BiscuitTrouser said:
Actually yesterday i was talking to a friend about why lesbianism is more accepted than homosexual males in a community. Its when i realised this: Male sexuality is taught to be disgusting and vulgar. Female sexuality is encouraged, get in touch with an inner you people cry, its ok to be open with your feelings.
Please don't talk about the stuggles of lesbians and gays unless you understand them.
Let me just take an example from my own life: the rules generally are that other women are freaked out or disgusted by lesbians, but are indifferent to, or find gay men endearing. This happened quite a lot to me, as I had a gay male friend that made lots of female friends, but the same women didnt really like me BECAUSE I was gay.
Homosexuality is sometimes viewed by men, if it is a man, to be grossm and what you say there holds true, BUT with women, an alarmingly large amount of the men I have known have been under the impression that lesbianism is ok cause it's 'hot'. This pisses me off a great amount, I mean, seriously, this IS NOT OK. I've had guys assume that I'm with a girl for their fucking benefit, so they can enjoy the 'sights'! Since when should lesbianism be a fucking spectator sport?? Because porn says so???
Eh, and so far as the 'female sexuality is encouraged' thing, yeah, bullshit. At least in my circumstances. I hid who I was thoughout high school, because things were bad enough with bullying as it was, and I didn't want to give them more ammo. I've been taught that the things I should want are a traditional family, and that's so ingrained, it actually bothers me that I can't have that. That, on top of dealing with people who actually shout at you on the street, calling you sick, and you know what? That's proof enough for me that it's definately NOT encouraged.
Just as a disclaimer, that wasn't a personal attack on you, at all, I just needed to get the point across. Rant over.