Sexy Sex and You

[FPLOON]

If you've never had a sexual partner, is there a reason you don't want to or has the opportunity just not presented itself?

Well, if you must know, as a 21 year old black dude, I've never had a sexual partner is because I still have no concrete idea as to what kind of a sexual partner I would actually want to have that's both "practical" and not too "fantasy-based", if you know what I mean... On the flip side, I would panic at the last second if I did end up in a situation pre-sexual interface just because it would either be the first time and/or I would forget that this is just a "one-night stand" and nothing else...

I'm 23, I lost my virginity at 17 and I've had 4 sexual partners. Of the four, I was in a relationship with three, not all at once though.

I don't have a problem with one-night stands at all, I just haven't really found myself in that situation.

Enjoy knowing more information about my life than you ever wanted to know!

Wait a minute...4 sexual partners3 of them were in a relationship with you (but not at once)Haven't found themselves in a "one-night stand" situationHow does that one non-relationship sex partner not fit into the "one-night stand" category or am I just missing something here? Was it a sex friend or something like that?

*wonders if this particular question was already asked and just forgot to read page X, comment Y before asking*

 

[davidmc1158_v1legacy]

45 years old. Lost my virginity at 22. Have had 3 sexually active relationships over the years.

Never developed those people skills to mingle with potential partners. Between shyness, being a heavy introvert and general anxiety issues when trying to meet new people, it's been something of a washout.

Edit: Wow, took only 3 years to get to 600 posts.

 

[WolfThomas]

25year old male, 4 sexual partners. And seeing as I'm engaged probably no more, unless we become swingers or one of us dies.

 

[Paragon Fury]

24 (almost 15) and 0.


And I'd have to say.....unlikely to change.

 

[Bernzz]

I'm 21. I lost my virginity at 17 and I've had two sexual partners. Was dating both of them at the time I slept with them.
I guess I'm a monogamy kinda guy. Casual sex ain't my thing.

As for the number I've had, I guess it feels right to me?
I don't care, I could go through my whole life with one or with fifty, the number doesn't really matter to me.

 

[klaynexas3]

I'm 18 and I've had no sexual partners.

That's not for lack of trying, I just have this 100 mile radius in which no girl can find me sexually attractive. Outside of it, there are girls that do find me attractive(or at least so they tell me, maybe they just pity me). However, once a girl enters the radius, I am no longer a viable sexual partner. Maybe it's simply due to my own social ineptitudes, as I'm better socially equipped over the internet, rather than in person. Who knows.

 

[Nickolai77]

The general hunch I'm getting from this thread is that on one side of the spectrum you've got a fair number of people having many sexual partners, and then on the opposite side you have an almost comparable amount of people with no sexual partners, with not as many as I would expect falling in between.


This is of course just a hunch, but it would be interesting if a number geek went over the figures to see if I'm right and to spot any other trends. I'm not though, because I've got better things to do with my time.

 

[Bara_no_Hime]

So, this is a thread about the number of sexual partners you've had, if any.

Do you think your number is too high, too low or completely meaningless?
Do you judge other people based on how many people they've had sex with or think there's a limit to the amount of sexual partners a person should have?

Do you perhaps think that sex should be reserved for two people who are in a relationship or do you skulk around dance floors and chip shops at four in the morning desperate to find a decent looking randomer to bring home for the night?

Including your age would also be helpful. I say helpful, it's not really helpful as this entire thread is stupid, it just provides a more complete picture.

Oh! It's been a while since we did one of these threads. Let me consult my List.

My number is: 22

Considering that my spouse and I enjoy group sex but have trouble finding other couples to swing with - too low.

Nope - I am philosophically against judging people by their number of sexual partners. Different strokes for different folks and all that. I have asexual friends who may never have partners, and I have friends who have had even more partners than me.

I do not think that sex needs to be limited in any way. I love having sex with people I love. I also enjoy having sex with friends and/or casual acquaintances. I do enjoy grinding with random strangers on dance floors - always fun. I've never actually had sex with a stranger, but it sounds kinda fun, although I think it would be more fun if my spouse was also present.

My current age is 35. My various V-cards were punched between the ages of 17 and 20.

 

[Pete Oddly]

As one of my favourite topics of conversation, I'll certainly contribute to your sexy discussion.

I'm 30, have had 7 different sexual partners, all women, and I was in a committed relationship with 4 of them. I was never seeing any of these women at the same time, save for the one of them whom I had relations with during a threesome.

I do not look down on people for how many sexual partners they have had, nor do I believe in shaming people for enjoying sex. However; I DO look down on people who are careless in their sexual adventures, who recklessly flaunt sexual safety, or who visit their perversions on people who are uninterested/uncomfortable with them.

Furthermore, even though I am somewhat of a monogamist who does not derive satisfaction from one-night-stands, I do not believe sex is a concrete thing which must mean the same thing for everyone. Everyone gets their jollies in their own way, and we should be respectful and accepting of that (unless, of course, it involves harming other people who are unwilling or unable to consent, such as children).

That's about it. Unless you want me to start talking kinks, I think I've said my piece.

EDIT: Oh right, regarding my view on my own number of sexual partners? Just right. Like I said, I'm not into one-night-stands, and unless you're talking about group activities, I'm not into having multiple relationships. However; it has been a looong drought for me over the past four years, making me question my position on one-night-stands at times.

 

[Tsun Tzu]

Oh. Hey.

One of these turribly sexist threads that seemingly seeks to define people by their amount, or lack thereof, of sexual conquests. I 'hmph' in its general direction.

...

I kid. On to the sex talks.

Current Age: 26

Age of V-Card Loss: 19

Number of Partners: 5 - All Womenfolk.

Views: Fuck whoever ya want, really? I don't mind in general, but I will admit to feeling a mix of envy and judgment whenever I have to describe my sexual encounters and the circumstances surrounding them...as well as when I hear people's huuuuuuge (relative term) numbers. Not that the number is at all important.

Quality over quantity.

Currently in a nearly two-year drought, by choice weirdly enough (I've gotten numerous offers and, frankly, just don't want the hassle), and I'm making it, I guess.

Quite close to caving and either accepting said offers or finding some times of a good and/or sticky nature though.

 

[Chris Moses]

I am male, 39, I traded oral sex with another male when I was 11, I've lost count of how many sexual partners I've had (I would put the number in the hundreds), though I would say 90% of the sex I've had is oral and some people don't even count oral sex as sex.

I neither proud nor ashamed of the number of sexual partners I've had. I don't think I've had too many partners, and I don't judge others that have had lots of sex. I feel I have a hard time relating to people that don't have a lot of sex. Sort of how an avid carnivore would feel awkward trying to relate to a vegetarian and vice versa.

You don't have to be in love to have sex and you don't have to have sex to be in love. To me sex is just another bodily function, and the true weirdo's are the ones that try to make it extra special with unnecessary rituals, definitions, labels, and ofc judgements of other people that don't have sex exactly like they do.

 

[Saulkar]

It is weird for me, I have had encounters before (3 in total with 2 people) but we never went all the way.

The first time was with a guy when we were both twelve and it sorta went like this.

"Okay"
"Okay"
"I guess we then"
"Nope, that's wrong"
"We do this"
"Nuuuuuuu, it goes like this"
"Like this?"
"Oh for crying out loud!"

We tried it again 6 years later but, yeaahhhh, same awkward story. In between that me and a girl tried getting close but aside from some heavy touching it did not go anywhere either. Kingdom of awkward everyone!

 

[Floppertje]

24, and 5-6, depending on which bases you count. First time was when I was 18 (I think), first time going all the way was 19. Both times sucked (and not in the fun way). I'd have liked the number to have been higher, partly because that would mean I'd be more outgoing, partly because there are a few girls I really would've liked to date but never got to. I kind of think of myself as not being good with girls/unable to seal the deal/whatever you want to call it, but when I think back I actually haven't done that badly. Unless you define 'doing well' by the length of the relationships rather than the number, in which case I'm still a pretty big failure
Compared to the rest of my family though, I'm actually kind of a playboy. I fully expect to lose that first place when my nieces hit their dating age...

 

[Timmaaaah]

also im not very picky, i even find some girls who have a little bit of weight to them kinda attractive at times. ladies! single man here and i can be all yours.

Hahaha chubby girls are awesome. It's like they're a giant boob.

 

[DayDark]

also im not very picky, i even find some girls who have a little bit of weight to them kinda attractive at times. ladies! single man here and i can be all yours.

Hahaha chubby girls are awesome. It's like they're a giant boob.

I...I actually kind of like when there's a little Jiggle to it, ifyouknowwhati'msayin' >_> <_<

 

[Dark Knifer]

I'm 20, had one partner who I am still with and lost my virginity when is 18 or 19.

I have no problems with one night stands and if I wasn't in a relationship I might consider them but I clearly value a relationships more but whatever makes people happy doesn't bother me at all.

Kinda boring answer honestly.

 

[Zen Bard]

Brought to you by Colour Scientist, resident pervert.

Some say "pervert" I say "carnally adventurous".

I'm a 45 year old straight male. Lost my virginity to a hooker at 20 and have had three partners until I met my wife eight years ago. So five total.

By the way, my definition of "sex" is straight ahead bumping uglies intercourse. However, if we're counting other modes of moaning and groping intimacy, then hell...I lost count when I turned 30.

Do you think your number is too high, too low or completely meaningless?

As a guy, I would have liked my number to be higher. But eh. No point living in regret.

Do you judge other people based on how many people they've had sex with or think there's a limit to the amount of sexual partners a person should have?

I'm ashamed to admit it, but I used to. But over the years I've learned that one's sexual behavior/habits/prowess only tells part of a person's story.

As for how many partners a person should have...as many as makes one happy.

Do you perhaps think that sex should be reserved for two people who are in a relationship or do you skulk around dance floors and chip shops at four in the morning desperate to find a decent looking randomer to bring home for the night?

To quote the late great Robin Williams, "Sex should be both recreational and procreational."


By the way, I'm really impressed with how open and candid everyone is on this thread. Could be because I'm currently living in the heart of the American Conservative Bible belt where everyone likes to pretend sex isn't a thing.

 

[A_Parked_Car]

I am a 23 year old virgin. Never even held hands or been kissed. I have never been presented with an opportunity to have sex with someone. I'm not particularly attractive and I don't get out all that much, so it is kind of a combination of not being all that appealing and not having that much exposure to meeting new people. Doesn't help that I'm very introverted and shy, so I find it very difficult to approach people, particularly cute girls.

I'm the kind of person that would only have sex within the confines of a relationship. Having a one-night stand has never appealed to me. For me sex should mean something, it isn't just "another form of entertainment" as other people seem to view it. I don't judge though. I can understand the attraction that some people have for just having sex with a random person one time, it just isn't my thing personally.

 

[idon'tknowaboutthat]

Man it's depressing to read this thread and see how much sex most people here have had. I see some people complaining about how they've only had 2 or 3 partners in their life, I would love to be in their position...

Anyone can guess what's coming next, but I've never had sex, never even kissed someone romantically/sexually, 21 bloody years old. Obviously not by choice, I just had a rough childhood where I never really made friends and it went from there to where I am now. I'm not even a creepy/ugly dude, I'm just not comfortable in most social situations anymore, life just beat the fight out of me I guess.

To answer your other questions, I of course think my number (being 0) is much too low for someone my age, but at the same time I don't really care about how much other people have sex. One of the few friends I have is a fairly promiscuous girl who I don't have interest in and the fact that she gets laid all the time doesn't make me think less of her, more just envy her. People can do whatever they want when it comes to hookups or whatever, doesn't change my life. Hooking up with someone doesn't really interest me at this point, I've waited so long now that the first time absolutely has to mean something to me now, that's been decided.

Do you think your number is too high, too low or completely meaningless?

I'd say that it's too low by a single digit. To put it another way: any amount would be better than zero.

I think the meaning is subjective, but it does speak to how much one is inherently valued by other human beings, even if it were only just one.

As a related aside, I'd be highly, highly surprised if the relative ratio between men and women who haven't had a sexual partner by happenstance (i.e. not for lack of trying) was anywhere near even.

Pickin' up what you're layin' down.

 

[COMaestro]

I am a heterosexual male and have had sex with only one person. If we count other sexual contact that number climbs to two. Both times were in a committed relationship, although my first relationship only lasted a couple of months.

I don't judge others by how many partners they have had, though I must admit I feel a little overwhelmed at seeing the numbers some people are reporting here. Again, nothing wrong with it, whatever two (or more) people consent to do is none of my business.

The same way, I don't judge people who have one-night stands, although personally I don't think I could ever be that casual about sex. I feel a greater level of trust would be needed by me in order to do anything sexual with someone. As far as my circle of friends, none of us felt that casual about sex either, nor would we have wanted to jeopardize our friendships by adding sex into the mix. The only person I might have considered having a one-night stand with would have been my ex when we were still hanging out with each other, but that never happened, though at the time I really wanted it to.

EDIT: Oh yeah, I'm 36 years old.