Sexual Insecurity?

[Dexiro]

I'm really comfortable with my sexuality. I'm somewhere between gay and bi but I'm not entirely sure, I'm only really interested in guys.

Asking questions about other sexualities doesn't mean someone's insecure.
I think people are insecure when they seem aggressive towards the opposite sexuality and purposefully stay ignorant. Generally a lot of homophobic people ;3

 

[Dogstile]

My sexuality is like a mighty fortress. I am completely confident and comfortable in it.

Also, no gays allowed.

I chuckled mostly because of Trojan condoms, and the whole breaching the walls of Troy, which was considered a mighty fortress. Just a thought you might want to supress before you think too much on that one. XD

Sickipedia too? That joke was on there for a while :L

OT:

Hell yeah i'm comfortable. I like girls. I've kissed guys, didn't like it, but I don't give a damn if they're kissing around me, because, to be fair, gay friends raises your tolerance a little.

NOW BRING ON THE FEMALES!

 

[Creator002]

I am a heterosexual male. I have used Lionhead's "The Movies" to make a homosexual romance. Yesterday, on a pamphlet at a McDonald's restaurant, there was a guy and a girl. I openely said to my friends that the guy was the better looking of the two.
I do believe that makes me quite secure.

As for the other questions: I think that asking questions about someone's sexuality, regardless of your own, doesn't make you insecure. You may just be curious in something you're not.

 

[b3nn3tt]

I'd say I'm entirely comfortable in my sexuality, I've never had cause to doubt it in any way

I agree with all of the people who don't think that asking questions makes you seem insecure, I see that more as curiosity. I'm not even sure how it could make you seem insecure; thw only think I can think is that people think you're looking for tips on how to be of a different orientation, but that doesn't even make sense

 

[LawlessSquirrel]

Am I insecure? I would say so, very much so. I found out my ex has bets about what gender I end up with...that's nice and awkward. I have my preferences and my 'target audience', so to speak, but that's not to say I have any sense of certainty, which is both conflicting and concerning.

As for the other questions, no I wouldn't consider curiosity to be insecure. It's a method of learning and understanding, which is all well and good. It's better than pretending other orientations don't exist, and it may serve as a good way to grow as a person.

 

[Calcium]

Perhaps I'm strange as I'm fully comfortable and confident in the fact that I'm attarcted to females, yet I can be attracted to males, but only about 1/100th the time I'm attracted to females. So does that make me hetrosexual or very slightly bi?

Personally I identify myself as an open-minded hetrosexual, which may sound slightly prejudiced but I don't intend it to be.

I don't think asking questions about sexuality insecure. I wouldn't consider someone asking questions about religion religiously insecure, or someone asking about games to be... um... ludusly insecure.

 

[spartan231490]

In one of my recent threads, someone said that since I post a lot of threads regarding sexuality and ask questions regarding the various orientations, it makes me look insecure. While I'm not terribly offended by such a remark, it got me to thinking about it a bit.

How many of you are comfortable with your sexuality? I suppose knowing your sexuality and coming to terms with it, as it were, aren't exactly the same thing. Some of us have always known that we're one orientation or another, but some of us take time to realize it and even do our best to deny it from time to time.

So my questions for this thread are fairly straightforward I think.

Are you comfortable with your sexuality? Do you consider people who ask questions about other orientations to be insecure in their own sexuality? Would you consider any orientation other than heterosexual to be insecure if they asked questions about other people's sexuality?

I'm sure there are more questions that I could add, so feel free to discuss any points you feel may be relative but not covered by the questions.

Same rules apply here as in all of my threads, keep in civil please.

I'm comfortable with my sexuality. Someone asking questions about sexuality doesn't make me think they are insecure about their own. Just curious, which could be because they are insecure, but is more likely because they are just curious.

 

[Sneeze]

Are you comfortable with your sexuality?

I'm pretty comfortable with my sexuality as a whole, if you'd have asked me a couple of years ago I probably wouldn't have said the same but not any more. I'm out, most people are cool with it, nothing really for me to be uncomfortable about. Sure I might get a little uncomfortable around potential homophobes but thats just because I don't feel like getting punched. I'm comfortable in myself with the whole deal.

Do you consider people who ask questions about other orientations to be insecure in their own sexuality?

Hm... Usually, no, but maybe if they ask these questions a lot, and how in-depth and graphic these questions go and exactly how much detail they want, maybe.

Would you consider any orientation other than heterosexual to be insecure if they asked questions about other people's sexuality?

Hm... I dunno actually. Maybe bi if they're actually gay and don't wanna admit they're all the way on the other side, maybe? As for gay? Heterosexual in denial? That would be weird. I guess it could happen, sexuality can be somewhat flexible I think.

 

[PatrickXD]

Hetero Male, and comfortable with that.
I'm not homophobic, I have a couple of gay friends and none of us really care about stuff like that.

 

[Rascarin]

I am now. Took me a good while to realise and then come to terms with the fact that I was lesbian, but now its done, I'm happier than ever.

I still have the odd boy-crush, though. About two per year, there'll be a guy I like the look of. Would never act on it, though. I'm still confident in my sexuality.

 

[Zhukov]

Do you mean sexual orientation or just sexuality in general?

If the former, then 90% secure. If the latter, then 2% secure.

Yeah...

 

[Nimcha]

Are you comfortable with your sexuality? Do you consider people who ask questions about other orientations to be insecure in their own sexuality? Would you consider any orientation other than heterosexual to be insecure if they asked questions about other people's sexuality?

First, I am very much secure about my sexuality.

As to your second question, no I don't think so. After having to answer questions regarding my sexuality for most of my life I thought I'd return the favour and so I've asked my straight friends so many questions their ears bled. Straight people are curious, and there are some things I will probably never get. Such as the whole 'girls go for bad guys and ignore the good ones', what the hell is that about? xD The rest, I ask about.

 

[Asuka Soryu]

Yeah, I'm comfortable with it. If it existed. I just don't think having sex would really appeal to me. I kinda wanna date, but sex really doesn't have much appeal to me.

But...you're Asuka, I thought you wanted to jump Kaji's bones?

Oh, real nice! Tell the whole world, why don't you?

 

[Raven's Nest]

I don't wanna have to see it.

I'm not bothered what they do in public. As long as I don't have to watch it. Same goes for a man & woman though in all honesty. It's not something I really fancy seeing on a bus or whatever.

It's fine if you believe that you are comfortable with your sexuality (Stupid argument anyway).

But if you feel that you couldn't watch two men kissing, then you have a problem with homosexuality itself. Which is fine, because it isn't the same thing as active homophobia. So long as you aren't discriminating against a gay person for being gay then you are doing everything you are (subjectively) morally obliged to do to deal with that problem.

And if it's a problem with seeing any people displaying sexuality in public, then you are just a prude. Again, that's not a problem either so long as you don't let it affect the way you treat people.

 

[godfist88]

theres no reason why you should feel ashamed about your sexuality, despite whatever some random assholes say.

 

[Raven's Nest]

See. It's people like you that are the problem. You don't think what you're doing is annoying. And wrong. But it is.

You make grand assumptions about a persons character, beliefs and values. Based on, well based on nothing.

I don't have a problem with homosexuality. I have 2 very close friends who are gay. And I've freely talked about stuff with them, who they're trying to get with ect', when other friends have said they don't want to talk about it. I also have a friend who works in a gaybar in Manchester, (he's not gay, just ended up with a job there.) I've been in there whilst he's been working plenty of times and not felt uncomfortable.

So then you hear one aspect of what I'm thinking and assume that they make me uncomfortable. You see how that could be annoying?

Your assumption of me being prudish is just as laughable. There's a difference between being repulsed by something and just not wanting to see it. I don't want to watch people tonguing each other in public. Not because I find the activity repulsive, or because I don't like the thought of others showing sexuality. I've been in the same room as people having sex whilst I was. It's not a case of prudence. I just don't want to see two people chewing each others face off when I'm taking the bus home.

Perhaps you are taking what I said too personally. I can only respond to the context in the words you have written. If you don't want people to misunderstand you then perhaps you should clarify your position a bit better.

When you say "I don't want to see two men kissing" and that is all the story I get, what other conclusions am I meant to draw from that?

If you could expand on your first line for me, to what problem are you referring, and in what way am I making this worse?

 

[TheLaofKazi]

I'm comfortable with being bisexual/pansexual/whatever (orientation labels are silly anyways) There's nothing wrong with asking questions and trying to understand. In fact, I admire people who do so, even if their question comes across as ignorant, because there's nothing really wrong with that. What I don't like is when that ignorance is acted upon with the person taking the time to learn about other things/people.

 

[Raven's Nest]

The problem that everyone seems to think they're a qualified psychologist. Dissecting every-bodies problems with no real idea what they're doing and no real understanding of the person they're analysing. I see it a lot. And it's really annoying.

We're pretty complex beings. You can't reduce what makes us tick to a few categories.

I hear what you are saying and I apologise if i've offended you.

It's a habit of mine, to try and analyse the correlation between what someone says or writes, and of what they actually mean or intended. It helps me to better understand the human condition. It wasn't my intention to label you or categorise your entire psyche with a few snap judgements (I appreciate how annoying that can be). I just wanted to point out that what you said given the context, would give the impression I got. Just calling it as I see it is all.

 

[Altorin]

I'm going to say I'm relatively secure, in that I don't freak out when people call me gay or something like that.

I have moments of just pure gayness that are actually a little frightening, but they don't happen often enough for me to consider myself even bisexual. I doubt I could have an actual relationship with a man (although sometimes I really wish I could, because guys are so much easier to deal with then women)

 

[zombiesinc]

Are you comfortable with your sexuality? Do you consider people who ask questions about other orientations to be insecure in their own sexuality? Would you consider any orientation other than heterosexual to be insecure if they asked questions about other people's sexuality?

Comfortable with my sexuality? Yes, absolutely. I am more than comfortable to share my sexuality with others (if asked), but it's not something that's comfortably or fully accepted within my own house. Naturally, that results in a level of discomfort, but I wouldn't say that affects how I feel towards myself about my own sexuality, if that makes sense. >.>

No, I do not consider those who ask such questions to be insecure, in fact, the opposite. And no, for the same reason.