love and care for deeply. The idea of "fighting back hormones" by saving it for someone you love doesn't make sense to me since you can get the same relief from that through masturbation. Maybe I don't have the same hormonal activity as the rest of people but I'd prefer it to be loving and not just a "fuck." I don't believe in marriage to be honest but I believe strongly in love and sex is the ultimate act of sexpressing (;P) one's love for another.

Now, one thing to note is that I'm not going to stop anyone from having casual sex. That's their own business. Two consenting individuals are able to make their own decisions. However, I personally don't believe that to be a particularly... healthy act and it just isn't for me so I don't partake in it.

Just my thoughts anyway. Surprised to see as many people here who agree. And quite glad at that too :3

 

[Pseudoboss]

Sex, is now, thanks to condoms and contraceptives, safe. People can now have sex with pretty much anyone and not have to bear the risk of having children, an STD or other complications that previous generations had to deal with. Therefore, protected sex can now be, casual, for fun. However, if a partners were to have unprotected sex, then the couple should treat it as sacred, because there can be pretty big consequences to that act.
My view: Bang around with anyone you can get, but be sure to rubber up, lest you end up screwing with the wrong person or getting her pregnant when you didn't want to. Treat protected sex however you feel, but always treat unprotected sex with foresight, wisdom and preparedness.

 

[IkeGreil29]

One thing I noticed is that people think condoms and pills are the ultimate panacea of multiple sex partners... are these people aware condoms break, pills fail, and some STDs are transmitted even with a condom?

 

[crudus]

Well, as always I like to define my terms before talking about them. Since you didn't, I will.

Spoiler: Let's ask UrbanDictionary!

1. What kind of moron are you that you look up sex in the urban dictionary?
Looking up sex??? Seriously, get off now before I turn off the internet.

...fuck

Anyway, I think sex is sex. I really can't form an accurate opinion of it when I am just neutral. Sure, when I am turned on it is amazing what with all the energy flying everywhere and whatnot. I really don't think it is sacred when many, many others in the animal kingdom just rape their mates for sex. Sex should also never be saved for the wedding night anyway. Sexual compatibility is just as (if not more) important than personally compatible. If you don't have a good sex life, you won't have a good marriage.

I think that sex is something that should be saved til the wedding bed, personally.

Why? (note: I read after this point, and I would also like to know why you "violate" yourself or why you can't bond with many people)

 

[KaWaiiTSuKI]

I agree with a fair number of people here.
Sex is something only to do (at least in my opinion) in intimate situations with people you care for.
Granted, I'm a virgin so I don't really know much about it and can't comment but the idea of casual sex bothers me quite a bit and I don't get why people find the need to do it constantly simply because... what? They get bragging rights? Really? I find that both extremely immature and disgusting.
I enjoy sex and all (with myself of course) but I don't see the need in finding someone to fuck simply because I need an orgasm. I have other means for that.
No, I'll wait for someone I love to share a first time with, thank you.

 

[basedg0d_a0s]

If people want to have sex that's their own choice. And the right to do it how they want, with whoever they want, regardless of what society says.

this post pretty much sums up the whole thread.

 

[Everin]

So really everyone here thinks that waiting until marriage is just some old fashioned tradition that can be left by the way side and sex (not love making, sex) is just recreation. Like playing video games?
Just wondering

 

[BlackJack47]

A very natural process that shouldn't be taken lightly but definitely should be enjoyed. Be safe and don't hurt anyone, that means emotionally as well.

 

[Smooth Operator]

So really everyone here thinks that waiting until marriage is just some old fashioned tradition that can be left by the way side and sex (not love making, sex) is just recreation. Like playing video games?
Just wondering

Co-op video games
Takes a special partner to make that work right.

Some ofcourse will call it the ultimate evil (most girls it seems), and yet others will treat is as the holy grail of partnership... whatever floats your boat I say.

 

[Girl With One Eye]

I would only have sex with someone I felt comfortable with and trusted. I've never had sex outside of a relationship and I never would. I personally think it's better when you can trust the person and know that they're not just using you.

 

[dorkette1990]

It depends on the person... I personally think it's something you should do with someone you trust (your putting your mouth places and letting people come in contact with places you have to be pretty damn comfortable with) but it comes down to something intensely fun that can also help enhance an emotional bond. Note, ENHANCE not INITIATE (emotionless sex... is... meh)

 

[A Daft World]

I personally think that you should wait until you find someone you trust and love before you have sex. I really don't care whether that means waiting until marriage, or just finding someone who you trust enough.

I'm waiting until marriage. It isn't important to me when I finally have sex, but it is important to the girl I'm with because of her religion. As long as that doesn't bother me, I see no reason why I couldn't resist. The first time will be clumsy, but that's half the fun. We get to learn together, and start from the ground up. We get to find out things about each other that we don't know, and I won't have feel like I'm "painting by the numbers".

I can be happy in any situation as long as I have a hand, and my genitalia are intact. As long as I'm happy, who cares one way or another about when and why I have sex.

 

[holy_secret]

Sex is an amazing thing and actually the only "natural" thing that I think makes sense.
Sex is not sacred nor is it something to play around with. It is a way to entertain yourself and another one (or several if you're into that sort of things). If there is love involved, it can be one of the most intimate and meaningful experience you can experience with someone else. It's a combination of mental/emotional and physical pleasure.

If there is no love, it is still a very nice thing to do. It releases a lot of hormones which make you feel better, improve your self confidence and do a lot of other nice things.

There is only risk for STDs if you go unprotected. That is not due to sex, that is due to idiocy. It's like blaming the bloiling pot when you pick it up without a glove and get burned.

You damn, sexy ninja you...

Yeah, I think sex is great, but something that should only be done with someone you trust.

Why do you think so?