Aaron Sylvester said:
Vault101 said:
I do love it when guys tell us whats empowering...or that theyre "just apreciating the beauty of women"
[sub/]not assuming your a girl[/sub]
So far this has been a fairly one-sided subject considering I can't simply retort to you with "I do love it when women tell us what's empowering"...because to males ANYTHING can be classified as empowering, even hot sexualized male characters (as rare as those are).
Most male gamers tend to not be not too bothered or worried by what classifies as "empowering" or "objectification", most of them understand it's not something really worth fussing over or getting worked-up about.
But with female characters we gotta be really careful because this is such a touchy and sensitive topic for so many people. Every female character these days seems to get pigeonholed into either being sexually objectified or defying sexual objectification purely for the sake of stirring up a shitstorm.
E.g. Frozen, a movie that got some of my facebook friends hysterically claiming as the ultimate defiance against misogyny, patriarchy, sexism, etc (all the trendy feminism terms) and the ultimate statement towards the strength of females not needing males to help them. They were trumpeting that shit from the rooftops as if it was the next big things since women got equal voting rights LOL. Talk about over-blowing things to batshit crazy proportions!
I gotta agree with Vault here.
All of your arguments seem almost rational on the surface. But when you read between the lines of what you're saying - it's just putting women down. It's subtle, but it's still negative.
Let's translate, shall we?
"most [men] understand [objectification] is not worth fussing over/getting worked up about"
What you're really saying here is that people shouldn't ever get angry about objectification - but that only men are smart enough to realise that. Nice. That's really friendly of you.
"misogyny, patriarchy, sexism, etc (all the trendy feminism terms)".
These are all just words that describe things. The only notable thing about them is that you've lumped them in together under the label 'trendy feminism'. You're essentially stating that people who have concerns about misogyny or sexism etc, are only SAYING they have a problem because it's in fashion to do so. You've completely disregarded the possibility that there actually might be a problem and that the people who HAVE noticed it like to talk about it and raise awareness of it.
"Talk about over-blowing things to batshit crazy proportions!"
Anything can be exaggerated to crazy levels. I don't really think this was. What were they doing? Saying that the movie was a great example of the fact that female characters can have lives and motivations that don't revolve around men? Uh, yeah. It kinda was.
The only truly crazy part is that it's so rare for a movie to be like that. That's why people were so excited about it.
You seem like a smart guy - but you don't seem like a guy that's really thought about the issue. More like a guy who's just reacting to the issue.
It's like a white person arguing that racism isn't a big deal anymore. Prejudice is never a big deal when you're not the one affected by it. And if you haven't experienced prejudice in your life - it can be very difficult to understand that a group of people who ARE affected by it - practically live in a different world than you do.
It's like we're living in an MMO. Everyone's experience is affected by their character type. An elf goes to hand in a quest, and the quest giver (who is also an elf) gives him his gold, along with a bonus. The next guy that goes to hand in the quest is an Orc. He gets given less gold and is sneered at by the quest giver.
Same quest, two very different experiences of it.
If you then asked the elf about the possibility of racism affecting quest turn-ins - he'd tell you that it wasn't an issue. That anyone who says they're having a problem is just being overly sensitive. Why? Because he just hasn't had that experience.
He might be wrong objectively, but as far as he knows - he's correct.
In other words, check your privilege, dude.