Sexual Insecurity?

[Terminal Blue]

Is it just me, or is this the most self-congratulatory thread ever?

Congratulations, straight people. You're comfortable with the sexuality noone will ever call you up on, beat you up for or otherwise treat you badly because of. You people are heroes!

 

[Kyoufuu]

You know what annoys me about this whole subject. People who claim you're uncomfortable with your sexuality because you don't want to watch gay men kiss or stuff to that effect.

Just because I don't want to see it doesn't mean I'm insecure. Even slightly.

I'm perfectly comfortable with my sexuality. And I wouldn't think that anybody asking questions about another is unsure about theirs.

Sometimes it's just for the sake of learning.

Like, would you say 'you must be insecure with your culture' because they asked someone from a different country about theirs?

TBH. I think very few people are ever actually unsure about their orientation. Most who say they are, probably know, but don't want to address it.

Pretty much this. And by 'Pretty much this' I mean 'This is frackin' spot on.'

 

[Bender Rodriguez]

I'm very confident and secure in my sexuality, have to admit i was curious about it and even slightly scared in my younger teens.
But now i'm 19 and things are alright

 

[Anima the Aeon]

Are you comfortable with your sexuality?

Indeed I am. Couldn't be happier about it.

Do you consider people who ask questions about other orientations to be insecure in their own sexuality?

Nope. They might be wondering about the attraction in other sexualities, but I wouldn't call them sexually insecure.

Would you consider any orientation other than heterosexual to be insecure if they asked questions about other people's sexuality?

Not at all.

 

[darkmushroomm]

Sex is wrong and always will be, as God forbids such blasphemous activities.

 

[Jaime_Wolf]

Are you comfortable with your sexuality?

Yes, but this shouldn't be taken to mean that I think I know and understand my "true" sexuality in some weird Platonic sense. These things can be relatively fluid, whether people are willing to acknowledge it or not, but I'm comfortable regardless of what my sexuality might be or how it might change.

Do you consider people who ask questions about other orientations to be insecure in their own sexuality?

No.

Would you consider any orientation other than heterosexual to be insecure if they asked questions about other people's sexuality?

I'm not sure I entirely understand this question, but I think no.

Additional comment: I think it's silly and patronising to say "too young to know". There are people who "understand" their sexuality from a very, very young age, people who take much longer, people who never understand it, people who think they understand it and change their mind later, people who think they understand it and are pressured into changing their mind, people who think they understand it and are pressured into not changing their mind, and every other possibility you can imagine. (Sidenote: I try not to bring up my own age on here since, regardless of what age it is, it will inevitably be used as ammunition in some argument, but I think most people would comfortably agree that I don't fall into the "too young to know" category. I say this to prevent the "well you're just one of the people who are too young then" arguments.)

 

[Zyphonee]

I enjoy these threads, I think that when everyone bangs on with frivolous chatter, it's good to talk about topics that orbit around our most primal urges. Discussing sexuality in a civil way is something that a lot of people tend to avoid, because it has become so taboo that the average person tries to avoid thinking about it.

However, on the complete opposite side of the spectrum, pondering about sexuality may be behaviour caused by a degree of confusion, since people aren't exatly fond of discussing this kind of thing, a person who just has a problem finding his or her identity (Which is something that happens to all of us in at least one area in life) is left completely unguided to figure it out alone, and might interpret these perfectly normal things as something bigger, and I guess that's where the Internet comes in (Or college advisors, I suppose)

To answer your question; no, I'm not particularly insecure about my sexuality, but neither do I find it repulsive for a teenage to be. I do believe, however, that an adult showing signs of sexual insecurity might be only the tip of the iceberg for a long going history of repression.