Sexuality / Being uptight

[Admiral Stukov]

I don't have any problem of sharing a bed with someone.
But I'd advise against it since I flail around like a madman in my sleep, so someone would probably end up with a broken nose or something.

 

[Mythbhavd]

1.1) Yeah, I've shared my bed with a guy before.
1.2) Nothing bothered me about it.
2) I can talk openly about sex and sexuality.
3) Patiently

 

[garfoldsomeoneelse]

1. Done it before, I'll do it again. As long as there's no contact, the supposed "implications" are too juvenile to bother me.
2. Why the hell not? It's part of the human experience, and a big part of who we are. To take a puritanical "IS NOTHING SACRED?!" approach to sexuality is to complicate a fairly simple matter.
3. If someone expresses discomfort about a topic, I'll generally avoid it unless they absolutely need to be set straight on something; it's called tact.

 

[lex.nero]

1) Of course, and have in the past.
2) N/A
3) Yes, many of my friends are obsessed with sex. Both guys and Girls, it's like natural conversation now.
4) I act how i normally do, Just because someone is up-tight doesn't mean I should change my attitude.

 

[Redlin5_v1legacy]

1.1) Would you share your bed with a person of the same sex?
1.2) If no, what bothers you about it?
2) Can you openly talk about sex or sexuality?
3) How do you act aroundd up-tight people?

1) Only if it is out of necessity. I'm not a homophobe but I am a sheet hog. And I already have, when we only had two beds and four guys in the same hotel room in Europe.

2) Yup. I'm straight and I like women. I could get into far greater details but that wouldn't be like me and also not very polite.

3) I tell them relax, its all good. If they are still up-tight, I plan with a bunch of other friends to make random flirtatious comments around them. Usually they get that its just joking around. If not, someone has a pole shoved up where the sun don't shine. In a more formal, less schoolish environment I'd just plain ignore them.

 

[Shynobee]

1.1) Not sure, I've never been in the situation before. But if I had to go on instinct, I'd say no.
1.2) It just doesn't fit with who I am.
2) Not really, but it depends on the company. If it's between a few close friends, then yeah, I have no problem talking about it. With someone I've only known for a day or two, it would be a bit awkward.
3) I am fine with "uptight" people. Sex is a personal topic, and not every one has to feel the same about it.

2) Yes. I don't see the problem with it...it's natural and fun. You can talk about eating, can't you?

I saw this answer, and I have to ask, do you really see sex and eating in the same category?

I mean, eating is something every single person of every age does. It can be done in public, with family, with strangers, etc...

Sex is personal, usually not done in large groups, and is something kids (generally) know nothing about.

To me, that seems sort of like an apples to oranges comparison...

 

[Mechsoap]

1) done it several times when i sleep at my friends place
2) i swear like a sailor so i would say yes
3)don't know many up tight people to say so, but i don't treat them else

 

[StBishop]

The only reason I would not share a bed with another guy is:

* I don't want to wake up in the morning with a piece of morning wood jammed into my back!!

It's not as bad as having it jammed against your morning wood.

1. Have no problem sharing a bed with other dudes, have done so plenty of times, from my childhood through to young adulthood. Have shared a single bed with 3 other dudes. Have shared a bed with three chicks too, that was a double bed.
Sharing a bed =/= sex/sexual attraction.

2. Does not apply.

3. I'm comfortable talking about sex/sexuality with anyone. I've not tried to talk with my grandparents about it so far but I'm sure I'd be able to.
It's awkward talking to my sister about it as she's just about to turn 15 and I know that she's thinking about it, which makes me uncomfortable due to the large age gap which has always made her a baby compared to me and my (older) brother.

4. I suppose the same, respectfully. It's not hard to guess where the line is with people usually.

 

[Addendum_Forthcoming]

Well ... I like my personal space ... mainly because in my sleep I randomly spoon things like pillows and blankets.

So I don't mind sharing a bed ( whether small or large bed ... if the bed is sufficiently large another for me to roll about on one spot and not afflict anybody I don't give a shit) with anyone, male or female. I just don't think someone other than a romantic partner would appreciate my random gropy-ness at night.

I'm pretty sure even a significant other would be kinda weirded out by my random spooning.

As for the rest of the questions ... meh ... uptight people? I don't know ... not sure what that means ... we all have our personal hangups about stuff.

But to answer question 1, I don't care if anybody shares my bed ... I just don't think THEY would like to o.o

 

[ultimateownage]

1. 1) Yup, no problem.
1. 2) -
2) Yes. I don't see the problem with it...it's natural and fun. You can talk about eating, can't you?
3) Although I don't agree with them, I respect their opinion. Unless they give stupid arguments, as most of them do.

This, has long has the bed is big enough. I like my personal space. Sex is just has natural, if not more so, than most other stuff we do. Society just decided open conversations about it is a bit weird. Also, 90% of uptight people have no valid reason for being so, they're just stupid and not comfortable enough with their own sexuality.

 

[Gigano]

1): Of course. I've slept in the same beds as friends both male and female, and it never struck me or them as erotically charged or anything. When I was 13 - 17 I might have cared though, but at that age nothing is really not erotically charged.

2): Of course. Other than hailing from one of the most liberal places on Earth in that regard, I've kind of moved past the whole "sex is the all-consuming taboo" phase.

3): I ignore them and talk to someone who's actually worth a damn in such conversations. If that's the topic. Otherwise, if they don't condemn anything happening between consensual adults I'll treat them the same as everyone else in all other regards.

 

[C95J]

I guess I wouldn't mind sleeping in the same bed as someone of the same sex as me...
But only if I had to.

 

[bobknowsall]

1) I tend to be fairly iffy about it, but I will if I have to.
2)---
3) Hoo boy, don't get me started. It's all in good fun, though.
4) I tend to mock them, but not seriously. They're just easy to take the piss out of.

 

[Bloodstain]

2) Yes. I don't see the problem with it...it's natural and fun. You can talk about eating, can't you?

I saw this answer, and I have to ask, do you really see sex and eating in the same category?

I mean, eating is something every single person of every age does. It can be done in public, with family, with strangers, etc...

Sex is personal, usually not done in large groups, and is something kids (generally) know nothing about.

To me, that seems sort of like an apples to oranges comparison...

Nah. I don't see them in the same category, but you can and should be able to talk about both topics openly (the latter at least with friends).

 

[Doug]

That commment made me think of a bunch of questions I would like to ask the Escapist:
1.1) Would you share your bed with a person of the same sex?
1.2) If no, what bothers you about it?
2) Can you openly talk about sex or sexuality?
3) How do you act aroundd up-tight people?

1.1) If I absolutely had to. I wouldn't be comfortable though.
1.2) a) Lack of space, b) warm body unpleasantly close, c) None of the benefits of having a lady in the bed, even if its just bullshit stories you make up about it afterwards.
2) Define 'openly' - seems abit vague.
3) Politely? Its not my place to shove sexuality into their faces without cause.

 

[Mr.Pandah]

A little backstory first. My class took a week long trip to Lake Constance. Our beds were barely big enough for 1 person, but a bunch of girls would sleep in our room (No sex) so most of us had to share their bed. No problem.

But one night, after hanging out with some other girls, I went back to my room at around 4 am. I went straight to bed, dressed and everything. I woke up around 2 hours later to get up, and noticed that I had spent the night with another guy sleeping in my bed, since 2 girls were sleeping in his bed. None of us really cared. A week later I told a friend from America the story and all she said was: "That's kind of creepy".

That commment made me think of a bunch of questions I would like to ask the Escapist:
1.1) Would you share your bed with a person of the same sex?
1.2) If no, what bothers you about it?
2) Can you openly talk about sex or sexuality?
3) How do you act aroundd up-tight people?

1.1) Yeah, sure. If need be, I wouldn't really mind it. As long as nothing sexual went down and we're all reasonably dressed. I'm not gay, and I know it, so its not like it matters to me.
1.2) -
2) Yes, yes I can. Ever since having a girlfriend who disliked talking about sex greatly, and never actually had sex with me, I am sick, absolutely sick, of people who can not talk about it openly OR don't want to participate in the act. Sexuality is another thing, its alright to be open with it, but don't flaunt it in front of me if you happen to swing the other way, or both ways. I don't make out in front of you, so don't do it in front of me.
3) Well, if there are up-tight people around, you probably won't like me all that much. Sorry. Thats just the way its going to be.

 

[Xcelsior]

1.1)Yes I have and I'm not bothered by it to be honest.
2) yep
3) I myself don't act any different around them, why should I change how I am just because some stuck up person doesn't like it.

 

[Julianking93]

1: Sure, why not? I shared my bed with someone when I went on a school trip one year. It was kinda nice, actually ^-^

1-2: N/A

2: I like to, personally. I don't really have anything that I find embarrassing to talk about so I have no problem talking about it.

3: I respect their opinion and personal views enough to refrain from discussing such matters as I know it will make them uncomfortable......though when I'm bored, I'll start talking about it just to fuck with them.

 

[Tharwen]

I have, on several occasions. The problem is that people make so many assumptions about what sleeping next to people actually entails. Once you add in a little 'I'm-not-gay-honest' reflex, you have a generally negative reaction to it. Of course, I'd prefer to have a bed to myself, but I'd never force someone off it so I could. Also, if you do any sort of sleeping outside (e.g. in tents), sleeping as close to the other people in your group as possible is very helpful in order to keep warm.

 

[Shoggoth2588]

That commment made me think of a bunch of questions I would like to ask the Escapist:
1.1) Would you share your bed with a person of the same sex?
1.2) If no, what bothers you about it?
2) Can you openly talk about sex or sexuality?
3) How do you act aroundd up-tight people?

1: I would prefer not to though I could
1.2: I have slept alone for about 2 years now...call it habit
2: Not with family but who can?
3: I AM one of those up-tight people xD I dunno...I just try not talking about sex. There a lot of other stuff to talk about after all.